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Question

I'm going to be in grade 11 right now. 5 years ago, someone started bullying me. I didn't have the nerve to tell an authority about this until last year. Ever since, he hasn't bullied me. He sometimes would still look like way and give me dirty looks but I just try and laugh it off. But I can't stop thinking that he'll do something to me. I constantly live in fear of this person. I am very scarred by the past years of bullying. One minute I'm thinking everything is going to be fine and everything is all good, and the next I'm freaking out and having panic attacks.

I went to different therapists but none of them worked. The meds didn't work too.

I really don't know what to do!!I have 2 more years of school left with him. How do I survive the last 2 years!

Anyone who has been through simular situation, PLEASE ANSWER!

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thank u in advance

Answer 1

I know from experience that it is alot easier getting up from an a*s whoopin than it is looking in the mirror after running scared. stand up for yourself and fight like a man, and I don't mean that in an a*shole way, all those meds and hospital visits should have been spent with some dumbells, Id be willing to bet that if you stood up and refused to take anymore sh*t and threwdown like a madman then you'll get left alone, or at the least you'll feel alot tougher from bustin your fight cherry, I truly hope you think about what I've said, lifes scary enough without having to be afraid of people made from the same stuff you are.

we all bruise and bleed the same, some just know how to ACT tougher than others.

Answer 2

I feel your anxiety!  Please take just a simple pepper spray with you.  You can buy the kind that clips on your keychain.  I am assuming this would not be against your school policy (perhaps you should check first).  

I don't know if you are male or female and it doesn't matter.  Take a karate class so you willl always be prepared to defend yourself regardless of where or the situation.

Most of all, do not let anyone know you are afraid because that will lead them to think they can get the best of you.  Do not heistate to seek help for the school administrators, police or therapists.

Answer 3

I have gone through this also. I tried changing classes, lockers, friends, all to avoid the bully. Nothing stopped the fear, the bully stopped but just all the past I couldn't let go of. What finally helped was I took the fear to the Lord. I started a church and fellowship of friends that would never allow some one to hurt me. You have to let go of your fear, I then went right up to my bully and told them that I forgave them for the past and I was not mad at them anymore. ( I was trerrified but I didn't show it) Then the best thing I did was, when I started thinking about what could happen I made a effort to redirect my thoughts, to sports or an other activity that took all my brain. Over a few months this helped and I do not live in fear of this bully , NOW spiders that is different. Good luck and trust in the one that can save the body and soul.

Answer 4

I've been in the same situation both in home and school! I know how it feels, and have some idea how to deal with it. i care and I'm really trying to help you here!

I know it's hard to deal with such situations in this age! especially when it has started long ago when u were so young, so you're kinda stuck to it. your afraid to react and are keeping the old habits to deal with it but they aren't really working. so you need to change your way and face it like a man. you've got to get in the act and do what you need to do! just face your fear and see how small it was. be yourself and say what you have to say. don't be afraid he can't do anything!

now that I'm older when i look back i see it was easier to deal with such situations if you use your mind, be brave, respect yourself and give yourself the right to defend yourself!

see the fact that he is the one that is acting wrong and stupid, not you. you wouldn't believe but he is more nervous and anxious than you are. he feels weak, useless and insecure. so he tries to humiliate others to make his *** feel better and bigger. now that you let the authority know about him and he can't keep bullying you, he's mad and pissed off, in a desperate try to annoy you however he can. he's trying to do the same thing but in a quiet way so no one can see his cruelty and stupidity. maybe some idiots around him like what he does but the fact is its just a childish and ugly way to treat others. if others see what he does they r gonna hate him or laugh at him. so you've got to let others see it. make others notice it. make him do it laud so everyone see it. turn his behavior back to himself and put him in a situation that he has to excuse himself in front of others. use your mind and find a way.

like when hes giving u a dirty look, just stop in front of him turn your face,look in his eyes and say "what?" or ask "do you have a problem?" without being rude, showing any stress or looking for a fight! keep a calm confident smile in your face like "WTF?!!!" like you just noticed him. and show him you can stand in front of him and react. just use your brain. be brave to do the right thing in the right time! nothing so bad would happen after don't worry.

if u say it laud and in the right moment maybe u take the attention of others so everyone might turn to see what's going on. he might reply like "what?" u can continue "you always give me a dirty look. what's your problem man?" "are you sick or pissed off or what?" "why don't you go show yourself to a doctor?!!!" be creative and use your own mind. be brave to do the right thing in the right time and face what comes next. don't hold back keep arguing till his undone and disarmed. be a bit bad *** sometimes its fun! ;)

such kind of stuff helped me i hope you can help yourself with that!

Answer 5

  Do not let him get the best of you. This always worked for me .It takes more of a man to walk away from a fight than a bully.Use your brain,and put himdown with words.Your friends will get a good laugh.

Good luch

Answer 6

Take ju-jitsu or another defensive martial art. Don't brag about it, just do it quietly.

Knowing you can beat the c**p out of the bully should make you feel more secure.