I REALLY hate my dad? I need help please?

Question

My dad has turned into a person I seriously hate. He shouts at me constantly, and doesn't seem to love me anymore. Plus the fact, he gets drunk every friday or so and embarasses me and my mom, by acting like a terror and sometimes being aggressive and acting an idiot. Like, today he picks me up for gymnastics. And I say one more run, and he just leaves. Then I go outside the gym and he's talking on the phone for work.(which he does constantly). He's having this long conversation and I'm like "Dad, come on " "You have me waiting, your loud, get in the car." Then he tells his colleague "Hey love you, girlfriend." And gets in the car. As soon as he gets in, he shouts at me and then snatches my phone out of my hand. And starts screaming at me about how I'm disrespectful. Things like this happen everyday. My dad always criticizes me about my looks, my attitude, and never has said "I love you" for ages. Really, I'm seriously scared to even talk to him, beause he gets physcially really mad. Lately, I keep away from him at home. As soon as I hear the garage door when he gets home, I run up to my room and close the door. I can't even eat dinner with him without being scared. The problem is I still need him to drive me home from gymnastics. Should I apologize and try to avoid him. What do I do?

Answer 1

Could he possibly have another woman by that 'Hey love you, girlfriend"?

Maybe he's just stressed, but he has no right to hurt you emotionally. You should talk to your mum or counsellor, cause his actions are not on. He's abusing you mentally. Good luck

Answer 2

        First of all let me say that I am so sorry that your father treats you like that. Many girls have to deal with fathers who have a temper issue, like yours.

       About what you were saying about when you told him to get in the car I have the tendency to do that with my mom and it is disrespectful to them. It's like you're acting like the authority and they are just children. When he yelled at you for being disrepectful I think that was definitely over the top. He could have been nicer and he chose to be harsh.

      Unfortunately your dad is the way he is and you can't change that. One thing you can do is talk to your mother about how you feel and see if she can talk to him about his drinking problem and his temper. He drinks because he is under a lot of pressure and feels alcohol is the only way to "loosen up." Maybe if you could get him to go to a clini or something you could fix that and i bet that would help. I think he's just under a lot of stress, and that's why he yells so much. My dad gets cranky under stress as well. Maybe suggest that instead of getting drunk on Friday nights that you and your family should watch a movie. He can fall asleep during it and just relax. Lol.

        I think you should apologize for being controlling with him and tell him that you don't like it when he yells at you. I know that he's scary but he doesn't mean it. Have you ever heard the phrase "I'm carrying the world on my shoulders?" Yes, that's what he's doing right now and i think he just needs help. If you could reach out to him, I understand you're afraid of him, and just try to also get him to talk out what's going on with work.Maybe he's being yelled at himself.

       My advice would be to stay away from him when you can sense he is angry and he is going to explode. Tell him, calmly, to "please" not take his anger out on you. Also, once you're finished with that I would ask your mom or one of your friends if they could pick you up from gymnastics. That way you wouldn't have to be around him and he could get his work done.

I hope this helps. Good luck! (:

Answer 3

Shawty please stop. This girl has a serious problem that needs to be delt with and you are just making it worse.

Ok. Talk to your mom. She probably knows best, and if you need to, carpool with a friend from gymnastics to get home until things get better.

Answer 4

How old are you? And is he physically abusive towards you, or your mom?