I Really Hate My Dad? Please Its Important!?

Question

First of All, He Gets So Mad, When We Just Play Video Games, TV, Movies, Music, PC, and Etc After I Have Finished Working or My Homework. He Always Wants Me To Be Doing Something, My Brothers and Sisters and Even My Mom Hates Him, Because He Never Takes Us No Where, He Works, Then He Comes and My Mom Serves Food, and He Still Works At Home Instead of Eating, Then He Gets Mad Because The Food Is Cold, My Mom Cooks For Him And He Still Doesn't Appreciate It, We Also Think That He Has Another Family, Because He Is Always Away Until Min Night, He Gets Mad When We Ask Him, We Also Here Kid Sounds When We Speak To Him On The Phone. I Mean I Just Totally Hate My Father. I Get Straight A+ At School, and Still Gets Mad Because I Just Enjoy and Relax At Home, I Got So Mad I Even Fought With Him Physically, Not Verbally Physically. Yes I Can't Believe It, But Now I Have Not Spoke To Him For 3 Weeks, and He Just Wants Attention, He Thinks That When Your a Baby, Your All Grown Up, He Expects My Sister Which She Is 9 Months To Clean The House and Serve Him Food, Wtf! Whats Wrong With Him? What Do I Do? I Was Planning To Leave at the age of 20 with my brother, at that time he would be 18, and we would live together for a few years to be away from him, and later on split away and live on our own lives. Im Still Going To Talk To My Mom, She Is Awesome, But My Dad Is A A**Hole! Please Help Me Thank You!

Answer 1

i'm wondering why your mom isn't doing anything, shes just standing aside while all this is happening. if i were her i would take the kids and just leave. hes taking you guys for granted. i wouldn't speak to him either, but i wouldn't hate him. talk to you mom about it and see what she has to say.

Answer 2

OMG i feel bad for you dude what a terrible dad you have that is so low at his ranking and when he is gone look thrue the phone book or his adress book (if he has got one) to see if any #'s are circled that look like they are important.They might be his other family and you could call them and tell them about him.If your mom is up for it tell her to get a divorce and move on you guys dont need to be treated like that and i am so sorry for you i'm in the 7th grade and some peeps in my family have the same prob but a little less worse and severe dont worry just try to stay on his good side and think positive.  

Answer 3

Your mom needs to have the courage to have an honest conversation with your Dad and find out about the other family.  If he is leading a double life, he needs to decide which family he wants to live with.  Then, he needs to leave the other family while still financially supporting them.  Your mom may need to get legal help to make sure that your Dad supports all of you until you turn eighteen.  

If it turns out that your Dad does not have another family and he is just an angry, controlling a**hole, your mom needs to make it clear to him that he needs to get some anger management counseling or he needs to leave.  Don't abandon your Mom.  It sounds like your family is great without your Dad.  He's the one who needs to leave so you can all feel that home is your sanctuary where you can relax.  You might want to do a search on narcissistic personality disorder to better understand what your Dad is and the probability that he will never change.

The best you can do until he is out of the picture is to not react to him when he emotionally baits you.  This is how he makes himself the center of attention and how he controls all of you.  Ignore him as much as possible, continue to study hard and get good grades, encourage you brother to do the same, nurture and love your little sister, and hopefully, you will all come out of this a happy family, minus the rageaholic Dad.

Answer 4

Kiss *** until you can get out of there. I've been in an extremely similar environment like you. I've been abused, lied to, neglected. All you can really do is watch out for yourself, build your future, watch out for your sis until you can get the h**l out of there. If you protest, you'll make things worse... Been there done that. Get a job, save money, and once you turn that beautiful one eight, get out of there and take your sister with you. I wish you the best.