I WANT A BABY BUT i'M 14!?

Question

I'm desperate for a baby, i have a great boyfriend. I have talked to him abput it and he said we could try if i wanted to :)

But im only 14..

But I Am Soooo Desperate To Have One!

I'm Scared People Will Think I'ma Slag And All That **** :S

Help :)

Answer 1

As a future parent, your job right now is to continue your education, so that your children can have a stable environment.  Think of it as pre-conception parenting.  I'm sure you'll be a great mom someday, but please, don't try now!

<3 Kelsey

Answer 2

You're waaaay to young. A baby with a 14 year old mother is not really so great. Not a great life for the child. At 14, you also don't know love. You're in lust. You and your boyfriend probably won't be together forever like you currently think. You have PLENTY of time to have a child, and I mean PLENTY. Finish your education and make sure you have a good stable home and job behind you before trying for a child. It'll be the best decision.

Answer 3

Don't do it.

You need to look inward and figure out why you're so desperate for a baby right now.  I think you need to work on yourself, your education, your goals, your dreams.

If you have a baby right now, you are going to lose out on SOOOOO MUCH!  I had my first babies (twins for my first) at 27 and I am so glad that I got the opportunity to be a teenager, be a 21 year old, have NO responsibilities, save money, and provide an excellent life for myself and my kids.

Please, don't have a baby for you.  Wait.  Wait for your sake, wait for the child's sake.

If you ever want to talk, send me an email.  [e-mail].

I think I can give you some wisdom that your parents may not be giving you.

Answer 4

please for the sake of any children you have do not try and have a baby now. do you not realise that s*x is illegal in any country in the world at 14 for a good reason..... because there is no chance in h**l that you could manage a baby. where is it going to sleep, how will you finish school , do you have any money(not pocket money serious money babies cost a fortune), your b/f will leave you when he gets bored or meets a new girl, your parents will kill you,  you will have no teenage life because you child will have to come first, your baby will need feeding every couple of hours day and night!

i suggest baby sitting a new born for a day and a night . you will see how much work they really are.

Answer 5

do you have your own place to live ( not with family or friends)?

do oyu have a full time job that will pay the bills put food in your mouth and food in your childs mouth?

are you ready to give up going out with your friends and having your own life and completly dedicate your whole life to a helpless infant?

at 14 you shouldnt be having s*x let alone having a child you are still a child .

dont ruin your life hun take it from a person who was raised by a mother who had 3 before she was 18 your child will resent the fact that u didnt make ur life the best it could be for yourself and for them.

seriously get a puppy and be the sole care giver to it for 5 years  make sure it gets feed from ur own money gets walked every 3 hours by you and get regular vet visits from ur own money after 5 years if u do perfect then wait another 5 years and make ur self a baby with your husband

Answer 6

Help with what?

You're 14. You're too young. End of story.

Tell me how you and your "great" boyfriend are going to support a baby? I'm sure you don't have a stable enough job, medical insurance, or even a place of your own. Do you? I didn't think so. Babysit until you're old enough and MATURE enough to bring a baby into this world.

Answer 7

lolololol.

14? are you serious?

stop trying to grow up so fast and live with the age that you are.

Finish school, if you actually have that baby you'll be screwed. (no pun intended)

Answer 8

Try getting a puppy instead for right now. Having a baby is tough work, and its more than just the cute little baby. What does your mother thinkabout this? If you cant tell your mother about these thoughts, how are you going to tell her when you do become pregnant. Do you have a job? Your own house? Are you graduated? Are you married?

If you want to be close to babies, go babysit, it would earn you money and you can be around kids!

Answer 9

I don't you would want to go through the process of pregnancy, labor, and birth, let alone the process of raising a kid. You're too young and naturally immature (you're brain is developing.) Wait until you are at least done with high school. Imagine if you had the kid and when you turned 16 you decided that having a baby wasn't what you really wanted? Too bad, you still have to take care of it. Enjoy your youth, parenting and babies is supposed to come later on.

Answer 10

I am gonna be straight up blunt with you. DO NOT do it. First of all, you are not even old enough to get a job to pay for the things your baby will need. I am sure your parents do not want to raise their grandchild. You are really still a kid yourself, I do not care how grown up you THINK you are... I am 26 and raising a baby is the hardest thing ever. You are probably not emotionally ready to raise one. You might want to think twice. Babies are not all fun and games, and dressing up like dolls. Are you ready to be up all night with a crying sick baby? Mine did not even sleep through the night until she was 4 months old. You should enjoy your teen years and not even be thinking about a baby. Oh yah, your boyfriend might say that he wants one and that he will help, but when it comes right down to it, he might be like "see ya" and then what would you do??? On the other end... my mom had me at 17 and said I was the best thing that ever happened to her.

Answer 11

Babies are cute, but they are a LOT of work. I was 25 when I had my first, and felt like I had just reached an emotional level where I could properly care for him. When there's a baby inconsolably at 3 am and you don't know what to do to make them stop crying, you will feel differently about. Please consider this HUGE decision carefully.

Answer 12

been a mommy is a lot of joy, but also it is very hard!!! I remember when I was very sick and could not even stay on my feet and I was home alone, with a little baby.....I cried and wished my mom would be there. No matter how U feel -U always gona have to be there for your baby. And thats not always easy when U 25years old....it is gona be much harder when U 14 !!!

Answer 13

ur not ready for one nor are u ready for the care involved. Honestly don't do it. you do it, that's ur first sign of irresponsibility...you want one for the love of it, get a kitten or a puppy, sumthing that'll substitute the feeling. hun, it aint worth it now u can wait.

Answer 14

You don't want a baby at 14. Please believe me. You have plenty of time to grow up and have a baby later in your life. I was 30 when I had my first baby and I wasn't prepared for the work a newborn takes! You truly have no idea until you have a baby. If it's hard for a 30-year-old, think how tough it would be for someone who is only 14! Please don't get pregnant at 14.

Answer 15

Do yourself a favor, watch that show called baby barrowers that starts wednesday night.... then get a full time job and a puppy.... and have your boyfriend cheat on you so you will know when it will feel like when he find out you are pregnant.... then go tell your parents you are trying to have a baby and see what they think ..... oh and then realize your 14 and inmature

Answer 16

Sweetie, being DESPERATE about anything means you aren't mature enough.  Mature adults, parents, are not desparate.

Get a dog and see how difficult it is to take care of them.  Vet bills, taking walks every day, food bills, training.  Then multiply that responsibility by about 1000 and that is somewhat how it will be to have a baby.

Answer 17

I don't think its very uncommon for 14-year-olds to want babies. You're not the only one I've heard of, but just because you want one doesn't mean you should have one.

Go babysitting, or offer to help with family or friends' kids. Maybe you can volunteer to help with kids on a holiday playscheme over the summer.

I love looking after other people's kids sometimes, but I'm not ready to be a mom. There's a massive difference between the two.

Answer 18

Sweety what you need to do is go and see if you can try adn volunteer this summer at somekind of church or nursery or daycare or hospital where you will be around babies alot...then once you do that for the summer I am sure to you that you will want to wait for it. You are a child and have no real job, how are you gonna support it..does your bf have a good job will he be able to provide shelter, food, clothes, utilities for all three of you now? I am 25 and I am pregnant with my first child, still thought I wasnt ready..anyways I help raise my lil bro and three sisters growing up..it was an experience let me tell you which it wasnt that bad because of course I had my mom to be the mom, but when you have your own, you are the mom there isnt anyone else that you can just leave it up to or drop the baby on someone else..cause you are it sweety...long sleepless nights getting up, breastfeeding, its more work than I think you know. Are you an only child? Try helping an aunt out this summer and try to take on full responcibilities for her...if you have to spend the night so be it..do anything you can to be in that atmosphere for a lil while and see what you think then. Plus you will want to be free when you turn 18 and your an adult to go out and have fun with friends, you dont wanna have to worry about getting a babysitter or what if your single and cant afford to go out anymore. Just think about it.

Answer 19

You are so young, Having a baby is REALLLLLLLLLLLLY hard work.  Babies are by nature needy, selfish, hungry & poopie.  They are also delicate & need for the person who is caring for them to give 1,000,000 % of them selves.  Why don't you babysit & learn what a baby needs so that when you are OLDER you can be an excellent mother.  Take that passion that you have for children & decide to be a Teacher or Social Worker, a Foster Mom/Bio Mom so that you can make a diffenence in MANY childrens lives.  Don't make the mistake while you have so little options when you are older you can do it better & make wiser decisions for your self & your baby.  Your boyfriend will just chicken out there are very few boys who really stick it you. You will be left without a partner & your baby will be with out a father.  

Babies don't love, or give love they just want to be fed, changed, & sleep.

Answer 20

14 is not old enough,you really really need to think about this.if you want whats best  for your children ,then 1st you need to finish school,and both get jobs and set up a safe home for your family. You have plenty of time,plus think of the heart ache you will cause your family.

Answer 21

you didn't say if your STILL in school.If so they must OR should have one of those "living with baby" classes(where YOU bring the doll baby with YOU),EVERYWHERE YOU GO FOR 4-6 WEEKS.THEN AND ONLY THEN CAN YOU SAY "OH I WANT A BABY".P.S. your BOYFRIEND(???)SEEMS LIKE A IDIOT-----KEY WORDS-----"WE COULD TRY IT IF YOU WANTED TO"and what happens if he "SAYS --SOLONGGGGG BEEN NICE TO KNOW YOU!!!! IT AIN'T A GAME YOUR PLAYING---SMARTEN-UP

Answer 22

are you serious?  You have zero idea how much work and effort you would need to take care of that baby.  Ask your parents to get you a puppy first and try to take care of that.  Babies are a ton of money and time.  You'll have zero life and your bf most likely wont be with you in 3 months.  Talk to a counselor about this problem of yous and just enjoy being a kid yourself.

Answer 23

Girl you need to wait til your older. I was 16 and it was soooo hard. it sounds easy but thats so far from the truth. there are midnight feedings and crying and diaper changing. You can't just go wherever you want whenever you want. Your friends aren't gonna want to hang out with a friend thats limited to doing not much. they are expensive to take care of, very expensive. Are you going to drop out of school? whos going to watch your baby? is your boyfriend ready to work 2 jobs to take care of a baby and a house? Are you ready to devote your whole entire life, every second to that baby? You can't even drive yet to go to the doctors and stuff. You are way too young. Im sure your parents don't want to take care of another baby. You won't come first anymore,ever. What if you get a colicky baby that cries half the day, are  you ready for that?  Do your homework and look at the consequences. You should wait. It was very hard for me. I  finished school and worked. and Ive been working 2 jobs for 10 yrs til I got a chance to go to college. Please reconsider til your older. maybe you should start a babysitting job for awhile, you'll see how hard it is.

Answer 24

Puppies are alot different then babies! Getting a puppy is a lot easier than a baby. I suggest finding someone who will let you watch their baby for 24 hours and see how you feel after that. Babies are alot of hard work and take up alot of money. How are you going to take care of the baby, when not many places hire at 14 and if they do its minimum wage.

Answer 25

I would wait until you are financialy secure and more mature.

You have your teen years ahead of you and you're gunna want to party and go hang out with your friends and you won't be able to.

Answer 26

Ok I'm sure you've heard this before but you are still a baby yourself when it comes to this.....you need to just enjoy being 14 and stop thinking about having babies.....you have your whole life ahead of you dear.....there is plenty of time in your future to become a parent....with someone you truely love and who will be there with you through everything.....talk to your parents about maybe getting a kitten or a puppy....believe it or not it will help show you what type of time and patience and the commitment involved in taking care of another living being.....please talk to your parents about your thoughts....I had my first child at 19 and though I love him with all my heart I know I missed out on a lot of things because of it......live your own life awhile hun before you bring another you're responsible for into the world.

Answer 27

hunny, i understand how you feel but ,14, is soooo young, you may not think that way now but when you get older you will. i had my first at 17 and it was really tough, it's allot more responsibility than you might think. i love my kids with all my heart but, i would have waited till, i had a good job and i was out of colledge now that i look back. finishing highschool was really hard, and most people can't do that even.(and it's really tough to get a good job without a diploma.) there's allot more to consider than just they're so cute, i want one. and your boyfriend may be great but, he probably doesn't realize what that really means for him.  even for settled married couples kid issues is one of the leading reasons for divorce. he may not want to change diapers at 4 in the morning. or clean up puke or p**p all the time.

Answer 28

Your baby would not even stand a chance at a normal life.  I mean come on!  I know you think you're probably mature enough but you're not.  No offense, but at 14 you would make a horrible mother.  With a baby, you won't be able to finish school and then how are you going to get a good job to support it later in life?  And don't say that you could just dump the kid on someone else while you go to school because that just proves how much of a bad mother you would be.  If you really want a baby, you would have to be willing to drop EVERYTHING!  School, friends, hobbies, any social life you had because babies require 24/7 attention.  And you're right, people will think badly of you.  And when your stomach gets big and everyone is talking about you behind your back, there won't be anything you can do to reverse it.

I honestly think this question is a joke but still, this is a good lesson for all young teens to learn.

Answer 29

well with that kind of talk it shows how your not ready for a baby 14 your only a child yourself go out and have a life your b/f might be great now but trust me when a baby comes along there not all that.

Answer 30

Please, please, please, don't try to have a baby! You boyfriend is only saying that to get you in bed. I had my oldest at 17, and trust me, it was no walk in the park. If you want something to love you unconditionally, get a puppy.

Answer 31

Having a baby changes your life completely!  No more going out with friends.  No more talking on the phone when ever you want.  No more playing on the computer.  No more alone time with your great boyfriend.  Not to mention how your relationship with your boyfriend will change.  Are you ready for sleepless nights, poopy diapers and the crying?

You are young and haven't even begun to live your life.  I suggest you get a puppy first.  See how you like getting up at all hours of the night to take him out, the crying when you have to kennel him, making sure he has enough food, water, all his shots, toys, and a safe place to play.  If you can handle a puppy for two years and that great boyfriend of you yours is still around...Well then I suggest you get another PUPPY!  

You are young- don't have a baby till you are like 25!