I WAS SUPPOSED to be going on my holiday?

Question

Ok im 12 years old

my mum and dad are divorced they split up ages ago when i was about 5 and i love my dad and my mum but a year ago my mum and dad got divorced so i was a bit upset. Now i aint really rich i mean my mum coz shes a single parent could never aford to go abroad and my dad was the man with the money but he never gave my mum any money for me so what we did was my mum saved up for years so we could go to alghero in italy and my dad invited himself along that fine everyone was happy but then my mum and dad fell out and now were not going at all. I was supposed to be going this thursday not happening now. IM SO UPSET!! what can i do i mean i REALLYYYY want to go but my mum doesnt want to go cause he is so she said i could go with him but he doesnt want to go now and me and my bro doo helppppppppppppp

Answer 1

So this happens all the time see if mum will take you away later in the year. It was stupid to boo a holiday together when they dont get on it was bound to all end in tears

Answer 2

Tell your parents to get over themselves and stop messing you and your brother around.  Can they not bite their tongues for a week?  If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen so all you can do is not let your hopes get built up again until you've arrived there.

Answer 3

tell your mum and dad how it is in ur eyes dont be rude just tell em its not fair on u or ur brother..they got to go grow up and stop acting like kids :) hope u get ur holiday

Answer 4

Thanks you've cheered me up no end. lol.

Answer 5

tell them that they are the adults and they shouldnt be having this little dispute as its no good for anyone. If its means your mum and dad have to stay in seperate hotels you should all go and forget about anything that has happened as thats what holidays are for!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I hate to say it but it sounds like your mum could go still go if she wanted but she is choosing not to and now your are feeling like you will be betraying her if you go on 'her' holiday with your Dad, who invited himself.  You have a couple of options.  1) show her the message you have written here so she can see how you feel. 2) ask you dad not to go (and therefore upsetting him - although as he doesn't pay maintenance it must upset you mum) or just get them in a room together and ask them to sort it out or it will hurt you and your bro too much and you won't be able to enjoy yourself.  I hope it works out for you.