I Wanna Have A Baby.. But..

Question

Ok! I really want to have a baby. I am 21, have a great job, my own place and an amazing boyfriend... but I am terrified.. I have had 2 miscarriages (1 @ 17 & 1 @ 20)... I'm scared to have another one. Anyone have an ideas or whatever on how to get the thought OUT of my mind.. or ways to make sure I don't (maybe diet..) I have no idea. Any help would be great.. Thanks :)

Answer 1

I aggree w/ lola.. Im 22 settled and happy w/ my b/f of 4 years. we both have great jobs and a house. Were just ready for a baby. I want to be a younger mother.. Im not 16 I dont understand why ppl think that being in your 20s is too young. Back in the day you had 3 kids by the time your 20! I know what your going though.. I have been TTC for some time now. w/ no luck but it will happen when its time. We have desided to wait until after were married to go to a dr. if nothing has happend. we plan on getting married in the next year or two.. were both in no big hurry. I had a stomach problem for a few months too... after 3 months of telling me that they didnt know. it turned out that it was ulsers.. even after having several tests done.. things are better now. but I hope that they find out whats wrong w/ you! I wish you the best of luck!!!  

Answer 2

JUST PRAY REALLY HARD ABOUT IT...

AND I KNOW EVERYTHING WILL BE OK..

TONS OF BABY DUST TO YOU

Answer 3

You sound like you have a good life right now. You have plenty of time though and should probably wait until you are more settled. I would wait and get married, enjoy your spouse for a while and then maybe start trying to conceive after some discussions with your OBGYN.

Answer 4

Babysit a bunch - overnight if possible.  That should get you out of wanting one. Sounds like you have a good life right now, so enjoy it while you are young - there is plenty of time for a baby.  

Answer 5

you are only 21,  relax enjoy your life , trust me babies are alot of work both mentally, emotionally  no matter if your single parent or with someone - I would talk to your OB and get healthy first - and then you and your partner talk it over and decide from there.  

Answer 6

your stomach prob could be gall bladder it took them 4 years to find out that it wasn't working at all but talk to your doctor and see if there is anything that she could do to help you not have a miscarriage some times they monitor you closer if you have had a misscariage so just try to imagine your soon to be beautiful baby and pray that it will be ok

Answer 7

i think its a little unfair of people telling you not to bother and to wait, yes you do have a great life and i am in the same situation as u(not physically) im nearlly 21 and i too have my own house and amazing bf, and i know now is the right time for a baby.

i think all this worrying about m.carriage cant be helping. the best thing to do is discuss with your midwife all your problems and they should help you through the pregnancy and give you extra support and scans.

the only way to ever have a baby is to try, and i know its going to be difficult, and you will worry, but just think for all the time you will spend worrying how great it will be when you hold your healthy baby.

no one can ever guarentee anything but i wish you all the best, and iv heard folic acid is good for women ttc and early pregancy.

good luck hunni

xxxxxxx

Answer 8

Relax and take good care of yourself now. It is a good idea to start taking prenatal vitamins while you are ttc. I'm sure you will be fine. Good luck and baby dust.