I accidentally narked on my hubbie's best friend, was i wrong?

Question

i didn't know his wife had no clue that he quit his job, and asked her about it. She started crying and asked me questions, I told her I may be wrong, but that I was told that. She told me that he had also been cheating on her and she has the proof.

My husband apperantly knew about the cheating and everything, and even though I was only the messenger my husband is pissed! what can i do to help my situation, and am I wrong?

Answer 1

No one told you not to say anything - so its not your fault. don't stress it will blow over.  

Answer 2

No, you were not wrong. If Hubby didn't fill you in to what was happening, and that his best friend hadn't told his wife about the job loss, how were you supposed to know that she didn't?

My concern would be that Hubby thinks its perfectly acceptable to have a best friend who he knew was cheating on his wife, and that it was acceptable to hide that fact from YOU, and the best mate's wife. That doesn't bode well if you two have any problems. It means that he does condone cheating, in some form. Worth asking him about, isn't it?

Answer 3

No your not wrong. It's not your fault at all because you probably thought that she had already known. Your husband and his best friend are the ones who are at fault here, not you. So just let him be and ignore him. You can just tell him that you didn't think that she didn't know about it and that he shouldn't be blaming you for anything.

Answer 4

no both of you should stay out, and it was an honest mistace, it ws the truth and he obviously is no good for her

your husband should be mad on his friend for treating her badly

Answer 5

First off if you had no idea what that the wife did not know about him quitting his job and your husband did not tell you that.  I would wonder what my own husband was hiding from me...  

Anytime someone is cheating the other partner has the right to know.  Being put into a possition like that I am not sure I would every be brave enough to be the one to tell but I do believe it is the ultimate betrayal...  

I don't think you was wrong it was a honest mistake if you husband did not want her to know they he should have told you she did not know so you would know to keep your mouth shut...

Answer 6

Hey, it was just a slip of the tongue.  I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to accuse you of being human.

Answer 7

I think you are in the right here.  I am sure your husband wanted to protect his friend, but his friend is a creep.  His wife deserves to know about all of this.  Besides, you didn't do it on purpose and no one told you it was some big secret.  It was a mistake...one that needed to be done.

Answer 8

u shouldnt have been asking her such a nosy question!! next time, myob

Answer 9

the only thing you have to ask yourself is this....

put yourself into her shoes. would you want her to tell you?

i know i would want to know.

tell ur husband to relax, and be glad that you LET him be friends with such a lieing pig. (bc you are the company you keep.....)

Answer 10

lol, no your husband should have been smart enough to know that women tell each other everything even their husbands pillow talk.  It's his own fault he told you.

It will blow over don't worry bout it, and you didn't do anything wrong, after all they didnt tell you that she didn't know, it would only be natural to assume that his wife knew.. lol too funny.