I accidentally sent an e-mail intended for my ex-girlfriend to my live-in ex-wife. Should I fess up?

Question

My ex-wife moved back in with the kids and me earlier this summer, and we're back to living together as a married couple. For all intents and purposes, I refer to her as my wife, though our relationship is strained at times, and could end at any moment again because she's really not acting as honest as I would like. Besides, she's carrying a fetus that's probably not mine.

In any case, I was a bit tired and distracted the other night and was going to e-mail my recent ex-girlfriend, Krystka, who now lives in Poland, and tell her that she's "looking good on ur web page xoxo :-)" in her new Myspace pic but instead accidentally sent it to Claire, my wife. I had two e-mail windows open at the same time.

My wife is running a campaign for elective office and just launched her web site, I hear, but I haven't visited it yet.

To my astonishment, I got a reply back a minute later and realized my mistake. It was Claire. "Thanks," she wrote, from her laptop upstairs. "You haven't told me that in I can't remember how long. So you want to come up and do me? :-o"

So I went upstairs and Claire was quite responsive and a bit more passionate than usual. I mean, she was somewhat warmer than a cold, dead fish.

Meanwhile, I guess Krystka got an e-mail with a list of items I need from Office Depot, where my wife is heading to in the morning. I wonder how Krystka will respond to that?

Should I confess to my wife that I e-mailed her in error?

Answer 1

Don't say a word.  Your OPS actually worked in your favor.  Learn from that and keep sending her sweet nothings in e-mail and it will keep putting a smile on her face.  Things will start to get better with your wife.  

Answer 2

NO!  Do not tell her!

Answer 3

i don't believe u be stupid enough to confess that to her !

although she received those by mistake, but i am sure u enjoy what she does with u after that right?

what is done cannot be undone, furthermore she love what u sent !

why give yourself unnecessary trouble?

as for your girlfriend, just tell her what happened..(omit the part that u went up stair ) i am sure she will laugh it off.

Answer 4

i wouldn't

Answer 5

You should be honest with your wife. Honesty is the best policy.

Also, why did you refer to your wife's pregnancy as a fetus? Its a baby, and for all you know, it could be yours. Have you ever watched "Maury"? You have no way of knowing unless you have had a paternity test.

Answer 6

holly crud u are on level 5 on your account! Thats good keep it up and dont let the trolls take it!

Answer 7

Umm yeah, in your dreams, mate.

>.<

It's /embarassing/, if that's true, that a 38 year old man is sending those kinds of comments to a 20 year old Polish 'swimming champ'. God's sake, I say that to my /girl/ friends as picture comments. And as for your wife's message, wtf? You seriously lost me there.

But keep the questions coming, they're amusing. ;) xx

Oh, and your question - should you confess that you sent your wife a comment about a picture on her new launched website (what a frickin' coincidence!!)? h**l, no.

Or maybe you should, just to give us the lowdown on more of your maritial 'reality' dramas.

Answer 8

I just want to say that I sooooooooooooo love your stories.

Telling your wife about your mistake would depend on how you see your relationship with her.

If you want to be on the road to rebuild it to somewhat to what it was then you should not tell her.

If you are living together "for the sake of the kids" and in all reality you harbor no intent on rebuilding the relationship on a personal level then go ahead and tell her.

I honestly do not understand what is going on with you two. The marriage sounds waaaaaaaay too complicated and with not so much love as putting-up-with.

Why are you guys even living together?

Why did you send your girlfriend back to Poland if you are still obviously interested in her?

Where is the s*****k that could possibly be the father to her child?

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Answer 9

No, you should absolutely not confess, especially if you are trying to patch things up.  The thing you should be doing is asking yourself if you really want to be with this woman if you are sending your ex messages saying she looks good (and don't think that anyone is believing the tired & bored bit; if I'm not even buying it, then your wife definitely won't).  Seriously, how would you feel if you found messages that your wife wrote to her ex telling him he still looked good.  Probably like an angry piece of ****, and that is how she will feel if you tell her.  

Decide what you want to do, as the old saying goes, **** or get off the pot!

Answer 10

nope not at all...And maybe you should tell your wife more often how good she looks and things just might get better for you....Sometime woman need a little love talking to so they will be in the mood...and Krystka i would not even brother about her she has not responded yet so instead of worry about her keep sending your wife the wrong emails...maybe that is all she needs is to feel loved again...I know it is hard for the past you and her have had, but you love her  or she would not be in your life again!

Answer 11

Do they even have Office Depot in Poland,that's funny,don't tell Claire the e-mail was for Krystka,you got lucky on that one,don't ruin it with the truth,your the only guy I know who can s***w up so bad and still find a way to get laid in the end,its funny,its not right but it is funny,what a life you have,I don't know weather to be jealous or grateful that I'm not you.

Answer 12

LOL! That is so funny that you sent the Office Depot list to Krystka!  Why would you want to tell your wife that she got that e-mail in error when it made her feel so good?  It sounds like she has been waiting to hear some nice words like that from you for a long time. She seems starving for some emotional closeness as well as compliments.  She doesn't seem to be a very happy person and she doesn't sound like she really has that much self esteem, in spite of the public image she portrays. Don't burst her bubble.  It would be unkind and maybe even a little cruel. You know, it is possible to be too honest, and this is one of those times.