I accidently ran over the neighbors cat.In a panic I tossed it in the trash. After two weeks should I fess up?

Question

I accidently ran over the neighbors cat.In a panic I tossed it in the trash. After two weeks should I fess up?

Answer 1

If it was me I wouldn't tell them. Personally if someone ran over my cat I wouldn't want to know about it. I would much rather have peace of mind and hope that someone just picked it up off the road and took it home with them. It's more comforting.

They already lost their cat. There is nothing they can do to get it back. Why make it worse by telling them "Oh btw I accidently smashed kitty to pieces and he died a horrible gruesome death. Sorry. Thought u should know"?

Just leave it and forgive yourself. It was an accident and you feel bad. It happens everyday. Maybe they should have kept their cat indoors if he was so important to them. That way it wouldn't have happened.

Answer 2

your probably feeling guilty and the only way to fix the problem is if you just fess up you'll feel so much better.

maybe buy them something ha ha that sounds horrible but make them feel better about it

good luck!

Answer 3

Yes.  You should have fessed up earlier, but now is better than never.  At least they will have closure.  By the way, it is not really your fault.   I'm not sure if the cat was an indoor cat that got loose or if it is left outside.  If it is left outside, the neighbors should have realized this could have happened.

Answer 4

You should definitely let them know.  This very thing happened to me.  I suspected something had happened and started asking neighbors if they had seen my kitty.  No one initially took ownership of the situation until one neighbor finally told me a week later that another neighbor had put her in the trash - which is actually illegal in the County where I reside.  I would have appreciated knowing sooner.  Although my "kitty sense" was telling me she had passed, I still went to great lenghts of putting an ad in the paper, going to the animal shelter, making fliers, etc.  So...yes, please bring closure to your neighbor's suffering so that he/she can move on.  Even if done anonymously by way of a note, that would be OK.

Answer 5

You should tell them. If you don't want them to know it was you, slip a letter in their mailbox and just don't sign it. Explain what happened and that you are sorry. Mistakes happen, don't beat yourself up, just be more careful in the future, ok? They're probably worried and holding on to the false hope that their cat is coming back. It's better to know the truth, even if it's sad. I look at it this way- if someone killed one of my cats, I'd rather know what happened and deal with my emotions rather than just wonder what happened for the rest of my life. Either way they'll be sad, but if they know the truth they can heal faster.

Answer 6

Woah. Fessing up is waaayy easier said than done.. You should tell them... But that'd be really hard to say to someone.. If your not feeling guilty... Then i guess don't tell them??

Answer 7

Sorry - I disagree with everybody.  Maybe I am a chicken, but if I had done it and not fessed up right away, I would continue to keep my mouth shut.  The neighbours are not your parents or confessor, and will not make the guilt go away - you have to deal with that yourself.  They will always wonder, but I have had had cats disappear and while sad initially, you get over it.  Also, it has been two weeks already.  You didn't do it on purpose, so realistically the only guilt should be that you didn't tell them.  It would only upset them now and damage your relationship, so I would keep quiet and learn from it.  Accidents happen - next time don't panic and fess up right away.