I always feel angry, how can i calm myself down, without having to hit something?

Question

I end up wanting to scream, and sometimes i dont know why and i just cry.. Why?

Answer 1

How do we control our anger? We cannot control how and when we get angry but we can control and choose what we want to do with our anger. If we know that we fly off the handle easily, there are ways that we can do to manage it.  Learn how to manage yr anger:

http://selfempoweredwoman.com/36/why-we-...

Answer 2

Well i have this problem too and it resulted in me seeing a specialist about this and many other problems.

Here are some of the techniques she told me.

1. when feeling angered or upset count to 10 really slowly outloud.

2. buy a punching bag to take your stress out on.

3. write down your feelings of anger into a little book. What made you angry etc.

4. Go for a run or even go for a quiet walk to have some space and time for yourself.

5. Find somthing creative to do... draw, write etc.

if none of these seem to help seek help because your anger problem may harm an innocent person that just caught you on the wrong day.

hope this helped. :)

Answer 3

You should see your doctor first and go from there.   I sincerely hope you will feel "better" in the future.  x

Answer 4

You have to realise in your mind that there is no point to being angry. Think positive, there are millions a lot worse off, perspective is what you need.

Answer 5

ive got the same problem, man  

Answer 6

You know, I took a look at your user name while reading this and I think that your answer is in your name; "Its all Good!".  Anger is something that we all go through and sometimes some of us are worse than others.  

There are several things you can try, one is to count to ten when you are getting mad and it may calm you down a little before you react, another is to take a deep breath and try to calm yourself down.  All these things sound good but I know how hard it can be when the circumstance occurs.  Hitting something isn't all that bad if it helps you just make it soemthing that is soft and cry if you need to.  There is nothing wrong with crying, I know it helps and it is human nature so don't be ashamed.  

If none of this helps you then seek anger management, i'm sure they have better ideas than I do... Good luck...

Answer 7

maybe you should see your doctor you could be a little depressed

Answer 8

I agree. smoke weed

Answer 9

You have a full reservoir of frustrations that need to be released. I would suggest that you see a counselor. Get that %^&$ out of your head, it is killing you. After get into a high energy sport such as TaeKwonDo. Once exhausted, you feels much better and don't care as much about frustrations.

Answer 10

you have unsolved problems.. shutting it inside will do you no good..face your reason of anger with logic and try to talk to someone who cares a bout you..like a Friend

Answer 11

Stress and personal unhappiness causes people (well i know it does me anyway!) to have outbursts

Try doing more things you enjoy, make yourself a happier person, sorry thats not much advice but i can't tell you what to do to make you feel happier as what might make me happy might make you bored out of your mind!

find out what it is that you enjoy donig and do it more, simple things like having a chat with your family about their day, i,e, more interacting these days people shut everyone out and have no time for each other always busy busy doing other things,  

Answer 12

ANGER MANAGEMENT:  If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage and/or frustration. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards.

Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. Let yourself feel the burning energy of that anger, and visualise it, as vividly as possible, as a hot flame cleansing you. It can help to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. "But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you.    

     When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Try saying to yourself, in your mind: "I am fire! I am ice!". Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently. Anger management is addressed in much more detail than can be included here, in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and depression is addressed in section 2: view page R first.

Answer 13

Marijuana.

Answer 14

Poor you. I fully sympathise. You need to see your Doctor so he can ascertain the problem. If you get 'highs' too you could be bipolar. Only he will be able to tell and get you suitable treatment. Try and change the things you dislike in your life if you can, and accept the things you can't change. Talk to a friend - one who makes you feel good or do something physical, like gardening. Or you could go to an Art shop and get a hobby. You can't carry on as you are but the most important thing is self help. Other people can only do so much and the rest is up to you. I really hope you'll be okay.

Answer 15

Try to do a little sport, like running for instance.

Answer 16

Try Anger Management classes! Or if that's Not your thing Get a squishy Toy that you can squeeze and take your anger out On! I used to have a Cow one that I'd take around with me and attack when i felt Mad. I tore it's legs off! =S

But yeh those help.