I am 14 mormon and have found out i am pregnant. My parents don't even know i have a bf. How can i tell th?

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I am a mormon and not supposed to have s*x till i am married. I was with my boyfreind one night and i had no idea what he was doing till it was over, i did nothing to stop him. I just found out i am pregant from an at home test. Only my best freind knows. I do not want to tell my parents i would be in so much truble like grouned for 6 months! I have no idea what to do. I am not ready to have a baby i need help please! Should i see a doctor, get an abortion, but i am not telling my parents!

Answer 1

You are 14.  You've clearly done something that your parents wouldn't have approved of....but they are your parents.  

Either you can tell them now or your growing tummy can tell them in 4 months.  You tell them now and they'll respect you a lot more.  

You're going to need help in many ways.  Financially, rides to the doctor, possibly prescriptions, etc.  

You are on the path to becoming a mother.  Your decisions now CAN jeopardize the life of that dear baby that's inside of you.  You need to eat right and sleep right.  You need to get regular checkups from your doctor.  You need to take prenatal vitamins.  

Here's what you do:

You ask your mom if you can talk to her.  You take the phone off the hook and turn off your cell phones.  Maybe go for a drive.  Tell her that you messed up (you did after all mess up) and that you're scared and don't know what to do.  Tell her you need help.  It won't be easy, however, now more than ever is when you need the support and help of your parents.  

You also call your Bishop, make an appointment with him, and tell him.  You're going to need his help as you go through this as well.  

I would strongly discourage abortion.  Your belief is that you have a life inside of you and that abortion is taking that life away.  I don't know if it's exactly murder, but it's too close to it to be comfortable with it just to do it to smooth things over.  

There are LOTS of great couples who can't have children themselves that hope and pray that the can adopt a sweet baby from someone like you.  Your baby can and will have a great home.  I know some people personally if you want to start looking for families to place him or her with.  

In my opinion, adoption is the best choice for you in this situation.  Mothers who abort have serious feelings of pain and guilt that last their lifetime and may have eternal consequences.  

This is hard no matter how you do it.  Do it the way that is hard, and right, .....and not just hard.  

Answer 2

Convert ot athiesm. Being a mormon carries too many stupid responsibilities.

Answer 3

i am also a mormon and i am 14 years[no joke] old there is two ways out of this 1:You tell your parents.

2: you go to a doctor and tell him/her[they might call them}.

either way its going to stay with you unless youmtake some drastic measures    

Answer 4

Does your boyfriend know that you are pregnant?  If so, is he and you ready to get married?  If so, then do not worry and get married right away before telling them.  If not, then you most def need to tell your parents, I am sure that they will be mad and go crazy but they will help and support you afterwards once the baby is here!

Answer 5

1 You need to tell your parents.  Seriously.  They will be mad and disappointed at first - but hello, they are going to eventually find out!

#2 NO do not have an abortion, but SERIOUSLY consider adoption.

#3 See a doctor.

You are way too young to be having s*x.  How old is your boyfriend?

Answer 6

DONT GO WITH AN ABORTION! Find out if you really are, and then tell your parents. Yes they will be mad at first but they love you and will understand over time. You may want to start considering things like cyber school so you can keep it on the down low. I would say keep your baby though because you would feel guilty about aborting it or putting it up for adoption. You would feel bad for choosing over your babies. If you abort it though you could abort someone who can make the world better, always remember that

Also you would probably need parental consent to get an abortion

Answer 7

u MUST tell your parents, you need sighned things from your parents, your parents approval; yada, yada, yada. u should get an abortion or have the baby adopted. and getting grounded should be not even a worry for now. i feel so bad for you. god bless you.

Answer 8

ohh, wow.. well u should definitely see a doctor u trust and ask her/ him wat should be done, ur probably gunna have to tell ur parents but talk to ur doctor about it because she/ he can help you out.. getting an abortion is just killing it and thats kinda sad but i agree that since your 14 you arent ready, you have to live you life still.. i hope that helped a little but idk how to help w/ that

Answer 9

well obviously your parents are going to find out, so it is pointless to get an abortion if that is the way you're running from them. do not get an abortion because it would be murdering your offspring, as well. don't kill your child because you don't want to get grounded, that is just more stupid than having s*x (and not knowing it) at 14 in the first place.

since you're 14, you should look into adoption if you don't think you can raise it or if your (and his) parents wont support you and your baby.

Answer 10

to the one's hollering about getting married that is so stupid. The baby is not the sin having s*x before marriage is. So you are only decieving yourself when you get married cause there is a baby. Second don't have an abortion what if you mother killed you!!.  Take time to tell them. Don't rush. and stop acting like you are innocent cause you are mormon, you knew what he was doing when he was groping and grinding all on you  

Answer 11

Tell your parents, NOW.

What if you get sick, that could harm the baby, and you.

Even if you dont want to keep it, dont get an abortion.

Help someone else and give it up for adoption.

Or, you could keep it.

But an abortion shouldnt even be thought about.

Dont kill and innocent life,

for one of your mistakes.

If your mature enough to have s*x,

then be mature enough to handle this.

RESPONSIBLY.

Answer 12

First of all, what do you mean you had no idea what he was doing until it was over?! I mean, WTF?!!! Is this for real??? Secondly, you can't not tell your parents. it's gonna be kind of hard to hide the fact that a human being is growing inside of your abdomen. Lol. But seriously, go see a OBGYN first, and find out if you really are pregnant, because those tests are not always accurate. But you will need to see a doctor if you're keeping the baby or not. Just tell your parents. Of course they're going to be upset, but oh well. You have to face the consequences of your actions. I would suggest that you have the baby and give it up for adoption.

Answer 13

Don't do anything foolish or harmful. Please tell your parents. Maybe your friend with sit with you when you tell them. They will still love you.  

Answer 14

If you hope to be an active LDS member as an adult  you cannot get an abortion and must tell your parents, along with the bishop, both for help and to start the repentance process.

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints considers abortion murder, and excommunicates members for having one or paying for someone to have one.  The only exception to this are in cases of rape, incest, and endangerment to the mother (and these are case-by-case, making the decision deep in prayer and w/ the assistance of priesthood leadership).

Answer 15

i know it's gonna be hard but you have to at least tell someone, if you want you can email me at [e-mail] and we can talk so that way you have someone to talk to. God Bless

Answer 16

1. Tell you parents.

You all could go to the doctor and see your options. Your parents being mormon will be against abortion. They will probably have you give the baby up for adotion. Which is a sad case. It could haunt you for the rest of your life. If you were my daughter I would help you through it, and raise the baby.I could never give up my OWN. If you do want not to give it up, fight to keep it.

But thats me. You are still your parents responcibility and they need to care for the baby...IMO...

Good luck, keep your head  up.  K?

(((hugs)))

Answer 17

first of all i really sorry, but you should have to tell your parents. that is the only way.

Answer 18

I was a Mormon girl when I got pregnant as a teen, too.  My parents were sad and angry at first.  Eventually, they came around and helped me raise my son while I finished high school and college.  My son became such a blessing for my family.  

God is merciful and forgiving.  You sinned by having premarital s*x.  But, the baby is not a punishment for that sin.  The baby was God's way of bringing beautiful life and a second chance into your life, which was being destroyed because of sin.

First, you need to talk with God.  Tell Him you know you sinned against Him and accept the grace He offers you through Jesus.  He sent His Son to pay for this sin on the cross because you can't pay for it yourself.  God will forgive you!  

You have been given a second chance.  Use this second chance to build a life you will be proud of.  Tell your parents, get to the doctor, eat right, rest and excercise so you can give your baby a good chance at life.  

You will need to decide between keeping your baby and adoption.  Abortion isn't a good option- many women who abort end up screwed up mentally.  Even if the abortion keeps your parents from finding out, you'll still know and God will, too.  You can have second chances to fix mistakes for most things, but when you abort there is no going back.  You cannot ever bring that baby to life again.  The baby won't be gone- the baby will be dead.

It is very hard to be a single mom- and later when you get married to the right guy, it can be hard to blend families.  I say hard, but not impossible.  It can be done!!!  Adoption is a good choice, too.  A good counselor can help you walk through this decision.

If you insist on aborting, please, please, please get an ultrasound first.  Look at the baby.  You need to know and see and what you are "getting rid of" before you make that decision.  Once you see your baby alive and moving on your ultrasound, I know you will never consider abortion again.

I will be praying for you.

Answer 19

well.

it would be hard not to tell your parents after a while.

your going to have to do it somehow.

maybe the test was wrong.

even thou i doubt that.

if you believe in abortions. then maybe consider that.

i don't agree with them.

this was your choice thou.

you could tell your parents then just give the baby up for adoption when he/she is born.

maybe they wont be as mad.

of course thell be mad but they might just accept it and help you after a bit.

good luck

Answer 20

When you tell your parents you will see that (after the second minute) that they are really supportive and will do everything to help you.  They actually do know and understand this.  If they have a teenage daughter, they have prepared for it.  Let them help you chose your options.  Together you can make a choice that no one will regret for the rest of their life. You made one mistake, now you have the chance to do the right thing.  Hiding is never going to be the right thing.

Answer 21

OK. How could you not have known until it was over? I've had s*x before, and believe me, I knew what was happening.

And you're worried about being grounded for 6 months? please! That's the least of your trouble. If you have a baby, you'll be tied down for the next 18 years!!

With that said, you are too young to do anything on your own (legally) so you;ll have to tell your parents. Sorry.  

Answer 22

Some of these answers seriously p*ss me off! Do NOT get an abortion. Imagine A. if you mom got an abortion with you, the baby is alive and has a heart beat! B. what if your parents find out, and you will in SOOO much more trouble if you got an abortion. You need to tell your parents. Yes, you will get into trouble, but its for the better. Its not lyke you guys did it for lyke 2 hours, it was over before you knew what was happening.  

Answer 23

You have to tell them.  Anything else is dangerous.   I agree, 6 months of punishment is really not important right now...u have bigger fish to fry.

Answer 24

Do not get an abortion. Abortion is murder. If you don't want the baby then please just give it up for adoption. You need to be upfront and just tell your parents. They will be really mad but it is better for you if you do tell them. Best of luck to you and please do the right thing.

Answer 25

if you where not ready to have a baby then you where not ready to have s*x you need to take care of you action. you could keep the baby or give the baby up for an adoption. i think the baby has the right to live like your mom gave you the right to live. =)

if you get an abortion this is what they are going to do with youand our baby.

http://abortionno.org/

http://www.abortionno.org/Resources/pict...

=)

Answer 26

TELL THEM STRAIGHT UP!!! YOU WILL GET IN MORE TROUBLE IF YOU DONT!!!

Answer 27

LOL, you mean grounding for nine months, sorry  that was sarcastic, and not nice, How could you not know, there should have been pain if he broke your hyman (not a virgin anymore) well anyways, I would make sure you are pregnant before you worry about telling the parents, and then just do it and think about if you are going to keep th ebaby or put it up for adoption, there is LDS adoption services, but that is in UT.  

Answer 28

abortion

Answer 29

First of all you have to tell your parents. It doesn't matter what happens you have to do it. You disobeyed them you need to suck it up and tell the truth.

Secondly yes you should see a doctor, but don't get an abortion. Abortion is convicting an innocent person to death. If you weren't ready to have a baby then you shouldn't have disobeyed your parents and had s*x with your boyfriend. You shouldn't kill your baby because of your decision.

Thirdly (which this has little to do with the question) I would recommend getting out of Mormonism and getting into actual Christianity. Mormonism is a cult full of contradictions and lies. Look into it and it shouldn't be hard to see the contradiction between the Book of Mormon and the Bible, the Book of Mormon and historical facts, and the Book of Mormon and common sense. It is very much so a lie.  

Answer 30

Being grounded should be the least of your worries right now. You have to tell your parents. It'll be hard, but at this point, it's necessary.

Answer 31

I know you dont want to tell your parents but your have too. See the dr. and DONT GET AN ABORTION. Thats killing a human ;[ But tell your parent cause they will find out. and give the baby up for adoption cause its your best bet have the baby though. ;]

Hope this helped ;]

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marissa

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