I am 15, should i have a 28 year old boyfriend?

Question

i am 15 but i met this guy in the Dominican Republic, there are NO laws over there about having a spouse or girlfriend or having s*x with anyone under a certain age. i really love him but i know it is risky. what should i do?

Answer 1

NO!  You're way too young!!!!!!  he's so much older than you, and you've no idea what kind of relationship he's looking for comparative to what you're looking for!  DON'T DO THIS!!!  i mean, i have some friends whose parents are 13-15 years apart, but they met and married when the younger was in her late twenties early thirties!  you're WAYYYY too young!!

Answer 2

i really hope alll these answers above help you. NO! your 15!! when two 15 year olds go out they think they are in love and stuff cuz of hormones, thats you. hes 28 and im 99.9% sure that he will take advantage of you and leave you so you would be left alone with a baby. do not doit

Answer 3

Get rid of him and get someone your own age. My husband is 28 years old and would never dream of getting with a 15 year old. This guy can not be very mature and must have some serious self confidence problems to not get with a woman his own age, he isnt worth the hassle to you!!!

Just imagine when your 25 he'll be nearly 40! Not good.

xxxxx

Answer 4

One of the main reasons for people under 21 to be classified as juveniles is because they are not old enough to make intelligent decisions...case in point. You know nothing about love, you don't know anything about life yet, and any man who is 13 years older than you are and is encouraging you to have s*x is a pervert.

Answer 5

If you love him and its legal why not. But if you haven't known him that long then why are you going to have s*x with him for?? Age is just a number I know this girl who is 13 and goes out with a 30 year old and their relationship is going well. So yeah if you feel comfortable about it and feel that he is the right one then f-u-c-k to what  everyone else said and go 4 it!!

Answer 6

uhh no i know they say age aint nothing but a number but those numbers have a big difference. the laws in america are different honey.  hes gonna catch himself a case fooling around with you. dont do it hes 28 for crying out loud. what is he gonna do with a 15 years old he may sound like a sweet nice guy but at his age hes probaly got his mind set on something else (if you know what i mean)

Answer 7

I would say no but then i would be contridicting myself in a way..

I met my fiancee 3-4yr ago..I was 15 he was 25.. I am nearly 19 and he is 28..We didn't have S*x till i was 16.. I am now expecting a baby and we are so happy.. He works and i look after the house and our 2 cats..We want to get married xmas just before the baby is born..So some things like this work and others dont.

My dad didn't take too bad and he trusted us both not to have sexual activities till i was 16-18yr old and it worked out fine..

I would tell your parents what is happening and how you feel they might be really angry but if they know and they are ok about it and you both stick to rules that they lay out for you both so noone gets in trouble then i would say go with what you feel..Plus if he meets your parents and you tell them together then that might be better..I dont know you or family so i am literally going by my life and descions..!!!!

That is all i can really say..I am going to get loads of thumbs down for saying this but i dont care..!!! I am being honest and people should follow there hearts if it is possible..

Take care and be safe..

Answer 8

If you both live there and its legal in their country, sure, have an older s*x friend if that is what you want.

If you live in the US though, regardless of where he lives or any other nonsense, you need to end it now. Obviously it is only about s*x (you can't win the arguement that a man that much older is interested in a child for anything more than s*x. You can't win vs me, vs your parents, and most importantly vs the law). Your parents can press charges. It is illegal.

Answer 9

He is old enough to be your father, what do you think of your father having s*x with a 15 year old? you feel it would be repulsive, well there is no difference to you and the 28 year old, he will use you only for s*x and then you will be tossed aside for a new model. If it did work out when you are still young and pretty he will be old.

Answer 10

Don't be with him!!! Trust me, you will thank yourself later..

& You will definitely look back & think, "Wow, I'm glad I'm not with him." Or "Wow, I can't believe I WAS with him, how stupid of me."

You have to keep in mind, "What does he want with me?" You're 15!! What does he want with such a little baby?

Answer 11

No you shouldnt and i think you know this which is why you are asking.

I have been to the dominican republic various times and love the place but one thing i have learnt is that the men are very sleezy and tend to chase foreign women.. simply for the visa/money. Be careful.

I think you are much better sticking to a man in your home country atleast til you get a little wiser and older. I know it is hard but please believe me when i say he is using you AND STI's are rife out there so make sure you get yourself checked out as soon as possible if you did have s*x with him.

Answer 12

If you live in a country where it is customed for girls to be married off to an older men than fine. But this is the united ******* states of america and a fifteen-year-old has no business with someone who should have graduated college and be looking to settle down with a family.

What, did you meet him off the internet?

Answer 13

NO! It would not work out. Any grown man who is willing to date a young girl is messed up. If (big if) you guys did date and it worked out as you got older your interests and his would differ greatly. That is just too much of a difference at your age. I don't care what laws the Dominican Republic has, it's wrong.

Answer 14

No! i've had a friend in a similar situation, she was 14 and he was 26. And lets just say it didn't end well! you and him will want different things in a relationship so find someone in their teens, trust me, it's a bad idea to date someone much older then yourself in your teens.. :P. Hope i've helped ya..

Answer 15

I am sure everyone is going to say absolutely not..... but the thing is that we dont know the situation.... i vote for no....  but you have to think yourself about this....

Nobody is going to accept this relationship

Not only are there years in between you giys, but maturity.

a lot of things you will not understand, because you are not at his level of maturity. so you will suffer a lot.... you need to think if this is truly worth it...

i myself was very mature for my age.... and i met my husband when i was 17 and he was 27... 10 years apart..... we are very much in love and happily married.... and we still dont have any kids.. because we love to travel... it wasnt easy.... fighting against all of the obstacles.... but because we loved eachother we did....

so if you are prepared to go through all of the things you are going to go through... then you know what your answer is...

good luck with this EXTREMELY hard decision.

Answer 16

Exactly how long have you known him to know that you love him? I would personally think the age gap is too big at the minute, if you really like each other why not wait untill your 18 and if he really lloves you he'll still be there and then see how it goes.

Answer 17

Laws or no Laws I just think it is wrong, and the age difference is so big, I can't see how you can share interests, and I also can't see any good of this, I agree with everyone else end it.

Answer 18

I know it's wrong over here, but over there is different. Does it really matter if you love someone who is 13 years old than you? I know it sounds wrong but if you have deep feelings then, yeah.

But really, I wouldn't say break up with this person or ignore this person, just, maybe find someone else around your age.

Answer 19

NO WAY!!!!  

I don't care if there aren't any laws about relationships in the Dominican Republic.  Any 28 year old guy who would even try to start a relationship with a 15 year old girl is, in a word, a creeper.  He will probably end up taking advantage of you (rape - or worse), even if he seems like a really nice guy.  

What you should do is immediately talk with your parents or another trusted adult (guardian, guidance counselor, teacher, etc.) about your concerns.  Then break off your relationship with him immediately via phone or e-mail (NOT face to face since then he could hurt you more easily).  

Be careful, and Good luck!!

Answer 20

well i think age doesnt matter. But i am saying does he love you back ? or does he just want you for s*x. If i was you i wouldnt have s*x with him yet, and make sure he wants more. If he did love you he would meet up with your parents and family, if he doesnt want to do that, yno he dont love you enough & you deserve better. Plus your only 15 you have got the rest of your life ahead of you.

Answer 21

Okay I know what you're probably feeling. Like he's the best guy in the world etc. Well, he will be for a while but then he'll meet someone closer to his own age and you'll be dumped in a flash.

So end it now. PLay the field while your young with guys your own age. I mean, its not just better for your emotional health its better for you health in general (yes I am talking about STDs here). It doesnt matter about laws in the Dominican Republic but your not even legall in the UK so sleeping with him (let alone being with him) is both risky & stupid

I dont mean to be patronizing but you probably dont love him. And guessing your living in the UK, and he lives in the Carribean you probably wont see alot of him. So whats the point?

Answer 22

NOOOO, look at your age the age difference is too large.  There is a 13 year difference.  If you were 20 and he was 33, I would say go for it but to expect issues and problems.  I myself am married to a man 17 years older than me, but I met him when I was 21 and we spent 3 yrs together before we decided to marry and it was hard trying to negotiate all the issues and problems there were with the age difference.  I had to give up a lot of things and make a lot of compromises and he had to get over his huge insecurity of being afraid that at his age he wasn't enough for me or s**y enough for me etc etc  

  You are going to get hurt BIG time.  If you really really love this guy then do a test. Stay apart from him for atleast 6 months and keep in contact only by phone/email whatever.  If you and he are still interested at the end of that time.  Then you could give it a try.  But I would suggest you take it really slow.  Remember in most countries its illegal for a man of that age to have s*x with a girl your age.  But if you want to do it despite our advice and the law, then please wait until atleast 6 months into the relationship so you have a trust between you and you can see that he is sticking with you for the distance and not just using you.

Be careful!

Answer 23

1. Long distance relationships rarely work, especially at a young age! You risk getting seriously hurt!

2. The fact that there aren't any laws over there about underage s*x doesn't mean that the rules don't exist here. He could still be prosecuted for having s*x with a minor I'm afraid.

3. The age gap is a bit too big. You're still in school girly! You should be having fun! When you've left school having an older boyfriend is fine (I'm 18 and my bf is 28 in Sept.) but until then I suggest sticking to guys your own age.

I don't see how it would work without you getting hurt sweetie! Also, does he know how young you are? Ask yourself this, what would a 28yr old want with a 15yr old? You probably want completely different things from a relationship!

If you decide to go for it though, be careful and GOOD LUCK!

Sorry if this isn't the advice you wanted to hear but it's my opinion =)

Answer 24

Go ask your mom and/or dad.

"is it ok for me to date and have s*x with a guy that is 28?"

if they say "O yes we would love that"  and start plainning a wedding then go for it!

WTF ARE YOU THINKING?? you don't love him!! and he far from loves you! hes just looking to get laid and peace out!

Answer 25

all the answers to your question so far has been,no get rid of him hes to old for u.

I think its up to u personally,im been with my other half since i was 16 and weve got a bigger age gap than u and so far its been brill.

but i will say this dont let him try and push you around or make u do stuff that u dont want to do always be honest with each other and trust is always the foundation of a good relationship.

Answer 26

to all those above, you wouldnt be saying that if she was 35 and he was 48 would you? so what if theres a 13 year age gap. thats not the problem.

you are only 15, it depends on how mature you are, and if you really know what love is yet.  does he love you?

Answer 27

A catagoric NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Way to much of a big difference.

Besides the age difference, your only 15 (no offence) but what do you know about love?!? Im sure its just a childhood 'crush' you'll get over him! And well I wonder what was going through his mind going out with a 15 year old, laws or no laws! Your not even legal here in the UK yet!

Answer 28

From personal expeirence at that age.

Don't do it. As much as you think you love him i can promise you you'll feel different in even a year's time. It will mentally mess you up for later life and you will struggle.

This man should be no where near you, he may be a lovely guy to you but it still says one thing, desperate. There is nothing right about this age gap whatsoever, you are still Very young!

Answer 29

I think its more of a question as to why a 28 year old MAN would want  a 15 year old GIRL... obvious really.....

Stay clear... think he may just be taking advantage of the non-laws over there...

You dont love him, you are besotted, a crazy little crush.. I can tell you one thing tho.. he certaintly doesnt love you.. hes out for what he can get!!!! SORRY.

Answer 30

We don't know the man. We don't know you.. but some of the things you put in the question.. mainly this bit:

"there are NO laws over there about having a spouse or girlfriend or having s*x with anyone under a certain age"

Makes you seem.. not very sensible so I'd say a definate no! (:

Answer 31

only you will know...

im very mature and im in love with a guy 15 years older than me we are not in a physical relationship so no s*x and he has told me that i am not under any circumstances to even suggest it because he will always say no because we respect each other so much! he loves me and i love him we have known how we feel for each other for a year and a half now! and still feel the same but not going to really do anything together for another 2 years because it's against the law! i trust him and he trusts me we're like best friends and care for each other so much!

people will judge

they will be harsh

if you love him and he's worth it just ignore everyone else

if you really beleive it'll work just make sure you know exactly how you feel

so just always be honest with him and yourself.

good luck x