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I am 15 yrs old and have a suicidal friend, i talk to him but Im feeling used.?

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im 15 yrs old n i hav this close guy friend. he gets depressed a lot and has been cutting himself for a few years. when he gets really depressed he rings me up to talk about it. he says he has nothing to live for etc, and i just let him talk to me.

he says that im all he has and im the only thing keeping him alive. im really cool with being his friend, but hes really really possessive. he says that he'll cut himself etc if i get with another guy, and im scared he might do worse. if i get too close to another guy he'll try n pick a fight with him.

once i was talking to some other guys, i wasnt flirting and he was there with them, but i wasnt talking directly to him. he sed if that will happen again he'll jump of a building.

he skips school, gets drunk at like 1am, walks out on his parents n sleeps at the park or friends house and tries to pick fights. I care about this guy a lot but im scared of getting too attached and dragged into all of this. already im feeling the effects, im feeling more depressed and im starting to hang out with the wrong people.

i just feel really stuck, like i cant move anywhere, and i cant see a way out without hurting him and maybe making him do something stupid. im scared of doing anything that'll upset him coz i dont want him to hurt himself.

he says that his life seems to work out fine when things are good between us, so i feel responsible for his well being. All these things are making me feel really stuck with no way out.

if you can give me any advice, either to help me, or help me convince him not to kill himself i would deeply appreciate it.

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  1. You are in over your head acting as counselor. Your friend needs professional help. You are not responsible for his actions. You can care, but it's not ok for him to solely depend upon you or use emotional blackmail.


  2. You need to make it clear to him that he doesnt control you. tell him that you want to be his friend but cant because of how he treats you. He is way too manipulative. you arent responsible for his actions and i know its hard but dont feel guilty about it. he is bringing you down with him. tell your parents what is going on or maybe talk to his parents so that they can get him some help.

  3. He has got problems, not you. I know this may be harsh but you cannot stay friends with this guy. He is emotionally blackmailing you, controlling you and being manipulative. You need to tell him you arent hanging out with him anymore. You are only 15 yourself, his parents should be helping him, not you. You should be enjoying your life and not being made to feel guilty if you hang out with people. Please please beleive me. I have been through the same when I was 14 and I thought the guy would kill himswlf etc, he was unstable and would go crazy/cut his head etc if I did anything wrong, until I finally realised that I cannot be responsible for somebody else's reactions to a situation. Talk to your parents about it. I wish you luck and don't feel you owe him anything. I think he wants to be more than friends with you so he is insanely jealous.

  4. Ok now...listen to me...I'm saying this cause i care for you...

    Just break-up with the guy (if he considers you his girlfriend!)...rite now!

    You know very well about the things he's doing...so i guess you very well know the consequences too..

    I really don'tunderstand..m really sorry to ask but..does he even have a heart..really sorry but...how can he do that with his parents and YOU??..you are really getting into a bad company..which i don't think you want to be into!

    So do one thing...ask him if he really cares for you then he'll do what you say...make him promise that he will never do anything like that ever again even if you are not in his life...and tell him that if he breaks the promise then you will be no more with him...

    And you just let him loose...i mean be normal with everyone..AND talk to other guys...if he picks up fights just simply tell him that its none of his business...and if again he tries to do some of that stupid stuff, tell him that you were testing him...and now that he has lost the chance...you are no more with him..AND PLEASE TRY TO SOP CARING FOR THIS GUY!.... or you're going to reach nowhere...

    And gradually stop talking to him..that'll make YOU feel a lot better at least...PLEASE CARE ABOUT YOURSELF..

    If he really gets on your nerve(i ean literally)...just tell him that you have nothing to do with him and simply walk out of that big big mess!

    Good Luck

  5. He seems to be manipulating you very strongly...

    Get him to talk to someone, maybe a psychotherapist?

    he needs psychological help if his happiness depends on you not being with anyone else

    and anybody threatening to kill themselves has poor mental health

    good luck :)

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