I am 16 and my girlfriend is 20 we are trying for a baby, Advice plzzzz?

Question

We are both mature people and have a great relationship, i dnt really know if i want a baby but she does but then in a way i do, i love kids but really want some adivice , i am worried of what my paretns will disown me and frightened of loosing everythink i ve gt, plz advice many thnks

Answer 1

Don't do it. In CA she would go to jail for Statitory rape. Most likely wouldn't be able to keep the baby anyway. If you have any doubts AT ALL then please don't do it. You will always have money taken out of your checks, college will be next to imposible, and life will suddenly be so much more demanding. xx

Answer 2

advie.... use a condom and dont have children... you're 16!!!  

Answer 3

WAIT! If you are not sure if you want a baby, dont try to get her pregnant, just tell her that anything worth having is worth waiting for. At 16 and 20... there are so many things that are going to change and alot of growing up to do (even if you think you are already mature, there is still a long ways to go) and you wont have time to do that. WAIT!

Answer 4

you should wait, you will probably regret it in the future, how long have you known her?

Answer 5

your both very young enjoy each other kids take alot of your time up and its hard work if you have a good relationship now build on that and rethink about a baby in the future thats the best advice i can give

Answer 6

GO TO SCHOOL

GET A JOB

SAVE LOTSSSSS OF MONEY.

IT'S NOT AS EASY AS YOU THINK, WAIT. ****** WAIT DUDE... THAT'S ALL YOU SHOULD DO. THAT WOULD BE A VERY STUPID MISTAKE...

Answer 7

advice is DONT!!! you are 16 live your life first

Answer 8

First of all if she wants to have a baby it should not be with a 16 year old! You are still is high school I would assume. It's cool that you are seeing a woman older than you, but what is a 20 year old woman doing with you. Not trying to be mean but I doubt your ready to be a daddy, this is a huge decision for anyone even married families but for someone your age.... I think your just going along with it does do that share with her how you feel. I hope things work out for you.  

Answer 9

first of all what ur doing is illegal, its considered statuory rape until u turn 18.  and you really are too young to have a baby.

Answer 10

Don't do it.  You can't afford a baby.  Please don't have a baby til you can afford it.  She will want to stay home with the baby and you will have to work and pay for everything!  She's taking advantage of you in a big way.  You will lose everything as you will be tied to this woman and the baby for the next 18 years.  You have the best part of your life ahead of you, don't let it slip by.

Answer 11

here is my advice stop!!!!!!  illegal as well as not appropriate you are young do you even have a job? how will you support this child??

Answer 12

How is it possible for you ta raise a baby and you haven't finished being one yourself. Like one said finish living your life first finish school get an up -good job for money and have a support base to support that baby first then deside to have it.

Answer 13

if u dont feel ur ready then dont hav a baby.. its a huge responsibility for anyone .. especially smeone ur age.. aside from the emotional responsibility u will also have a financial one.. i bet at this point ur parents still support u  so whos gonna support that baby? u should enjoy urself and find urself b4 taking on such a big commitment

Answer 14

Sweetie, I know you think you are mature enough but really, you are just a baby wanting to have a baby.

Wait until you are both old enough (and legal at least) to support yourselves as well as another mouth to feed.  Consider what percentage of relationships/marriages fail in this day and age and a majority of those were people who started out much older and financially secure than the 2 of you are.

It really is not a good idea to be starting a family when you yourself haven't even grown up yet.

Good luck.

Answer 15

Yes, here's some advice.  Take a friend or relative's baby for a weekend and see if you are still wanting a baby.  

Answer 16

my best advice....if either of you are not ready in ANY way, just wait. if you have any doubts, just wait. if you are at all scared, just wait.

you'll be glad you did.

Answer 17

Babies are incredibly expensive, do you really want to spend all your time working and changing diapers at 16? Plus your parents could press charges. And you have doubts that's enough of a reason not to a have a baby right now.

Answer 18

You too young, and a baby is a big responsibility.  Liking kids and being  with one 24/7 are very different things. I suggest you wait, no matter what she wants.

Answer 19

um yeah, get a new girlfriend. thats the best advice. sorry.

Answer 20

You need to wait. If people were to find out that you two were in a relationship having s*x let alone having a baby, she could get charged. it's illegal. not telling you this to upset you, but you need to know these things hon. you might be very mature, but she is 20 years old. can't she wait 2 years? then you will be 18, a legal adult then you can do whatever you want. My true advice is to wait.  Not only that, but have you ever thought that maybe she is just using you? I know you don't want to think that, and will probably give me a thumbs down for it. but honey. there are plenty of 20 year old guys that I'm sure would date her, why go for a 16 yr old? cause you will do what she wants. she wants a baby and she knows you'll do it. most 20 year old guys, don't want kids at that age.... please think about what everyone is telling you. wait. If she truly loves you, and truly wants to have children with you. she can be patient and wait 2 years. You also need to think about your future child, don't you want to be able to give that child everything it needs, everything it wants? you can't exactly do that at 16. yea you might have a job, I dunno. but most 16 year olds either are baggers, cart pushers or flip burgers. just think about things

Answer 21

Sorry, but a 20 year old girl who is trying to convince a 16 year old boy to impregnate her does not equal mature people.

Try this:  Why don't you and your GF sit down with your parents and discuss the issue?  If she wants a baby with you, then it is only fair that your parents know about her plans...since she can be arrested for having s*x with a minor and then who will take care of the baby? If she doesn't want to talk to your folks, then how "mature" is she?

Responsible parenthood starts long before the baby is born.  Sorry to say, it appears she wants a baby daddy, and you're the one she wants to trap.  BTW, any chance your folks are rich?  She may be looking for a chance to score some bucks when they find out she's pregnant...

Hate to be so cynical, but this is a hot mess.  Think of the life you could be creating.  Can you take care of a baby if your parents disown you and you lose everything?  

Answer 22

You're a child yourself.  You shouldn't be having children yet.  Plus what you're doing is illegal.  Your girlfriend can be prosecuted for statutory rape.

Answer 23

I'd wait.  Youre a minor.  Kids are pricy and kids are great but try babysitting with her first.  Dont give into her peer pressure.  If you are really ment to be together she will be able to wait.