I am 17 and my bedtime is 9:30. Is this fair?

Question

My bedtime is 9:30. But I’m in university and struggle with finishing my homework before this curfew. I just tried negotiating with my mum, but she told me that if I was intelligent, I would be able to finish my homework and assignments from 6pm(when I get home from uni) to 9:30pm (bedtime).

Is this fair?

Answer 1

i'm 14 and i dont have a bedtime so yes it is unfair  

Answer 2

Wow you have a bedtiime Im 12 and i dont even hav a bedtime  .I cant believe you have a bedtime your nearly 18!And no i dont think its fair

Answer 3

I hope you're kidding. I was staying up at 9:30 when I was 13! How can you have a bed time? They can't force you to go to sleep. They're trying to argue a ridiculous point with you.

Answer 4

Are you kidding me? Im 15 and dont have a bedtime. Get yer mum tellt! :)

Answer 5

awww no that's not fair

Answer 6

No! I'm 12 and I dont have a bedtime D:

gawd thats not fair!

Step up to her, girl!

Answer 7

Sounds a little strict but if you live with mommy and daddy, you live under their rules.

Answer 8

Not fair. I had a bedtime until I was like 16 and it was 10-10:30. Once I got pregnant and had my son (at 17) there wasn't much they could do about that lol.

Answer 9

not fair o god i am 13 its 5:29 am and i still didnt go to sleep  

Answer 10

That's what time i went to bed when i was like 13. that stinks.  

Answer 11

You shouldn't even be having a bedtime at 17!

Answer 12

no offense or anything but i'm 13 and i go to bed later than that, i don't really think thats fair.

Answer 13

MOVE OUT

Answer 14

No. I'm your age and have no curfew or bedtime.

And how are you in university if you are aged only seventeen?

Answer 15

gurl no thiz wont do u need to set thiz straight tell her u need to finish ur skool work and such

Answer 16

NO! you should be out enjoying yourself at that time!

Answer 17

hahahahahaha... talk to ur mom, and tell her ur old enough to know wat time i should go to bed and wat time not... thats not fair at all.. sorry

Answer 18

Wow. That it no-way fair!!

Answer 19

You should let your parents read this! Its unfair

Answer 20

It depends, if you have projects and assignment to be done then finish it first. You can sleep calmy if you finished those right?

Answer 21

if your almost 18 a bedtime curfew is just stupid. if she really cared about your grades then she would let you stay up longer.

just show her this page of what we all say. honestly you want to stay up to do work not just coz. your mum needs a bit of sense knocked into her :)

Answer 22

Well your 17 nearly 18 your should know how to be responsible and mature. i think your parents need to lay off a bit how do they expect their daughter to be responsible of herself if there on her back all the time. stand up and tell her straight.  

Answer 23

your 17 and still have a bed time?

tell her to try doing all your essays and see whether she can have them done by 9:30.

dont have an argument about it with her just say that you are struggling to finish your work so maybe you can just have a time that you have to be in your room by.

But i would advise you try to move into a different home very quick or i dont think you'll have alot of freedom.

Answer 24

i really don't think that's fair i am thirteen and when i was seven that was my bed time i go to bed now at ten well i m supposed to but i go to bed around 12  

Answer 25

no 9.30 is a bit harsh. i was 14 when my curfew was 9.30!

now its 10.30 or 11 and i'm almost 18. but i go when ever i finish my homework.

that was harsh of your mum to say you weren't intelligent though!!

Answer 26

I'm 14 and have a curfew of 10:30pm. Your parents are too strict, you need better negotiating skills or more determination. This could have a serious impact on your grades, tell her that, its true.

Tell her you only have 3 and a 1/2 to go home, eat dinner, shower, do your homework (which i suspect is A LOT).

xx Good luck.  

Answer 27

no, you're going to be a legal adult next year you shouldn't have a bedtime. i'm 15 and i don't have one.  

Answer 28

If you are in college and studying for your degree, then what in blazes is your mom thinking in forcing you to go to bed at 9 30 every night?? When is she ever going to let you grow up and become an adult? Part of being grown up is learning how to manage your time and set priorities, and your mom's acting this way is doing you no good whatsoever. My sister is a college professor at the local state university, and she has STUDENTS who are 17 and living on campus. Do you think THEY have a 9 30 bed time?? HARDLY !!! You're nearly an adult now- it's time you started acting like one and put your foot down about this. You need to tell your mom that unless you get more study time, your grades are going to suffer, and all that money which she and your dad have paid in tuition costs is going to go to waste because of her attitude. I would also encourage you to look into moving into one of the dorms or residence halls on campus, or take an apartment close to it with your friends or classmates. Somehow, some way, you've GOT to get OUT from under your mom's thumb, or you will never be able to grow up and lead a normal adult life. She can't keep you safe or protect you by denying you the right to lead your life- and someone needs to point this out to her, and pronto.

This situation isn't healthy for your mom, either- it sounds like she's become way too dependent on you, and is having trouble letting you go because of this. Counseling and therapy will help her get through that- and perhaps she needs to see a doctor about her anxiety issues. At any rate, you need to try to talk to her, and have your teachers/ professors call her and speak with her about your need for more study time. If you have an academic advisor ( and many students do) then have him or her talk to your mom about this.

Good luck- I hope this helps.  

Answer 29

Considering you are in University and sound (at least here) mature and responsible 9:30 does sound early but it may depend on how early you both have to get up.  If you have to be up at 4 am then 9:30 is reasonable.  

You are at the age though where your mom should not be setting a bed time for you.  Show her you can be responsible by getting yourself up and off without her help.

Answer 30

When I was 13 my parents let me stay up till 11:30 if I had to finish a project (when I started working on it at 5:30-ish). That's really not fair of them, and just because you can't finish on her time doesn't mean you're not intelligent. It just means that she's being unfair and you are just taking your time so you do a good job on whatever homework you're doing. Good luck :)

Answer 31

Wow, ok, I would have thought 9.30 was early even if you had just wanted to stay up to watch TV. Yes it is unfair if your mother will not let you stay up to do your homework, I mean if it was about other things I would say her house her rules, but for homework? That is harsh. I don't think I even had a bed time anymore at that age, I was working at nights too so I kinda just managed my own time.