I am 19 weeks pregnant the father removed the condom to impregnate me w/o my knowledge. Abortion? or not?

Question

I recently ended a 10 year long relationship that was very unhealthy and met a friend, our friendship led to s*x, and I made it clear that I was not ready for another serious relationship. During intercourse, he removed his condom without me knowing and now I'm pregnant with his twins- after only knowing him for 4 months. I am not in love with him, I am 36 with 3 children all almost grown, I had to put him out of my life due to his temper and attempt to physically abuse me. Im conflicted. He is no where to be found,we haven't talked since I stopped communication with him 1 week ago. I have prayed and talked to my elders on what to do - abortion or not- I hate to take it out on innocent lives yet, I hate to bring them into the world and have them also without their father. I feel very foolish and very confused. My logic self says abortion, my concience says not to - I know babies are a blessing but finacially and emotionally I am just not ready - I've also thought about adoption. Help-

Answer 1

PLEASE PLEASE don't abort those sweet little ones.  If you feel like you can't take on the responsibilty then look into adoption.  There are sooooo many couples out there that would love to raise those little ones.  I know that my sister-in-law  and her husband have tried for 8 years for a baby and have had no luck.  They would love to take those little ones for their own and would love them and raise them well.  If you would like to talk to me more about this please email me.  [e-mail]

Answer 2

I agree with kat. You are too far along. And as far as without a father, there have been plenty of kids without fathers. Not like you would want him in the picture anyway, if he almost abused you, what would he do to the kids. So, yes, if you cannot keep them, atleast find a family. There are alot of deserving ones out there that can only wish for your unfortune. Good luck with everything.

Answer 3

I agree with the last two posts, abortion is something if you are considering should have been looked at a long time ago..... not now at 19 weeks.  I also think i personally would have noticed if my spoused paused for a moment during  s*x to pull off a condom

Answer 4

so many people can't- have children

abortion stays with you for ever......

does he know? would not want him to bearound the babies and hurt them, adoption can always right down dad unknowen. good homes are out there. good luck .

Answer 5

Wait untill you see the baby if you don't instantly fall in love then give it up for adoption.  Give that baby a chance at life like you were given.  She may grow up to be someone who does great things.

Answer 6

Abortion is wrong.

If you feel adoption is the best option for the children, then do so. You will make a new family very happy.

Your ex - lover is a jerk and untrustworthy a**. What he did is wrong. But you could have gotten pregnant anyways - condom could have broke....

Good luck with your decision.

Answer 7

19 weeks is too late to have an abortion, especially healthy babies...you should have thought about it as soon as you found out.  Maybe you should look into adoption, and give them up to a loving home.  There are plenty of people out there looking to adopt.

Answer 8

I don't think you can get an abortion at 19 weeks. You're too far along.

Answer 9

Nineteen weeks is too late to have an abortion.  If you really don't want the babies, then put them up for adoption.

Answer 10

you should never kill an unborn child that is just wrong if you don't Want them their is millions of women who would love to have a baby and are jealous of the fact that you can get pregnant don't abort put up for adoption

Answer 11

I agree with the other post.  there are losts of loving families out there that would love to have your baby.  Turn your problem into a blessing for someone else.