I am 20 years old and I feel like I have nothing to live for?

Question

I am 20 years old and I feel like I have nothing to live for?

I don't really know what to do with myself anymore. I feel hopeless. You see...I have been depressed for about 9 years now. I never truly got treated for it. But I did try to go to therapy several times. In fact I have even been to the hospital twice because of suicidal thoughts. I have never tried to commit suicide. However my thoughts get worse every year and I am afraid that I might just pull the trigger one day. Aside from that, i don't trust any one, not even my family. I feel alone. I feel as though no one understands me. I've always felt that way. Like an outsider. I've been rejected so many time by people and by guys. I don't know what I have to live for. I am afraid that I will never find anyone. I don't see the purpose of life and I kind of wnat to end it now...

Answer 1

When we don't have God in our lives, we don't have nothing to live for , but ourselves and that could get old really fast.  Your only answer is Jesus Christ.  He will never let you down.  Believe me I looked for someone to love me and it only left me more broken inside, I did feel hopeless like this life has nothing for me.  Then I  finally realized that I can't find that love I'm looking for in  guys but in Jesus.  in the Bible it says that God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8.

Now who one else would give up their life to die for us wretched,  full of sin kind of people.  Only Jesus would.  He loves you, don't give up on your life.  Give your life to Jesus Christ.  Ask Him to forgive you and change you from the inside out.  Admit that you are a sinner a that you want to change.  He hears you.  You could call out to Him at any time.  He's listening to you right now, hoping that you won't end your life.  Please email me if you have more questions.   Read the scriptures that Cee T gave you.  There in the bible.

Answer 2

Life is what you make it.  Even if nothing seems to be going right, it will pass.  Some people need to work harder at being happy than others...  You just have to keep your head up and make the best out of every situation.

Answer 3

Change your attitude. This takes time and hard work but quite frankly we men are like that. We are depressed in our early years of life but as life goes on it gets better and by our late forties we are of a more sound and happier mind and life.

Whereas a woman is more upbeat and happier in her youth she will find herself more depressed than men are at their age and this too happens at about the late forties in their lives.

So. As the men get older the happier they are, but the women get more depressed the older they get.

I actually read this in a study today by universities in Europe.

Go figure cause at this point in my life (early fifties) I'm one h**l of a happy old dog.

Keep on trucking and keep on living and between now and that magical moment in two decades?

Change your attitude. It will do you so much better.

EDIT: that greatbuddha is stoned or sleep deprived. Don't listen to it; he seems to be living on a crystal cloud looking at the world through a fog of illusions. Haven't read so much "G0BBLE-DE-g**k" from anyone on this site as I have from the notsogreatbuddha.

Answer 4

There isn't really any purpose why people go about living. People are born and they chose to stay alive until the time they die, or until death comes to them unexpectedly.

Your question shows that you really care about finding the real purpose of living. It shows that you care about discovering this purpose (if it exists). Like I said above, people mainly continue living because it's natural for living things to want to stay alive. In your case, you feel a need to have this purpose or direction in order to guide your way through life.

It sounds like you are lost. A person without a direction is basically lost. You're trying to find out where you fit in with the world... how you can add value to this world through your existence.

You really want to be accepted, but you don't seem to fit in with others. This makes you a loner. You want someone to understand your pain, and from what I gather.. it's not that you don't want to live... it's that you want to find a reason to live. There's a big difference there. A reason will give you hope.

Answer 5

I contragulate you on writing this.

Because you see many people and I do mean lots feel just like you, and most of the people who feel like you go by through life as if nothing is wrong.

I'm glad you realize your emotions, but please don't think you have nothing to live for.

I used to think the same way, but as of now I don't.

You have to at least find something for you to do, and remember never to expect anything from anyone or thing.

Just go through life with no exceptions, and you would come to learn that there is many things for you to live for.

Answer 6

Depression is related to a chemical imbalance.

Lack of trust re family:  is it because they are untrustworthy, hurt you, or because you have fear of them, even though they're benign?

What you should do:  call 1-800-525-LOVE http://www.klove.com 24-7 and ask for help, counseling.  They are free, licensed.

During business hours, M-F, call 1-800-232-6459 http://www.focusonthefamily.com and ask for Counseling dept.  They are licensed, and will provide you with a list of local counselors who will be cautious regarding prescribing medication.

http://www.befrienders.org is worthwhile.

While you're receiving healing, consider reading "Soul Mates and Twin Flames," Elizabeth Clare Prophet, and "Sacred Psychology of Love:  The Quest for Relationships that Unite Heart and Soul," Marilyn C. Barrick, Ph.D.

As for ending life, there are good authors who note that whatever you're feeling on earth, will be multiplied about 10 times after such an irrevocable and erroneous act.  "Men in White Apparel," Ann Ree Colton, "Testimony of Light," Helen Greaves, and "The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?", Free and Wilcock, may be of help.

Answer 7

Please read the Bible, New Testament first.  You'll find answers there.  John 3:16, Romans 10:13, Romans5:8, Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Proverbs 3:5,6; Philippians 4:6,7.  I'll pray for you.  Don't give up.   I asked the Lord into my life many years ago and He has helped me a lot.  Please don't end your life.

Answer 8

But you know, having seen so much change already in your life, that things will likely keep changing, and maybe for the better. You don't need a reason to live. Your life isn't your fault. Where'd you come from, anyway? Such hubris, to think you could judge whether that life is worth living, any more than you could judge whether mine is worth living!

It's okay to let it be meaningless and go on through your anguish. Rejection is meaningless. As your life lengthens, each event becomes more and more trivial and easily put in perspective; you will learn - in pain - who you are (at 20 you do not know yet) and how to be yourself the most satisfactory way. You're like a pale swollen butterfly sitting on its chrysalis, wings wet and crumpled, totally vulnerable and immobilized ... waiting. Waiting it out.

You can separate your self from your depressive thoughts, most of the time; recognize them, say yes to them, let them wash over you. If you feel like ending it all, make like you're going to - believe for a moment that you will, and let yourself feel the relief of understanding that all this pain does not matter, it's not YOU. Growing up is the hardest thing you will ever do, alone, and you are in the thick of it, the worst part, and every day you make it through, you get closer to your goal. Better days are ahead - so many, that this time will be almost totally lost to memory, a few years on.

Answer 9

Friend ,

   No ones life is worthless.It is we and our thoughts that make it so and nothing.My suggestion  to u is to discover or enliven  your hobby/hobbies and culture it more and more .It will bring both  pleasure and positive thoughts  .Go in that direction and try to touch its apex , it may even change your life !

Be happy !

Answer 10

While you may feel as if you have nothing to live for, do you have something to die for? Once you've found that you might decide to live. I would die to protect my family, and that is why I go on living.

Answer 11

Get to a psychiatrist.  This is a brain chemical imbalance and it can be corrected.

Counseling may help some, but its kind of like trying to heal a broken leg by talking to it.  Get the fracture properly set first, then talk about why it happened.

Or, more directly put, you first need medication to clear your mind, and calm your attitude.  

Then seek counseling which may help you more clearly understand that life, by its very  nature, is a test of our abilities to survive and be happy.

Once your mood is "brightened" people will find you more approachable.  Friendship, trust, and love, will develop in their own good time, not according to your personal schedule.

You only have one life, don't throw it away.

Answer 12

I am around your age, and I go from being extremely silly to being so extremely serious, that it becomes silly. There is a danger to spending too much time alone. You isolate yourself, internalize things, become too introspective. If you spend some time appreciating small things, you might forget how miserable you are in the bigger picture. There are a lot of things to laugh at, to smile at, to live for. Don't hide inside a shell and mourn the loss of things you never gave yourself the chance to have.

Answer 13

First off I don't think you want to commit suicide or you would not have ask this question and you have done something already by yourself by asking us or telling us what you are going through. You say you have been going through this for the last 9 years. Do you know what your life was like before that? Was it better than now? Was it something in that time before 9 years that may have trigger these feels off? I can tell by your question you still have faith that there is someone you can trust because you are looking for someone  that might have an insight to whats going on with you. And if your looking for someone you can trust I think you may find that person here. And why I say that is I have read and answered and asked and got good answers back some bad ones but that goes without saying you just throw the bad ones in the garbage can and keep the good ones. I tell you now you will find someone who will be your friend. Just from some of the nice people I have heard  here with there help and if you can believe things can start to fall into place.

I know I just seem to be ranting on but by you reading this answer it will make you feel there are people who care. And some of us really do. So keep coming back. For one you have met one friend as of now. And as my friends  here at home would tell you I am a dependable friend. And I know in my heart there are pleanty more here  on YQA. And if you ever need to talk just call.

First I should tell you I am much older than you and I am not going to tell you to listen to the old wise man because sometimes we are not. But ther are people out here your age and maybe even younger that may and I believe some do have much betteer advice than I do. So listen to all the answers and take the good from all of them and try to put it to use in your life.

And as I say if you really need someone  to talk  to don't be scared to call out to me I will answer Take care.

Answer 14

I understand.

You are not alone.

I can't give you any advice, because every day is unpredictable and it becomes outdated.

But know that other people struggle as well. And ending your life should never be an option. It's easy and tempting, but you have to resist. Because sooner or later you will find something to live for. And sometimes for some people, it just takes a little more looking for.

Answer 15

The point of it all is to make a point, to have a reason for being, to be a point of light by making a difference. In other words, the purpose of life is to live a life of purpose. Usually, we don't have to waste time trying to discover our life purpose because it is not to be found, but to be created by us.

Answer 16

That is kind of disease you have suffered...like people suffers from fever, allergic, infertion, etc but those are physical (organic) diseases, yours is more psychologic diseases .

So you see, when people got fever, allergic, infection etc, they can not cure themselves or handle it by themselves, they need doctors !! So does your diseases, you need to go to doctor (psychiatrist)  until you are cured.

THERE IS GOOD NEWS FOR YOU, as in psychiatric science, there are two groups of people, first who dont realize they are ill and need help, second who do realize there are something wrong with them and need help. And the good news is the second group has better prognosis (probability to be healed are pretty much much better) and you are in second group !!! at young age improves the prognosis !!!

so do not give up and go see your doctor and be compliance with the medication you will get.

Answer 17

believe me, you always have something to live for. whether you think so or not, theres always someone who has an undescribable amount of love for you. i know tis because a friend of mine tried to commit suicide and when i saw her laying in the hospital bed all drugged out from all the pills she had taken it made me so mad. i know thats probably not the reaction yoku would expect but i was pissed off. all i could think was, "how could someone i love this much think they could take themselves away from me forever?" it might have been a little selfish of me to think that but i couldnt help it. what im trying to say is, no matter how depressed you are, you have to stay strong because you have NO IDEA how much someone would miss you if you were gone. just try to relax and take life one day at a time.

Answer 18

Love. You are missing love. The last thing you need is a church, but the first thing you need is God. Cry out to Jesus, with all you have, and He will heal your broken life. Don't be afraid, His eyes are full of love.