I am 21 and just found out I'm pregnant, the Baby will be mix, and i am afraid that i want be a good mother

Question

And on top of that my family will dis own me. Cause the baby is another race. what do i do?

Answer 1

your family should be sopportive. dont tell them its a mix untill you have it if your that worried. a "mix" isnt really a big deal, and if they bring it up, say you didnt feel it was an issue

Answer 2

If you feel that you are ready to have a baby, then have it. And if your family dis owns you just because the baby will be mixed with another race, then to h**l with them. Thats ignorant!

However, if you don't feel that you are ready to be a mother, then yes, have an abortion. It really hurts me to have to give you that advice because I am TOTALLY against abortion. But you have to do what you have to do.

Think about this, and make a decision.

And remember, you are a grown woman. You make your own decisions and if your family doesn't like it, then thats just too bad.

I really hope that everything works out in your favor.

God Bless

Answer 3

My son is mixed hispanic and white ( I am white) and my sons grandparents have nothing to do with me or my son cause we are white HOW LAME eh  well guess what its thier lose! YOU will be a good mom and you will do your best! you dont need any one else but your self!

I know what you are going through I know it hurts but there comes a time when people need to grow up and get the heck ovr it !! your baby will be beautiful! and I wish you the best of luck keep your head up girl!

You will be just fine! God bless you !

Answer 4

an abortion may help

Answer 5

All the thoughts that go through your head during pregnancy are amazing. Every mother, with or without family support, fears and doubts their abilities. Babies and children don't come into the world with directions. If you WANT to have this child then your love for this child will make you a good mother.

As far as the race issue goes I would give your parents the benefit of the doubt, especially your mother. Their intial reaction maybe hard but I think as soon as the baby comes they will have no other choice but to love the baby. We have this guy at work who said it was either him or the mixed grandchild. He said there is no way in the world the child would be allowed in his house. Guess what? The child is three months old and this man proudly brought his grandchild to a company dinner.  People can voice very strong opinions but until they are actually faced with a decision you never know how they will react. Mothers usually never turn their backs on their children and grandchildren. I think you will be suprised by the support you may get.

Keep in mind that in the beginning they may act like it is a horrible thing you have done. But just keep reminding yourself that they are the ones with the narrow mind. This is your child and you will love him/her. I think you will be fine. Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 6

be the best mother u can be for it  work very hard and believe in yourself and good luck  

Answer 7

Make sure you visit the non-profit agencies in your community, they're there to help you.  Parenting is a huge undertaking, but luckily there are many things you can do while you're pregnant to better your chances as a parent, such as reading library books on the subject, by researching the internet on parenting and how to provide the best environment for your child (food, a clean, loving, supportive, and nurturing home).  Use the time to educate yourself.  As for your family, I doubt they will disown you, once they lay eyes upon that precious baby.