I am 21 and want to adopt?

Question

I live in Ga and want a child. I do not want to go through adoption agencies. I just want a mother to sign there child over to me that does not want it.

Answer 1

I know, all that agency stuff is a drag.

I heard they have an adoption program at Costco now, maybe you should go there.

Answer 2

I doubt that a mother will just sign over a child to you.  Most mothers who feel that they cannot parent their children, are very,very selective about the people who they choose to parent their children.  At a minimum they will want a home study done.

Before you make a decision about raising a child, I suggest that you volunteer at a youth center, your church's nursery, or an after school program.

You state that you WANT a child.  Why?  Is this to satisfy your needs or a child's needs?

Answer 3

The cons of doing it that way is that you cannot know the true emotional stability of the mother. She may come back later and want the child back (check out some other posters on here who are wanting to do just that). And what proof would you have that she was mentally stable to make such a decision? None.

Adoption agencies do counseling on the mother. They make sure she knows and understands her choices. They also help you get an attorney to make it official. It is expensive though, I will not lie. But you can get special loans, and you will get a deduction on your taxes. There are also some pregnancy centers who offer help to mothers in need that also do adoptions. If they are sponsored by a church or are a non-profit, they may be able to work with you financially.

You could also foster to adopt, but you will lose most of the kids who come into your home, unless you are willing to adopt older kids whose parental rights have already been adopted. Sometimes though they do have younger ones up for straight adoption, just not as often.

There are so many choices and options. If you knew a relative who was pregnant, I might say doing it the way you are talking about would be fine. But a complete stranger? No way.

Answer 4

this almost never happens. first of all, the chances of a mother who would just not want her baby and just sign it over to some complete ( and young) stranger are slim to none. even then, you would have to have a lawyer to get all the paperwork in order. your best bet is to be a foster parents and try to adopt of of those children.

Answer 5

In FACT better yet, just go stand in front of the dumpster at Costco...I mean isn't that what birth mothers do to their children they don't want, and don't give up for adoption?

Answer 6

It's not going to happen, that's why there are laws, to protect everyone.

Answer 7

You're kidding, right?

Answer 8

Well, wouldn't that be convenient?  If the adoption process is too hard for you, then raising a child will certainly tax your patience.  

Short cuts don't generally work out well in the long run, certainly not when we're talking about the life of an innocent child.  But you sound like a prime candidate for what the industry calls "private adoption" and adoption advocates call "baby selling."  Got $50,000 or so you don't need?  Go for it.  After all, adoption is not about the best interests of the child; it's all about you and your wants.

Answer 9

Is there some reason you do not want or cannot have a child of your own?  Have you explored the reasons why you want to adopt?  Adoption is, after all, supposed to provide a home for a child who needs one rather than provide a child for people who want one.  And being an adoptive parent is much more demanding of one's spirit than parenting one's natural child.

Adoption is not a spur-of-the-moment 'fun thing to do' for a while.  

If, after you have searched your soul, you feel you are ready to make such a commitment, I suggest you get involved in your local foster care system.  Maybe do some volunteer work with some of the kids, see how it feels to you.  

There are thousands of children in the foster system who are very much in need of permanent homes.  Even babies.

Answer 10

Contact Child Protective Services in your area and see what you can do to help them out and they may help you adopt a child that has been taken from the parents or that the parents can't care for.

Answer 11

Have you thought about putting up flyers?

I'm sure that there are a lot of women looking to give their children to someone that doesn't want to mess with all the legalities of a home study and the whole adoption process.  It's just not fair that most people want you to go through a process proving that you would be a fit parent.

You might try the local Walmart and grocery stores, I'm sure you'll get a lot more mothers wanting to give up older kids, but hey, they are already potty trained, and who wants to mess with that?

Answer 12

Consult with an adoption attorney and do a  private adoption.

Answer 13

I'm not that knowledgable on adoption. But from what I do know (my neighor adopted just like your wanting to do) she had to go through an adoption agency. I do believe that is the only way possible to do it. You could find some low life that is just willing to give their baby up, but whos to say that in a few years they wont come knocking on your door wanting their child back? Sorry. Good luck.

Answer 14

If you can find one, that is fine.   Don't be deceived, there are thousands of women just like you in America.

Answer 15

Right, because so many mothers just don't want their children. Good luck with that.

Answer 16

You are only 21 years old. Don't you have better things to do than raise someone else's kid? Perhaps travel, get a(nother?) college degree, start your own business, etc.

When you are ready to have your own, do that. Have your OWN.

Blood is thicker than paper.

Answer 17

Have you tried the classifieds?

Or the fire stations?  You know they can dump their babies there now, maybe you should hang out down at Station 49 this weekend and hope to get lucky.

Answer 18

If you don’t want to go through an agency you will have to get an adoption Attorney, this is known as private adoption and they are probably the most expensive form of adoption.  You have to complete the paper work anyway you do an adoption; otherwise the birthparents could just come back any time [years later] and reclaim their birth child. I also believe you’d have to do a home study.  

There is no cutting corners in adoption unless you again are willing to take the risk that the birthparents wouldn’t just show up out of the blue one day and reclaim the child. If adoption was not done right with all the T’s crossed and I’s dotted they would have a very excellent chance of getting their birthchild back.

Answer 19

what city do you live in. I live in hinesville georgia. and i think you would make a really great mother. but the questions are

do you want a boy or a girl? and are you sure that you would

rather adopt then have your child by blood?