I am 22 and have 3 kids..?

Question

Is that too young? im curious how the public views a full time student/full time worker who has 3 kids...had the first one at 16...second one at 18..then 3rd one 20..and yes its the same woman

Answer 1

At what point does either you are your babies Mother figure out that birth control would be a good idea would be the better question!  Actually, you sound like you are doing well for both you and your family.  Please let others know what a chore it is to be in school, 22, and have three babies.  Perhaps you can help someone else out!

Answer 2

Wow judging from the answers im wayy to young lol. My partner and I are both 19 and still will be when our twins are born.. We will have 3 kids at 19! I don't think its too young, I know we are great parents and if you are too that is all that matters.

Answer 3

As long as you cherish those dear children then it isn't too young.

I hate to see young guys who have no clue about being a father abuse their baby because it wouldn't stop crying. There was a guy on the news today sentenced for beating to death his girlfriends seven month old son for that very reason. If you get stressed out and need help...ASK FOR IT!!!

Answer 4

I think it's too young. I'm the middle child in my family. I have an older sister who is 18 and a younger brother who is 5. My parents are in their mid thirties. So, in my point of view it is too young. You must be a busy person! Working full time, raising your children, studying for school, doing homework and taking care of your wife.. Isn't it stressful?

Answer 5

I think that its great that its the same girl and that you are there for the children. I personally think its too young for me but if you can do it, want to do it, and can then more power to you. Wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

who cares what other people think you have a family and prob 3 of the most thankful children who cares what people think love your life you live and love the woman you are with.

im proud to see you are with the same woman.

Answer 7

It doesn't matter if others think that you are to young to have three kids its what you think and remember it doesn't matter how old you are its the quality of your parenting and how you raise your kids And if you ask me owning up to your responsibilities as a father and being a full time student and worker shows your maturity level.

Answer 8

Well im 23 and have 2 kids.  I got married at 18 and had my kids at 20 and 21.  I want another one.  I stay at home with them and my husband works.  I dont see a problem with it as long as you are mature and can handle the job of parenting.  The difference with me is i planned my kids, but i am still very young.  If people judge me than I think its sad because I have been very responsible and view myself as a regular mother and wife.  I dont think anyone should judge me because I decided to start my life off young.  You have to make yourself happy.  Dont worry what everyone else thinks about your life.  Just keep your head up high and do what is best for your kids and your family.

Answer 9

it is young, but, as long as you are a good role model that is the most important thing.  I became a full time nanny at 18 for a 4 and 6 year old.  I practically became there second parent people thought I was young to be handling the life of having kids 24x7, but it was the best experience in the world and I still see them almost every week (there mom now is a stay at home mom) and I would not have traded it for anything.  Help them grow be a responsible role model by finishing your school.

Answer 10

Granted, that is young, but if you can be the man that you sound like you are and care for the mother and children, than you are wonderful.  Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders since you are in school and working.  

Keep up the good work and good luck in your upcoming future.  God Bless...

Answer 11

It is too young.  But at least they are with the same person so it seems that you are not fooling around, and like others said your life seems like it is on track.  So if you can provide for them and not mess up the age doesnt matter.  so i guess u are not too young.

Answer 12

you sound real responible to me, n its not young if your mature enough to fit the position and its all the same girl meaning you didnt ditch her after the first one so thumbs up to you, just forget about society

Answer 13

I think 16 was too young, but what does it really matter now?  I think a man being in school to better themselves while also working full-time to support his family is what being a true man/father is all about (assuming you are actually in their lives).  Good for you.

I am 25 and a mother to 3.  People sometimes think I'm too young, but I had been married for over two years when I had our first.  Some people simply choose to start their family at a young age.  There's nothing wrong with that as long as you are in a position to care for them appropriately.  Just like there's nothing wrong with waiting until your 30's.

Answer 14

hi i dont think your to young i also have three kids my first was born when i was 16 and the other two in the past 3 years so i think its ok and that u r doing what u want not what other people want u to do. i also think ur doing a good job if u r working full time plus going to school full time so u should be happy and dont worry to much about what other people think of you.

Answer 15

You're still with the same girl, awesome. You're their for your kids, hella-awesome. Who cares if other people think it's too young, you're doing it and admit it, it's kinda cool being able to play with your kids and not being sidelined by bad knees or back like older dudes.

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Answer 16

V-a-s-e-c-t-o-m-y. Dude they get harder and more expensive when they get older. I really hope you are going to college for a masters degree because they are going to eat you alive in costs. Yeah, I think three is a bit much... even for an old f**t like me! I stopped at one and we can barely afford her. She is now 14. Remember and repeat this word when you go to the doctors the next time Vasectomy. Really simple procedure and then that doesn't happen anymore. ;-)

Answer 17

it would have been too young for me...does that mean its too young for you? i can't answer that...

i imagine that every person who answers that yes you are too young...or it was immature...or whathaveyou...would never go so far as to say your kids shouldn't be here...

i know as a mother you don't look into the eyes of your kid and think "boy were you a mistake"

i'm proud that you have owned up to your fatherhood...that you are still in school...working full time...AND being a dad.

maybe society will say you are a bad example...but you know what...you are living with your choices and that can be hard to do when you feel constantly judged.

i hope you and your family is well and happy and continue to be so.

good luck with those kiddos

Answer 18

Ah, I think that it is okay as long as your children are provided for.  I am 17 and pregnant with my second.  My husband(18) and I have a baby boy.  Now I'm 8 weeks preg. agian.  We plain on having 3 children also.  Probably like this

first-16

second-17

third-around 19

We live on our own.. We have for a year now.  We are doing schoolin at home.  He works and I stay home.  We are not getting benefits.  We are doing it all on our own and we're doing an alright job.  Our son is very spoiled!  I think it is a good thing to have kids young(er).  Yeah, you don't get to enjoy you're young life but u get in too much trouble then anyway.  But the best part is that you get to enjoy you older days.  My oldest will be 18 when I am 34!  The second I'll be 35.  The third I won't even be 40!  So my husband and I will get to enjoy an empty nest for a long time. We'll be able to do whatever we want while other people are just getting their families started.  I love the idea.  And as long as you can do it then go for it.  Good luck

Answer 19

Honey listen here, I am 20 with a daughter and planning my second. At the rate I am going I will have my third by 22 as well. I stay at home with my daughter and am a full time student while my husband works. Let me put it this way, the value of my life has done nothing but increase since my daughter has been born. When I got pregnant I had only been out of high school for a few months and had no intentions of going back to school. I thought I would find this amazing career and live life on my front porch looking out at my in-ground pool with my white picket fence with my horses trotting. My daughter inspired my husband to find an amazing job with amazing benefits and inspired myself to return to school. There are many benefits to being a young parent and as long as you are happy and your girlfriend/wife is happy then that is all that matters. People who judge you for this are ridiculous and do not understand that children make your life worth living. We are put on this earth to populate and reproduce and so what if it is at a young age that you choose to do so. If you were a bum with no job and no plans for your future with no money to support those little bundles of joy then I would understand others slander. I support you and I'm sure that others do as well. Do not worry about other people say just keep on making your dreams a reality. Is it wrong that i want to give you a hug?

Answer 20

it was all your choice. just be who you want to be. if people really care so much they might want to mind their own business. i would think that is a bit young but if you're ready you're ready. be proud and hold your head high. as long as you have a loving family and support you are set. some people will look at you in discust while other congradulate you. it's all a matter of oppinion.

i hope i helped!! =]

Answer 21

I say big deal... iam 22 and I just had twins.. Iam haveing fun and injoying being a mother... My BF has 6 kids people do comment on how many kids he has and big deal he takes care of them, and they are older and moved out!... I just say injoy your kids! at lest your young enough to be able to play with them and do the things they want to do!

Answer 22

As another responder said, "It is what it is."  That said, your question is about how the public views your "stats".

My impression that a man your age with 3 kids has been a little more self-absorbed than is good for him.  You get points from me for being with the same woman each time.. there's some loyalty there... but I have to wonder if you undertook the responsibility of fatherhood with your eyes wide open, of if you were just "having fun" without thinking about the consequences.  Especially the 2nd and 3rd times.

You also get points for studying and working full-time.  Good on ya, keep it up.  Hold off on more babies for a while (if not forever), and focus your financial energy on doing right by the ones you've got.

Answer 23

Yes brother, it is too young. This reason is that you have not lived your life enough yet. And sometimes having kids at a young age can pull away from living your life to the fullest. I like that you are a full time student and all tho. I mean whats done is done now but you need to learn to strap up. Or something. Just so you dont think that I dont know what im speaking on. I am a female mother of three, first one at 19 second at 25 and the last at 29 and Im not having anymore. I sometimes feel like if I had my now 14 year old daughter at 15 or 16 life would be easier now. Now I have a question for you. Are you married?

Answer 24

It's pretty young...but I had my 1st at 17 and 2nd at 22..same guy...they are 15 & 20 now...  One is in college and the other a rising sophmore.  The father and I are no longer together but good luck to you both.  

I am against teenparenting becasue I think teens are way too young to make those types of decisions (in regards to a life partner). Far too young to know what you want/need in a partner for life...

Just my .02

Answer 25

Thats a lot in a little time.  But I had my first at 20 and second at 24.  Its kind of a mixed subject.  Either half want to wait til they are older or half want to have them early.  But without trying to sound rude or mean.  But I think you should stop.  If you are a full time student and worker then your kids are missing out way to much on spending time with you.

Answer 26

It's about maturity. If you can handle it then you're not too young.

However, others might feel they are missing out on numerous opportunities because they have a family to worry about. You lose the freedom to act carelessly at a much younger age.

Answer 27

Well I can't speak for everyone but in my eyes I have to give you your props! So what if you were 16 when you had your first kid. Your what 23 now, and have 3 kids? All I got to say is if you are there and your taking care od them then NO-ONE can knock you down. My hubby and I have 9 kids (I have 1 and he has 8) he is 36 and I'm 27. Oh! And did I mention we have another on the way! Hey if your there for your kids then I give you two thumbs up!

P.S.

child support isn't everything.... being there and spending time with them is the world.

Answer 28

The PUBLIC would probably view it as not so great, but it's slowly, slowly becoming more lenient about "that sort of thing." Personally I think that age is just a number, and as long as you can handle it well then it's fine. I think that's too young for ME to have three kids, heh heh, but to each his own...

Answer 29

Why does it matter?  The only thing that matters is what you think...;)  You work, you're in school, you are still with your kids, and all of the kids have the same mother...Who in thier right mine would look at that in disgust?

Answer 30

i think it depends on the person, do you feel like it was too young? and i hope that this isn't the first step into the thinking that you never got to enjoy your party years and start acting irresponsible. you seem to have your priorities straight now and thats all you should care about

Answer 31

Its young but ok. I was 16 when I had my first kid. Im 29 now. People talked about me and called me names. Who really cares what other people think. You are going to school and working, obviously taking care of the kids. Sounds like your doing a h**l of a job! Keep up the good work! I think as long as your not a loser father the people won't think badly of you!