I am 23 and I was adopted when I was a newborn. I was born on March 4, 1984 in MO?

Question

I don't know much about the birthparents other than my adoptive mom told me her name was Tammy Oliver and she was about 16-17 and he was about the same age. Other than that there's nothing and since it was a closed adption I can't find out anything that way. I would love to know how to start the search for finding my birthmom without having to pay a fortune. I have called the state where I was born and they put me on a list so if she calls them as well she can find me but so far nothing. I really want to find her and need some kinda help...please anyone have any ideas????

Answer 1

I dunno you crazy woman....i think we've talked about this before...but thanx for the points girl!!!! call me...

Answer 2

Well you have her last name and the state, and since you know the adoption agency you have an idea of the area she was in.  (or ask your adoptive parents what city you were adopted from) There might be family members there with her last name.  You can always start out by calling a few select people (witht the last name Oliver) and tell them you are doing a family tree project in school/college and ask them a few questions that will eventually lead to you.  You can always say "I've only called one person a "Tammy Oliver" your my second call I need to speak with 5 people that share my family name" and ask some mundane questions about where the name came from etc....  (Someone may know her name, but she also may have married.)  It worked for our adopted cousin she found her dad in Costa Rica by doing the same thing.  Hope I helped.

Answer 3

awwww......I feel so bad for you! I wish I could come over your house and give you a big hug! I'm sorry but I don't have any ideas but I wish you the best of luck with finding your birthmom! I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 4

At a library, you can search for Resources which have to

do with Adoptions and being Registered, anywhere you can.

Census Records are not yet available past 1930.

When you contact ANY COURTHOUSE, COUNTY CLERK'S

OFFICE, THEY HAVE THE ORIGINAL SCHOOL ENROLL-

MENT RECORDS, OF YOUR PARENT (by the maiden

name). Generally, if you can find this out, you can ask for the

copies of the other students, in that school, for the year

before that one, and the year after that one, and SHOULD

YOU FIND THE NAME OF YOUR MOTHER, ON A SCHOOL

RECORD, YOU THEN KNOW WHAT COUNTY SHE LIVED

IN, AND YOU CAN THEN FIND OUT THE NAME OF THE

LOCAL NEWSPAPER, AND PRINT A LETTER TO HER.

It will be up to you, to mention that you were adopted, in

the letter to the newspaper, but If I were you, I would write

the letter, like writing a letter to someone you love, and that

you have missed her ETC. because if you say that you were

adopted out, it might be embarrassing to her, & perhaps

to any family she might have.

I can imagine that she is / has probably thought of you too

on many occasions.

The Oliver name is easy to find, anywhere. There are many

of them even living in the Eastern Part of the State where I

am in the United States, and my state is connected to the

Missouri border too & the Arkansas border.

You might have to contact Every Courthouse, in Missouri,

but it would be worth the effort, to do that.

School enrollment records, is one of the First Sources I

seek out when I am helping people search for birth relatives

& adoptees.

Have you had your Adoption File Opened, Legally? There

may be some information in that, which you can use as you

search more avenues.

You have her name, but she might not have yours.

You are over the age limit, & now have the Right to have

your Adoption File Opened.

You can also look on the Internet, for the Residential Section

of All towns in Missouri, and get names & addresses of

Every family by the name of Oliver & write to each family,

which might take awhile, but you will get some decent

replies. I did this, when I helped an older find her birth family.

I had to mail a few letters each day, because of the Postage

costs, but in the end, the Results were great.

Editors of any newspaper is always glad to play a part in

helping individuals, become connected again...if possible.

When you write a letter to the Dear Editor, do mention any

family that you do have, and the love you have for your

family members, and that your life would be more content

if you could connect to family members, of your own bloodline.

It is certainly nice of your adoptive mother, to reveal the

name of your birth mother, and the bit of information about

your birth father.

By elimination of dates, you can guess that your birth mother

was born about 1966-1968, and your birth father too.That

would make her to be about 37-39/40 years old, and per-

haps have other children, which would be your siblings.

Does your adoptive mother know what lawyer handled the

adoption? Who was their lawyer/legal representative?

Some children are just given to prospective Adoptive

parents, by a Notorized Statement, where the Birth mother

agrees that the baby can be in the "possession'' of the

Prospective Adoptive Parents, and the other paper is the

one where the Prospective Adoptive Parents, Do Accept

the Complete Care/Custody of the infant, and then they go

to another state, to do the Adoption, by Legal Methods.

(This was the case I worked on. Took me just 6 weeks to

find about 800 birth family members of that baby).

I hope you have success, in YOUR JOURNEY HOME...

Sincerely,  TF

Answer 5

There is a Tammy Lynn Oliver living in Kansas City MO who is 39 years old.  Born July 1968.  Her address but no phone can be found at

zabasearch.com

Did the state give your you non-id?  Sometimes you can track with the info on there, ie: did she have siblings?, parents info?

With your adoptive parents consent, MO will release identifying information.  Here is a link on who to contact in MO.

http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/missou...

Good luck with your search.