I am 28 y/o. i just had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago, sad and don't know how 2 talk 2 husband about it. HELP PLZ!

Question

i want to let him know how i feel but i'm scared. i feel physically that i am ready to start back having s*x but i am so scared. i also feel dat i am only ready b'cuz i am hoping to get prego again. ANY ADVICE?!?!? PLZ, NO HATEFUL OR RUDE ANSWERS!!!!

Answer 1

first off i am so sorry for your loss.

i think you just need to be honest with him and tell him that you are scared but you want to start a family and you feel that your ready. im sure he may not want to because of what had happened, but he will realize that if your ready then thats all that matters.

good luck!

Answer 2

First off..i am extremely sorry and i had a friend go through the same experience.

It is extremely normal to want to get right back at it especially when you are hoping for a child so just tell him that. He might get defensive or stressed so give him some space and then approach him again. Clearly it is going to be a tough conversation but it has to be done. Just show him how deeply the experience affected you and he'll understand. He may need time before you guys just start up again. If necessary you can have the doctor talk to him explaining to him exactly what happens and how it can frequently happen.

Hope that helps!

Answer 3

Hi there, sorry to hear about your loss. Its hard, and nobody can understand it unless they've actually been through it. Just tell your husband how you're feeling about it and work through it together. It might me hard for him to understand but communication is the key to a good marriage. Just talking about it out loud can help you better understand your own feelings, and help your husband understand what you're going through.

There are online forums for miscarriage survivors such as at ivillage where you can go and talk to other women who have been there.

If you want to talk about it or have any other questions, feel free to email me. I've had 3 miscarriages and have come a long way since then. I can talk about it now and enjoy helping others who are just going through it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I would talk to a doctor first. Make sure you're healthy enough.

Answer 5

i don't really ahve any advice, i just wanted to say i was sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you.  god bless.

Answer 6

If he wasn't ready to have kids, then you need to talk to him. Don't pressure him into it, if you both love each other and both agree to raise children without making the other member feel guilty if they aren't ready then have kids.

Always talk about something thats on your mind.. you need his answer too, not Yahoo Answers answer.

Not trying to be mean, but thats the way life goes, there will be lots of hardships during ones lifetime.. you've experienced a sad event yourself.. but thats the sacrifice we make to life a good and happy life.

If you both were ready for kids and aren't sure because of the miscarriage then you should have kids again.. thats what life is all about.. raising healthy and more important happy people for the world.