I am 39 should I move out?

Question

Ok, here is a question for you. I'm 39 years old and recently my parents moved to another part of the country after winning some money. They have kept their old house, where I lived on my own for a while. After a few months my mom said she was missing me and started trying to persuade me to move to where they where and move in with them. I was tempted because It's a beautiful part of the country and thought it would be nice to live there. After a few weeks of thinking it over I decided to make the move so my parents spent about six thousand dollars having an outbuilding converted into a bedroom for me to sleep in. I've been living here for about four months now. The problem is I've tried really hard but I can't make myself like it here in fact I would go so far as to say I hate living here and miss my home town, routines etc. I'm far too old to be living with my parents anyway and trying to re establish my business down here has been pretty disastrous, I've lost thousands and am now in a lot of debt. I know my mom will be really upset if I tell her I want to move back home and I'll feel terrible doing it to them after they spent so much money on my move here, but I honestly know I will never be happy living here. What would you do?

Bob

Answer 1

You ARE rather old to be living with your parents. If your unhappy living there you should move back. I'm sure your mother will understand that you want to have your life back, your buisness, routine, ect.  

Answer 2

move back to your old house

Answer 3

if your honestly not happy living there, move out. your a grown adult. you should be making your own decisions and stop following your parents.

Answer 4

I would stick it out until I could pay to move myself back home. Mom might be upset but you are grown and she will have to get over it.  

Answer 5

dude you need to move out its sad that you are still living with your parents

Answer 6

Think it over, you are getting old and have a nice place to nest. Parasites are only there were they can be fed.

Answer 7

Bob u should move wit ur parents in my opinion... i don't know its your choice but i think it would be fine to move where your parents are if  you say its a beautiful place. Good luck from alex.

Answer 8

LOL , your about 21 years behind where you are supposed to be . Unless your have some kind of mental illness or you can not function in society , and it does not seem to by your worded question . You should have been out of the house and on your own a long long time ago.It is true we go back and some point and take care of our ageing parents , does not sound to me like this is that time.  

Answer 9

Move now while you can.  It is for your own sanity.  

Answer 10

Hi there, Forget about your age thing , that's not important at all, forget about how much your parents spent on the extension its called an investment  that they could afford at the time because they came to a bit of money,   what is important is that you have  understanding and caring parents , if you explain your situation and how this arrangement is not good for you  they will understand ,  just make sure that you don't end up from bad to worse

Answer 11

Grow up and get an apt.

Answer 12

it was nice of them to put an addition on the house but get out of there.

Answer 13

it dosnt matter what i would do .

just do whatever makes you happy

Answer 14

move where you want to be

Answer 15

move back, if they love you they want you to be happy and will undestand

Answer 16

Tell your mom.  Move out.  Live your OWN life making YOU happy, then; I bet everything else will fall into place.

Answer 17

I'm stuck at home recovering from my own disasters.  It sucks, but I'm better off getting out of debt and acumulating some savings or I'll be miserable making ends meet in a crummy apartment.

I still pay some rnt, buy food, etc.Sometimes you gotta do what's smart and what's best.

Answer 18

it would hurt your mother but you have to do whats right for you, what they say is true you only have one life to live.

Answer 19

get a girl and move

Answer 20

you still live with your parents bob

Answer 21

Bob,

You need to do what is best for you.  If you have put yourself into debt and are unhappy in your current situation surely your mom will see this and want you to be happy.  I would move.

Answer 22

omg!! your 39 and still living with your parents.. should have stay where you were and break the ties.

Answer 23

idk you should've never made the move and come on what were you thinking, your 39!

Answer 24

ok read ur question. im >39< should i move out. dude u cant make a living off of ur tv and answers and stuff for the rest of ur life

Answer 25

deal with your problems yourself and try it without any help from your parents because come on you are already 39 and i don't know how it is there by you but here in latvia everybody usually move out and start their independent life at 18 :p

Answer 26

Yeah I would move out asap. I moved out when I was 17. Not quite sure how you lasted so long.  

Answer 27

Ride it out as long as possible......live the dream.....Mom wheres the meatloaf...F@#$

Answer 28

As a parent, I would think your mother would only want you to be happy.

Answer 29

take the pludge , there is so much opportunities in life today. As well as resources for people in your case.

I wish the best- 39 though move on your own its a whole new adventure.

good luck Bud

Sicerely, Tamara

Answer 30

Agree with first answer.

Answer 31

As both a father and a son, I would still reply the same way. You're the only one responsible for your life and personal happiness - so live the one that makes you happy - that is the only obligation you have.

You are not responsible for your mother's happiness nor her yours.

Do what makes you happy and if that means leaving your parents to go live your life so be it. They should want you to be happy more than they should want to spend time with you.