I am 4 months pregnant the father assulted me 2 times, what rights do I have to keep him away from us?

Question

Like I said I am 4 months pregnant and originally the father did not want this baby. He assaulted me 2 times and I left him,now because i don't want to be with him he wants to take me to court to fight for this baby. He has attempted to kill himself and he is unstable. He was going through counselling but he just finished telling me that "He is taking back what belongs to him this baby, and that I am going to die" What should I be doing????

Answer 1

Contact a local domestic violence shelter (or the YWCA). They will be able to help you with restraining orders, shelter, emergency cell phone, etc. They will also have counselors to help with keeping your head on straight. Congratulations for leaving him and saving your own life, and the life of the baby. Stay safe and alive.

Answer 2

PLEASE tell me that you called the police and filed a report when he assaulted you?  At least went to the hospital to be checked out??

I went through this when I was 4 1/2 months pregnant with my daughter (what is it about that month??).  My ex physically abused me, breaking my arm.  I immediately went to the hospital and got checked out, and made sure to inform them of how I received the injuries.  Charges were immediately pressed against him, and a papertrail was started against him.  I obtained a PFA against him, and he was not allowed near me or my family.

It would really help you if you had started this papertrail; you would have the evidence you need to prove that this man is unstable and cannot be trusted around children.  However, I would still try to report these assaults; and definitely, DEFINITELY report the death threat.  They may be able to provide some protection for you.  Also make sure to get a restraining order/PFA (Protection From Abuse order) against him and they will instruct you from there.  

Remember that while it is his baby too, you have every right to protect yourself and your child if he abusing you or threatening you.  I don't know what state/area you live in; try looking for programs that help women who are victims of domestic violence, they are really helpful.

These two are for PA:

http://www.awomansplace.org/

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&sa=X&...

Answer 3

Janie..... get a gun

Answer 4

Filing a restraining order is about the WORST thing you can do.  So DO NOT  take it to the police YET.

Here's why:

When you do this, in his mind you use that as a "HA! I win! see this paper? It says you lose and I win!!" - Sad thing is, it's just that to him.  PAPER WITH INK ON IT.  THAT'S ALL IT IS!  The BEST thing you can do is STOP contacting him and DO NOT take his calls, no matter how many messages he will leave you (and yes, he will leave you 20+ messages.  Still, no response is best.) Even if you pick up (or answer the door) just to say "leave me alone" then hang up, he wins.  When you do this, you buy 6 more weeks of him calling and threatening you... rather, INTIMIDATING you.  Not threatening.

Remember this: A threat does not contain the words: If, unless, until, or else, - IF these are used, this means it is INTIMIDATION not a threat.

After a few months, take it to the court and they will terminate his rights without him even being there,  Discuss this with a lawyer first though.

For now, honestly, if you care at all for your baby and your own life, move out.  Get a new job, even change your number.  Start over.  Because he will not give up until you drop it ENTIRELY ("drop it" meaning no contact with him AT ALL)  Once this is done, HE will drop it OVER TIME.

you asked what you need to do... I am going to give you the name of a book I want you to read.

"The Gift of Fear" By Gavin De Becker.  That book will teach you EXACTLY what you need to do.  It will teach you what your ex is thinking, and what he will do next.  Trust me, I know it sounds impossible, but if you really want to protect yourself and your baby from this guy, you'd do ANYTHING... even read a book.

Also, when it comes to protecting your kids (when they're older)  Read Gavin's second book "Protecting the Gift: Keeping our children safe and our parents sane"

Answer 5

Domestic violence charges. Every time he assaults you, you really do need to contact the police and then he will have no chance of getting the child if there is a custody hearing.

Answer 6

make out a police report get a restraining order.  

Answer 7

2nd Ammendment.  There are plenty of graves filled by people with restraining orders.  There is only one person that can always be there to protect you and the baby---you.  

Answer 8

Did you go to the police the times he assaulted you? Even if not, you can still press dating violence charge. Since he is obviously unhinged, they won't give him the baby.