I am 43-yr old MAN & lately women have started frowning at me. How may I stop looking at them?

Question

Please...I am not offending anyone nor blaming women...but I used to be good looking in the past and so have got used to catching their eyes and winning their approval.

Poof...all of a sudden I see disinterest in their eyes and I feel unwanted.

Now, without resorting to any stupid means...what is the logical rational way that i give up this hang-up and focus on something useful?

Women suddenly look very, very powerful and tough to me...

Serious answers please, thank you!

Answer 1

you need to work on your self esteem

you're probably frowning on yourself and projecting that judgmentalness onto others as well

men are like wine and get better with time in our sexist society...women also arent visually stimulated like men are...so it couldnt be only looks

are you not showering? have you put on 250 lbs?

Answer 2

STREWTH, you're lucky you haven't been castrated by the sexual harassment police!

When I worked at the local college, if you looked at a girl for ANY reason, you (as a male) could be summarily dismissed, for sexual harassment. Come to Australia, we'll let the females here show you that nothing good will come of looking at a girl, mate.

As for feeling unwanted? Sheesh, you've been lucky to get away without that until now!

OK, the easiest way to give up on that sort of thing is picture them as being something like Germaine Greer or Andrea Dworkin:

http://www.moonbattery.com/archives/2005...

http://www.theage.com.au/news/Books/Femi...

Or good old UGLY Germaine Greer:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Germaine_Gr...

Now, just imagine, every time you see one of the evidently man-hating females that have now turned on you, that they look like either of the above - THAT should do the trick!

Works for me.

Bye The Way - you are about to experience something that most guys go through in their early twenties at the latest: NEVER look at a girl.

NEVER.

Answer 3

Well your value isn't based on what others think and if it is you should seek therapy.  I don't say that as a bad thing I am a firm believer in therapy. With what I have seen is that as a man gets older they simply don't change the age of the women they want to catch their eyes.  You always could see if 40 year old women; which can be very attractive; give you the same looks.

Answer 4

It's in your head,I'm older than you and although I've had a few "dry" spells,I check myself every so often ,then after that "laid"...think rich& you'll be rich,like that!

Answer 5

First of all they may frown because you are frowning at them.

Older men can win women by making them feel encouraged. Agree with them and say things like, "That's a great idea" and "interesting point. I never thought about it like that before." Once they realize that every time they are around you they feel an ego boost and they have a happy day afterwards, they will like you more.

By 43 you are probably a skilled lover by now so if a woman is going to turn up her nose at experience it's because she doesn't know what she's missing. She'd rather be taken for granted by a young guy than to let you worship and cherish her. That is SO her loss. Get some confidence and find a woman who is worthy of being with a guy like you.

And realize that women feel that 43 is time to get married. If they see you are 43 and still playing, they think "useless."

Answer 6

you should've gotten married a long time ago.

Answer 7

you know  women had shortage in their mined other wise  they should look to man like you  with to much experience in this age

Answer 8

Look at yourself in a mirror.

Take a photo of yourself.

Compare the two.

Make sure the smiles and eye contact are actually "friendly" and not "creepy" (sorry).

And consider using some of that charisma on much older women, they will appreciate the attention while you work out your "look". could be your smile or meaningful gaze is just not working in today's world.

just adjust your facial and eye expression to what is pleasing and you will get good responses.

For instance: a "predatory" glance to a woman may be seen as "creepy", so you might want to play up your smile while making the same eye contact, that way the same "interest" is seen as being fun & s**y rather than intimidating.

women are not tough, you just need to hold the door open and say "good evening", smile and compliment their shoes or hair, ,make a joke about yourself, just be less stressed.

you are still good looking, you just need to change your approach so you appear to be appreciative of the woman and gentlemanly.

the time for sexually charged glances has passed, so move on to more sophisticated ways of indicating your interest or appreciation.  and for all the gals out there, i can say, we love to have some interest out there that is not overly predatory,. we are married, kids, but we still appreciate the gesture of another man noticing our attractiveness and we will respond in kind with sly looks, smiles and admiration.

have fun!

Answer 9

Oh my!  Maybe you need to look in the mirror and check out your "look".  Might want to change it up a little.

Answer 10

help yourself to become a handsome man...

Answer 11

It was not all of a sudden you have reached the age now that women are not looking for the guy to hang out with for a week they are looking for more. Or you might just be trying way to hard it is not hard to meet women as long as you are not doing all the talking. Good luck

Answer 12

You certainly don't deserve to be regarded with disinterest.  Older men are just as attractive and desirable as younger men. I personally, find myself admiring older men.Don't take their behavior as a personal assault.  Perhaps these women are disinterested in everybody but themselves.