I am 46 and feel angry because i feel i have punished unfairly for things i have not done and my life as ?

Question

been made misery ,and i know the truth about want i have done and not ,but i am not allowed the tell it or know one will listen when a wrong as been do to me ,Its like keep my month shut or i will be punished,Want do you do in this kind of situation

Answer 1

Quit whining about the unfairness of life.

Figure our what you want and plot the shortest course there.

Answer 2

Why aren't you allowed to tell anyone? You've got to, to get yourself sorted out, don't keep your mouth shut, tell someone!!!! If it was me i would!!! because bottling it all up isnt doing you any good at all!!

Answer 3

For me I stopped looking at the small situation I was in and realized that God made me much larger and stronger than my problem.  In this way what evil has happened to me has not affected in the least the way I treat my friends or enemies.  Because I realize also that sometimes it is the common process the parties are in or the nature of the beast we are caught in that causes one to be inhumane to one another.  But that in a different circumstance away from the madness we are able to see each others as human beings.  Those dark situations put us in a state of blindness and perhaps mental or spiritual death.  That when we are free and outside in another atmosphere we see a different part of the person, that we never thought existed.

I hope this helps.  Take care.

Answer 4

The only person who can make you a victim is you, the only one who can change your situation is you.

Answer 5

What have you been doing in the past 46 years that eventually got you stuck in this situation?? Do a turn about, stop doing what you used to be doing and give yourself a favor, make yourself happy.. only you can do that for yourself..

Answer 6

You, alone have allowed this!  Don't take on that which is not yours.

If the shoe does not fit, don;t wear it!

Answer 7

Put on your tight leather Super Hero outfit and avenge all wrong doings in the world.

Or get drunk & have a lot of kinky s*x.

Answer 8

There is one who will listen to all of your sadness.  Talk to God about it.  It's as simple as that.  It doesn't matter if you claim not to believe in Him or not.  He will listen no matter what the cause.  No matter how much pain you have endured, He will make it all better.

Answer 9

In this situation I would look around the world at all the bad things that have happened and I would realise that the dust I have shaken up is so insignificant and meaningless  that it won't matter.

Answer 10

Go here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=plLyj6DnG...

It probably won't make you feel better

Answer 11

G- Turn poison into medicine without anyone involved in harming you understanding what you are doing or being able to stop you.

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Answer 12

Think we've all been there at some time or another.  Instead of looking at the bad things, look at the good.  My partner and I have 'lived on the edge' at times, struggling to make ends meet but we've always pulled through in the end.  The fact is, you've reached the age of 46 and you're still here on good old Mother Earth so you're obviously a survivor.  Have you got any hobbies?  If you don't feel you're good at socialising, try reading or cooking.  You don't have to be rich to enjoy them.  I do online surveys which can bring in a bit of extra cash (or in some cases pay in Amazon vouchers - which is how I can afford books!).  Cooking doesn't have to be expensive either.  I make my own home-made soups and jams (if you go to my profile you'll see links to a couple of articles I've written).

Whenever I'm really down, I look outside and think "well at least I've got a roof over my head and I'm not hungry, unlike so many others in the world" or, if you're near a park or out in the country, try taking a walk out and seeing what beautiful things are out there!!  Believe me, it is possible to drag yourself out of the doldrums.

Answer 13

Hey NOBODY you meet has ever had a 100% easy life. Tho' you seem so absorbed in your own misery that you wouldn't notice another's pain. So try to see how the rest of the world is faring and may be you will feel better about your own situation. And quit brooding... that leads to incurable paranoia. No one's out to get you. So relax!!!!

Answer 14

If you have allowed your life to be miserable then its time you took responsibility for yourself and stopped playing the victim. Wallowing in self pity never helped anyone. You have allowed these things to happen, you have made bad choices, so its up to you to make better ones and stop feeling sorry for yourself. If someone else is beating you or oppressing you then its time for you to steer your own course and leave. You have posted loads of questions all sort of referring to the same things.... you still have not taken any responsibility and are trying to blame everyone else for the way your life is.  

Answer 15

The wonderful thing about this painful experience of life that you sort of are complaining about ...is that you REALIZE it now.

So take that realization and change it in the ways you can. Several folks here have made great suggestions.

IF it would help, realize tha I sense ALL people mature at different speed and in varying ways. The beauty of this, is that this is YOU.

Allow it to happen and give yourself permission to move through your anger. Your anger will only ANCHOR you there ...and yet you need to have the anger a bit. Counceling might help. I have used counceling to move much more quickly through anger about things that upset me.

I find singing or dancing helps me through points of anger. Can't do those things and still be anger for me.

Some suggest that life lives YOU ...not you living life. If that is true, that thought can help get throught the anger of "sense of loss or failure"

It's not something you got to choose. It was established for some reaons you will likely never know. That can let you off the hook too.

Once you establish if YOU really are the one responsible, accept you know the difference now and move on. Why would you want to waste MORE of your life being angry or worrying about what was.

Just don't make the same mistakes, if you see them as that, and move into what makes you happy.

Peacefulness to you as well as Happiness now and into the future.

Answer 16

Seek therapy or sort out your priorities as to what you want done and then do it. If there are people in your life holding you back, quit associating with them. If it's family, you  can just cut back on how much time you spend with them. If no one's listening, they don't want to hear it, don't care or their mind is made up. Quit worrying, get on with your life & start over. No whining allowed. Do it or don't. Your life is up to you.  

Answer 17

I read recently that the best thing to do in that kind of situation, is to accept that it is the best possible scenario for you at this moment, it is the best possible thing that could happen to you, and it is the best opportunity to realise something very profound and deep about yourself. Namely that you are not alone and there is no separation between you and your persecuters. You are not your suffering, like you are not your big toe, it is a situation you find yourself in. And it is a situation set up perfectly for you to know yourself beyond what you originally thought was possible.