I am 46 and getting increasing worry about the society is going because 20 years a ago if bad teenages caused?

Question

trouble with you all you property .90% of people would do some to help you are be on your side .but today people people seem to stick up for bad teenagers and let you suffer and treat it as some kind of joke that you can do do nothing about it in other words they don,t care unless it is happening them .Want is you opinion on yhis and how would you deal with it

Answer 1

Is is once again PC going too far.  Parents or those witnessing vandalism or whatever can say and do so little. Parents can no longer smack a child so I think it actually starts from the pram that children are getting 'away with murder'. Don't get me wrong I don't think children should be abused in any way and indeed some children can take a telling However, as a parent of grown up children if you get an awkward child you get an awkward child and all the naughty steps and reasoning just doesn't work. Not in all cases but in many, many cases the child is now ruling the parents so what chance does a spoiled child have as it gets older being used to all going the way he/she wants it? One example was last year. There is a small park in front of my house and a father took his 3 children down and was joined by another dad and eventually about 14 neighbouring children. I thought this was indeed nice to see the dad's out with the children playing a ball game on a summer evening.  Next things the youngest of one of the dad's 3 children took a tantrum as something wasn't going the child's way. The child wished to return to the house.  Now approximately 20 - 30 walking steps away was the opened gate of the park.  The child refused to go out the gate and what did the father do? He actually broke the chestnut fencing to make a space for the child to go through. Please tell me what kind of example is this?  It's nothing but sheer vandilism. I couldn't stand and watch this and asked the father what he was thinking of. We are talking here of a well educated professional person.  He barely answered me, ensured the child was through the space he had made and went back to playing the ball game.  You see they don't just stick up for bad teenagers but it can start with young children.  Parents give in to their small children and it starts the ball rolling.  By the time these children are teenagers they think they can behave as they wish and have no respect for the property of others and in reality they don't know any better because as I said at the beginning, not all but many 'get away with murder' since babes.

Answer 2

I couldnt agree more especially here in Texas where prisoners have it better than poor people. I'm 20 and even I can see a difference in how I behaved versus how peopel my age act. When I got into college it was horrible because when I left home I left knowing about finances, working and being responsible. I saw many of the girls in my dorm make bad mistake after mistake because their parents never taught them any better. Don't get me started on manners either. If I said ANY of the things to my parents that children in my daycare say I would've gotten a spanking and a grounding. Now I see parents letting their kids do whatever they want even if it means giving up their control in the situation. People stick up for teens that are bad because they don't want to admit that as parents they have failed their children. The kids I deal with are 3 to 5 years old and I shudder thinking about who they will be when they hit high school.

Answer 3

I know how you feel and it makes me worry too.  I don't like to think how things will be for my daughter when she's adult, I really hope things have done a u-turn by then.  

I get my neighbours' teenage kids (the youngest is 14) using my enclosed garden as a thoroughfare, because they prefer to jump my fence than walk the street.  I spent years asking the parents to stop them, and they admitted that they cannot stop them!  I see kids on the street messing around with people's cars and no-one says a word.  I got verbal abuse from a group of 10 year olds in the crowded town centre and no-one said a word.  You are right, no-one cares if it isn't affecting them.  It's a highly selfish society now.  More worryingly, I notice people are caring less when it's their own children too, and react more when it happens directly to them than if it happens to their kids.

I could go on and on (it's not the best place to live here, but I'm beginning to realise it's better than many, which is scary).

My mother is a social worker and I spotted some leaflets in her house shouting about the rights of kids and what we should and shouldn't say to them.  It made me angry.  It was too one-sided and lacked foresight.  Most people are not intelligent enough, or strong enough, to have foresight themselves or resist the propaganda.  They become more and more brainwashed and separated from their feelings of compassion.

I am waiting for a u-turn in discipline.  I see a whole lot of insecure children and teens where I live, they are unhappy, and they make the rest of us even more unhappy.

Answer 4

of course all the old people are going to think these kids should follow the way THEY acted back then