I am Negative, short tempered, irrational and want to be nice..?

Question

I am new to this kind of open letter internet thing.. I wish i could just be happy, i seem to have a negative output on most things in life, i lose my temper in front of loved ones and go off on one ranting and raving about stuff thats not even worth bothering about. I was adopted at a young age and only found out when i was 18, i don't blame this but am starting to think my behaviour stems from this in some way, I've been to a doctor and he reffered me to a specialist, but that was 2 months since i've heard anything and its just getting worse... is there anything i can do for myself to calm myself into a clear state of mind... any help in maintaining a helthy mind would be of help. Thanks x

Answer 1

i don'T know how old you are at the moment,but i guess that you need somebody you can really trust,someone who can give you love and tender touched as wonder full it feels.i think that you are just being confused of everything since you   found out that you were just being adopted,and maybe you are quiet looking for ａ　ｒｅａｌ　parental guidance,and   love of a real parents.

Answer 2

Yes there is, lots you can do, but bear in mind there are probably no instant solutions to this, it's a case of constant effort and consistent improvement over a period of time.  A study of NLP neuro linguistics is a great place to start that will help.

I have a website which you might find useful, some good links there too.

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com

Good luck  

Answer 3

You seem to think that your background is the issue, but maybe it's not.  After all, a lot of people who weren't adopted are negative, short-tempered, etc.  Anger usually happens when expectations aren't being met.  For instance, you expect everyone around you to drive well, be polite and act sensibly (according to your definition of "sensible.")  When they behave differently, you become angry and negative about people in general.  But if you can learn to accept a world of imperfections, populated by imperfect humans, you can learn to accept life's little irritations without getting mad.  We're all flawed -- even you -- and it behooves us to accept other people's flaws and limitations.  

Answer 4

You have not mentioned your present age. This is usual in teens. The problem arises when you have not selected a target and no purpose or definite aim in life. Once you are confident and select a goal your entire energy is diverted to that goal and you feel every moment is pleasent. Further, please think how your words effect the other person. Again think if the same words are repeated to you by an outsider what would be your reaction.