I am a 14 year old girl and thinkig about becoming sexually active with y boyfriend is that ok?

Question

if we use protection be careful and plan it out

Answer 1

no you shoudnlt. not because I just am being mean and saying no. I had a baby at 15 got pregnant at 14 with the first guy i slept with protected. It takes away from everything you have. I had to grow up at 14. I never had the chance to be a child. I love my daughter now. I am now 21. but i would give anything to have had her at a later time. I was a mom who was still being grounded by her mother....

Answer 2

it's completely normal to think about it. however.. the thoughts are motivated by hormones. when you're with a guy, the hormones pretty much take over and they tell your body that you want to have s*x with this guy. i would strongly suggest learning how to control your hormones in a way.. when you feel very strongly that you need to have s*x with your boyfriend, get away.. you can't give in to your hormones. you may feel tht you're ready at 14 to have s*x.. but guys are JUST starting to mature.. you need to go out and experience the world before you go do crazy things like that. s*x is the one thing that you can someday give your husband that no1 else has taken from you.. it's meant to be special. i know more people who have gotten pregnant while on birth control (some used more than one form of birth control..). and you have to ask yourself, at age 14, would you be ready for a baby? could you afford it? it's not like a puppy.. you have to buy diapers, clothes, do laundry, buy formula, bottles, insurance, car seats, crib, and loads of other stuff that cost a lot of money. wait to have s*x until you've grown up and matured a little more.. i'm 20 and i still don't think i'm ready.. even though i wouldn't mind doing it.. i WANT to.. it's just a matter of thinking it through.. i'm not married and i promised myself i'd wait until then.. plus i have school and college stuff to worry about.. don't follow the crowd in this case.. i hope you listen to the advice.

steph

Answer 3

No....don't do something that you will regret later.  Even with protection/condom usage, accidents happen and you don't want to be a mom at 14....I was and it was very hard getting my life back on track...it's not worth it.

Answer 4

since you asked that i would say no, but thats up to you. and you really don't wanna get prego when ur 14. not like me..

be smart [: make sure you love him

**Good luck & God bless =)

Answer 5

protection does not always work!!

Unless you want a baby, then I would say NO.

And your only 14, what are you thinking, you need to grow up first.

My goodness you are so naive.

I agree with RED all the way.

thumbs up red!!!!!

Answer 6

No it illegal wait till your 16!!!

Answer 7

Why did you ask this?

You knew everyone would say no.

Answer 8

Well if you're asking you're probably going to do it anyway, so I'm not going to tell you no. It's your body, you choose whether it is "ok" or not. Personally, I think fourteen is a bit young, and if I were you, I think I would wait.

There are some more practical concerns though. Firstly, how old is your boyfriend? You need to research the age of consent in your area, and how Statutory Rape laws work. If you do decide to have s*x, you want to make sure your parents aren't going to sue your boyfriend if you get caught.

Secondly: The other posters are right, no method of birth control or STI protection is 100% safe. While it is ALWAYS a good idea to use a latex condom every. single. time... You need to understand that if you have s*x, even if you use "protection," There is a chance of you getting pregnant or possibly ending up with an STI. You need to be responsible about this, and decide whether it is worth the risk, and have a plan in place in case something does happen, because in either case (pregnancy or STIs) time is a factor.

That said, I am going to encourage you to talk to someone you trust about this. A school nurse, guidance counsellor, doctor... They might be able to give you a better idea of the resources available to you (birth control vs. condoms, getting tested for STIs with your partner, etc.) than I can.

It's your body, and no one knows if you're ready except you, but to be ready for s*x, you need to be ready to take responsibility for your health, and deal with the consequences if something goes wrong.

Good luck hon.

Answer 9

NO WAY

im 14, so i know how your hormones are raging

but let me tell you,

it's not worth it

this girl i knew got pregnant at 15,

and ended up committing suicide

s*x too early will mess up your life

so dont do it

im trying to SAVE YOUR LIFE here

my dear

i hope you dont turn out like that

girl i once knew

Answer 10

Maybe. If you love him and ready to face the possibilty of becoming pregnant or getting an STD.

Answer 11

You have to ask strangers online if it's OK for you to make a life changing decision?  You are too young and not ready for something so grown-up.

Answer 12

I think you should wait a while longer. I had s*x young and it was a very risky, unfufilling experience.

Answer 13

well if you feel ready then yes.

it depends on if you love him (honestly) and if you trust him fully and if youve been together for a long time

although if you had to ask that on here then you probably arent ready because you arent sure

Answer 14

NO!!!!!!

you have your whole life ahead, and even if you use protection, there's that one chance that it mightn't work!!!! you both have your whole lives in front of you. just imagine telling your parent/gaurdian that your pregnant.

wait til your legal, so that, incase this does happen, you don't have to feel that your mooching off your parents.

Answer 15

It isn't so much the legal aspect of it that you need to be concerned about (provided he is of the appropriate age). It is the fact that you are making the biggest mistake of your life.

1) You only get to claim yourself a virgin ONE time... and you don't know if this relationship is going to last - regardless, of how much you think you love this boy.

2) You don't know how much the boy really loves you. Sure, he'll say he worships the ground you walk on - wants to be with you forever, etc. - but how do you really KNOW? If he was anything of a boyfriend, he would wait until you were a bit older and really ready.

3) s*x exists for two reasons. The first is to make babies - which you obviously aren't ready for (you can't financially support a baby at 14, not to mention you will be throwing away the opportunity to live your own life how you want without a baby making demands on you). In fact, you yourself said you plan on using protection to be careful - more proof that even you are not wanting a baby.

The second reason s*x exists is for pleasure. But did you know that at the age of 14 a girl's body is not yet fully developed to achieve nor enjoy an o****m? Your body will mature between the ages of 16 and 18. It is scientifically proven - no arguing the facts. So, why would you want to go through the pain of losing your virginity (yes, it hurts... especially when the hymen breaks and you start bleeding, along with the cramps that often accompany the act) when you can't enjoy the process of s*x at the same time? As a woman, I have to deal with getting my period every month. But I don't want to feel like I'm getting it right after having s*x for the first time. What a horrible way to remember my first experience!

4) Why are you going to give it away anyway? Make a man work for it! At this age, your boyfriend can't provide for you - or a child should one come along. Whose gonna' buy the cow when they can get the milk for free? Meaning, who is going to marry you if they can have s*x when they want anyway? Once you give it away, your boyfriend will expect to do it whenever he wants - after all, you did do it the first time. And if you refuse after that, he may very well decide he liked it so much, he'll find someone else who will give it to him.

I could name even more reasons, but I'm sure that if you're intelligent enough to ask other people's opinion before doing something so irresponsible and detrimental to your own happiness, then I'm sure you're intelligent enough to come to the conclusion on your own that this is not the right time for you to be having s*x.

Answer 16

no i think ur illegal.

you are a perv.

if u want to do this when ur 16. its ok.

ur 14!

im 14 and im not even gonna think about being u know to my girlfriend!

Answer 17

If you have to ask that question... then the answers no. Wait a few years also, he'll probably dump you afterwards because guys are like that.

Answer 18

its illegal until ur 16! Don't do it, wait until your older, it will be much better! What happens if you get pregnant?Can you support a child? nothing is 100% effective! You'd be throwing your life away! Just wait, it will be better when your older to make that decision, you'll have more experience with life.

Answer 19

Is it 'ok?'  That's hard to answer.  Are you aware that no 'protection' is perfect?  What would you do about an unplanned pregnancy?  About an unexpected STD?  

I would wait, but I'm not you.

Answer 20

wow. i've seen a lot of this on how 14 yr olds want to be sexually active my answer would be no because protection or the pill doesn't help.

you will get pregnant if you even use both of it.

i feel you should wait till you can control it =)

Answer 21

you know what in my opinion you can do it whenever YOU actually want to, just be careful because there are consequences if you dont wear a condom, such as having a baby (duh), but if you arent ready or he isnt ready to do it then you shouldnt, and if he's like 50 thats illegal lol

Answer 22

if you have to ask then the answer is no . give yourself a couple more years . dont jump into something that could possible give you something your not ready for . ( baby or std) . besides , at 14 your not even sexually mature enough .

Answer 23

Okay your only 14 and thinking about becoming sexually active ARE YOU CRAZY at that age all you should be thinking about what you are going to wear the next day that's it not no s*x and also if you use birth control and a condom there is a little chance you may get pregnant or get an STD i really think you don't want that to happen

Answer 24

dont do any of that stuff now wait until ur more mature and the boy you do It with is gonna tell all his friends and soon everybody will kno at school and call you a w***e and you will cry make sure you can trust the dude not just because you go out and you think thats a couple pose to do

Answer 25

If you have to ask if it is ok then you don't need to be crossing that line ... hold off until you are old enough to make decisions on your own.

Answer 26

NO. you have to be sixteen to consent to any type of sexual intercourse. so basically you're legally not allowed to have s*x. s*x is a bond between a married couple. if you have s*x before you're married or at a very young age, you will have nothing to look forward to for when you get married.

Answer 27

Its only ok if you can deal with the consequencs...such as a unwanted pregnancy or an std...wait till you are older.

Answer 28

You are going to do it regardless of what anyone says. Just remember use protection no matter what. You do not want to get pregnant and/or worse get an STD.

Answer 29

Why? The average human life span is nearly 85 years, WHY do you need to have s*x now?

You don't. Wait. Don't do it. But you're going to anyways aren't you? You like to come on Y!A and ask questions and read the responses and even though you like to say you're mature, that you're open minded, all you do is read everything and scoff at the idea. Because of coruse, you know better! You know better than EVERYONE ELSE! You're 14, the holy grail of knowledge! Why if everyone else were like you, the world would be a perfect place!

USE COMMON SENSE! No! DO NOT HAVE s*x AT 14! It does not benefit you, you don't gain anything, and frankly s*x at 14 sucks, you are going to suck as a sexual partner, so is your boyfriend. It will leave you unsatisfied and probably a little irritated, not to mention it will come back to haunt you in, oh, 15 years when you meet the guy you want to marry.

Answer 30

ok so i'm 15  i fisrt had s*x when i was 13...ya 13 even younger then you..i did it with a guy i was with for 4 months who i thught i loved..and he dumped me that night..coming from me id advice you to wait a few years i wish i didnt do it and i know see it as a mistake it hurt and felt awkward and it wasn't a good position to be in for a 13 year old know im seen as a slag and someone who is easy..please dont make the same mistake i did

Answer 31

whenever you feel ready to have s*x is the right time. Personally, i think that 14 would be way too young for me but if your ready than go for it and DONT forget to use protection.