I am a Fiipina leave in N.H.USA my husband have a Filipina Kabit in the Philippines.

Question

I am marriage to Amirican he was working in Iraq at KBR Company,he like to take vacation in the Philippines instead to comeback home,and just lately I found out he have a mistress since 2006 ubtil this month.They renting an Apt now having a lot of furniture.we dont have a kid.I love my husband and its hurts me so bad when I found out that he have a mistress.What should I do? I have a daughter here with me and I was so ashamed what he doing now.she is not his daughter and shes 21 yrs.old now. Thank you please advice me pleaseee..

Answer 1

just leave him behind. that's it.

he doesn't love you anymore,

i know it hurts you a lot but there's nothing to do but to move on.

hope you'll be okay soon.

Answer 2

He is obligated to support you based on those immigration forms submitted before you got your visa.  If he stops sending you support money contact USCIS about that immediately.  They will not deport you, they will help you get your money.  As for your husband, he cannot marry another.  Maybe he will come to his senses after he get that out of his system.  Its up to you if you want to accept him back after that.  No one else can make that decision for you.  But, you do have certain rights under the law.  He cannot just abandon you without some problems for him.  Sorry for your dilemma but at least you're in America and wasn't that your goal to start with?

Answer 3

You have a daughter and both of you are living in the US...Assuming you are already US citizens since you married an American, you have alot of rights there. I suggest you speak with a lawyer about this. Get some recommendations from family/friends you have in the US. If you weren't already aware, there are many Americans who go to the Phils and get a wife so the wife can take care of them, while they go out and f-ck around with other girls. That's just the reality. If you ask my opinion, divorce him and make him pay. BUT before you do all that, get all the info you need *evidence* to show in court. Ask your family and friends from the Phils to help you with that. There are Private Investigators you can hire for that purpose. Good luck.

Answer 4

Most people I know who work for KBR are emotionally disturbed, gap-toothed, immoral, uneducated racist ignorant hillbillies. Why in the world did you marry that?

Stop being an idiot just like him and leave him.  There won't be any custody issues to complicate the situation. But before you do, make sure you got your green card so you'll at least take something tangible out of your dysfunctional union.

Answer 5

attend a marriage counselling group  

Answer 6

before he leaves you, gather strong evidences to convict him and claim for damages or just let him do the playing, when the girl gets tired of him and sucked all his savings, he will return to you.

Answer 7

you need to talk to your husband about this problem and since you still love him, i'm guessing it will be difficult for you to let him go.  ask him if he still loves you and if he still wants to be with you.  you need to know if there's still a chance for you both to repair your relationship.  start from there and whatever his answer, you have to be strong whatever he decides.  if he stays, do you still want him back?  are you willing to forgive and forget?  seek also the advice of a divorce lawyer (just in case) and know your rights.  

Answer 8

First, you have my sympathy.  Are you legally married to this guy, or are you one of his mistresses?  If you are legally married to this guy, seek the counsel an attorney. If you are one of his mistresses, start your prayers immediately.

And don't listen to the idiot Joseph.

Answer 9

Hi,you are currently experiencing very difficult times and you have my sympathy.I don't really have any advice for you,i just wanted to say that you do not need idiots like Joseph insulting you.I gave him a thumbs down as there is no room for that kind of pathetic personal assault on here against someone that he doesn't know.Good luck to you.