I am a Michigan Bride and I need some advice!?

Question

I am not sure what the "Customs" or Traditions are in the other states. But I have a problem, I have family coming in From PA, Florida,California,Phoenix..

They seem to think that its My job to provide for room and bored.

I am confused..Can someone explain the Traditions of getting Married in Michigan. I guess I didn't read the Michigan Memo..

Sincerly

Bride From Troy

Answer 1

The tradition states that the bride sets up the accommodations for the out-of town guests, but the out-of-town guests pays for the Travel Expenses.

Answer 2

I think what they mean is you should call a local hotel and reserve accomodations for your guests. They will be paying for the rooms, but you should reserve some for your wedding that way they have a place to stay. I don't think Michigan differs from any other state. Just call a hotel near where you will be getting married...that is reasonably priced of course and let them know you are having a wedding and need to set aside a couple rooms for guests...im sure they can help you from there. Good luck! Oh and be sure to let the guests know which hotel so they can call.

Answer 3

Yes, you should provide for the room and board.

But if you're lucky, the guests will give you a cash gift that covers the cost of the plate AND hotel (maybe $1000) so you don't have to worry.

At least that's what the Michigan Manual recommends.

Answer 4

Michigan Bride to Michigan Bride (I'm also a wedding consultant in Mason, MI) you are not responsible for paying for the room and board of your guests. What you need to do is call a hotel and ask to set aside a block of rooms. They should give you a discounted rate...make sure you ask for one, maybe $10-$20 off. They will set aside these rooms for a set amount of time, giving your guests time to reserve. Your guests will need to know the hotel, the contact information and who's name the block is under. Say..the Smith Wedding.

When choosing the hotel consider your guests needs. You will probably want one that has a resturant on site or at least next door so they don't have to travel far for food. Also consider inviting them to the rehersal dinner, it is perfectly acceptable to have them come to just the dinner, it gives them something to do. You may also want to research some activities they could do on their down time, they don't HAVE to do them but it's a nice touch. If you want to go another step above, have a gift basket with items like microwave popcorn and soda in there, have it waiting in there rooms. Just another way of saying thank you for traveling so far for your special day.

Now, the acception to this rule is...if you have a member of your bridal party traveling, then you are responsible for their room and board. Say your Maid of Honor is coming in from PA, then your stuck with the bill, or have her come stay with you, you could use the extra help and support anyhow.

Best of luck to you, and congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals.

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