I am a foreigner who will probably marry a fillipina in her country, what is expected of the groom there?

Question

I am a foreigner who will probably marry a fillipina in her country, what is expected of the groom there?

Answer 1

to be a chubby, average to ugly looking, middle-aged white man with a passport and enough money to support his new bride??

Answer 2

The only thing that is expected of you is that you have money whenever money is needed.  Whenever the bill arrives everybody will turn thier eyes on you.

Answer 3

Honest answer.... if u are a foreigner, most of them expect that u are very rich, help her family, spend money on everything and lastly, she be happy that u help her in a way to get out of her country ( due to poverty ).

By d way, I did say most not all of them. You be lucky to get a decent and honest girl nowadays.....  Oh, yeah! Be real when it comes to love. If u love someone half ur age dont expect that she really loves you. This is where most foreigner made mistakes. This is when u use ur common sense.

Just being honest. Ask around if u know somebody that has filipina wife.

Answer 4

OK, with all the answers above that are somewhat insulting and disrespectful to Filipinos, here's the jist: If you basically a young man (not middle or old aged), is blond, blue/green eyed, and caring enough, your new Filipino bride really loves you.

People in the Philippines fall head over heels with Caucasian features, I should tell you, and not with money, as some of the above suggested.

In the Philippines, the wedding tradition is entirely the same with Catholics elsewhere, except that the groom must bear all the expenses (this is also done with Filipino husbands). Be respectful of the family, particularly the parents, and do not make snide rmearks or comments about the country.

Answer 5

Depends whether you're both Roman Catholics. A great majority of Filipinas are Catholics. I would opt for a civil wedding, as the catholic wedding entails a lot of documents and conditions (ex. - need baptismal cert., canonical review, counseling,etc.). Explain to her that this is too much of a hassle, as time is of the essence. Go for a civil wedding instead, esp. if you have diff't faith. A lot easier. Once you get you license, you can fill up the paperwork for a spouse visa at the US Embassy. And that is another story...More forms & requirements...

Answer 6

google it

Answer 7

Fork out heaps and heaps of cash. I'm sure you'r a nice bloke but putting it quiet bluntly mate in the back of her mind and her family's mind they will be happy because they will now have a foreigner who can help take care of them. Trust me when I say. Marry a filipina and you'll marry the family aswell. Don't believe me give it a year or two and you'll understand what I mean. Don't get me wrong you can help out when you can help out but learn to say no. Filipina's are the best to marry as they have alot more sought after qualities in a wife compared to white westerners.

Answer 8

Filipina Dating::: A Wedding in the Philippines

Centuries old Wedding traditions and wonderful Philippine customs make Filipina Weddings (Kasalan) some of the most beautiful wondrous celebrations on earth. The Filipino culture's high regard for the sanctity of Marriage has given the Philippine Wedding Ceremony many customs and traditions that will be new to the American Gentlemen

Given the dollar peso exchange rate, if for no other reason it is a wise decision to have your wedding in the Philippines. Wedding Ceremony styles, Wedding Dresses, and receptions can differ widely in style and price, but all factors considered you will receive 10 times for your money what you could afford here in the United States.

In the traditional Filipina Wedding the groom is expected to burden all of the cost as opposed to American traditions were it is the Bride?s family that is responsible for wedding exspences. This has given way slightly to some couples sharing the cost as it has here also in the United States.

A few of the cost that will seem unexpected but are in keeping with Filipino Wedding traditions are

1. Hotel rooms for valued guest that journey from distant islands to attend your Wedding. In my case it was the VIPs such as her eldest brother and her Maid of honor

2. Transportation for all those who are to attend locally. We rented a large ?Power Cruiser? (Bus) or what would be a fully customized bus complete with sound system and custom paint.

3. Bride?s Maids dresses and Barongs for the groom?s men are usually available for rent at the Wedding boutiques. Unlike here in the US where many of the Bride's maids will purchase their own dress to keep after the Wedding. Some will not be able to afford the exspence and instead opt to rent them

As customary with Filipinas she will be wearing her wedding ring on the right hand and not the left as here in the United States. For the Filipina, the Bible has stated ?the Son sits at the right hand of the Father?. So she will sit on the left and wear her ring on the right. This tradition completely blindsided me as I had already presented my fianc ? with a beautiful engagement set and placed it on her left ring finger. Just 4 days before the wedding she explained to me I would need to buy her a wedding ring now for her right hand.

Filipino Wedding Ceremonies have some very wonderful traditions different from the typical Wedding Ceremonies here in the United States.

There will be 3 sets of sponsors for the wedding couple, Ninang (male) and Ninong (female). They are usually successful well respected couples choosen by the bride. They will have many task and responsibilities during the actual Wedding ceremony.

Veil Ceremony

The first set of sponsors are responsible for the pinning of the Bride's Veil to the shoulder of the Groom. This is to symbolize the wedding couple's clothes as one.

Cord Ceremony

The second set of sponsors will place the ceremonial wedding cord to "Tie" the Bride and Groom together during the actual Wedding ceremony. This is to symbolize the spiritual bonding of the 2 souls.

Candle Ceremony

Then the last pair of sponsors will light two candles on either side of a unity candle, which the wedding couple getting married light together.

Arrhae or 13 Golden Coin Ceremony

Lastly, the groom presents his bride the ?Arrhea? also known as the 13 golden coins. The "Arrhae" has been blessed by the priest for a life of faithfulness and prosperity. The "Arrhae" and the Wedding Rings are usually carried by 2 small children, a boy and a girl during the wedding march. The Wedding Dress Couture or seamstres should also create 2 small matching pillows for the presentation of the Arrhae and Wedding Rings.

Do not worry about the cost of the "Arrhae" too much as I did. These are not actual Gold Coins. Often times token 13 golden coins "Arrhae" are provided almost free by the jewelery shop you buy the Wedding ring from in the Philippines

You will also find some Filipino superstitions associated with Wedding Ceremonies and Newlywed couples. The Bride will not wear her Wedding Dress before the ceremony or it will bring bad luck. Also if a bride wants her husband to agree to her every whim she will step on his foot on the way to the altar. This according to superstition will place him under her spell of?Lihi?.

One of the most distinctive qualities of a Filipina Wedding are the cathedrals. They are HUGE. Some capable of holding as many as 600 or 700 people. Often they are gigantic architectural wonders built of concrete and stone with huge arches and towering steeples some times 100s of years old. You would have trouble finding a comparable structure in the United States.

Wedding Receptions are also very affordable in the Philippines. My Wedding Reception included buffet catering for 75 persons, 2 cases wine, 4 cases soda pop, 3 Delux suites at the resort, banquet hall complete with DJ, a Lechon (whole roast pig) all at a luxury Beach front resort for less the 1000 Us dollars.

When we were finished with all the official toasting of the newly weds (about 3 hours), we simply asked the resort staff to move the whole party pool side where our reception lasted late into the night. Make no mistake about it Nothing can quite compare to Filipina Weddings and Wedding Receptions.

Answer 9

that you have support her family,financially

Answer 10

best way to find out what should be expected of you, and what you expect from the bride, is that you should talk it over with her. that way, you can meet halfway, agree on things, compromise, maybe. :p

traditionally, the expenses are mostly shouldered by the groom. but nowadays, the parties split the expenses (sometimes the groom spends more, even when the bride shares some).

oh, and grooms wear a Barong Tagalog ^_^

btw, where is she from? coz there might be some local practices in her province or city that you should know lol. or her religion, perhaps :p

browse  the internet, and 'm sure you'll find interesting stuff about Filipino wedding traditions , etc.

i found these in a website, and i found them funny:

"The groom who sits ahead of his bride during the wedding ceremony will be a henpecked husband."

"The bride should step on the groom's foot while walking towards the altar if she wants him to agree to her every whim. "

haha! laugh :p

sigh, can hardly wait to plan my own wedding... lol

Good luck and Congratulations in advance ^_^

Answer 11

excellent question as I want to know all the answers also.

Answer 12

Not very much they are amazing people and will guide you through everything , they really excell at events partys and ceremoneys

Answer 13

You are expected to be a big cow with lots of "milk".

Don't let NO ONE milk you too much. Enough said.

Answer 14

Show up and bring beer

Answer 15

Start with all expenses for the wedding and all the family.

You'll be expected to support the family (in some way) forever after that.  Then you can look forward to the US Immigration bureaucracy which will drain you of untold thousands of dollars.

Once you both are safely and snugly at home in the States, then you'll be expected to provide frequent "vacations" back to the Phils.

Reality bites.....

Answer 16

groom usually spends for the wedding - all expenses.

Answer 17

Be polite and very very respectful. You will get shot in the head if you are cocky, arrogant or smug in any way. Be prepared to be asked for a lot of things, but only say yes to what matters.

Learn about rituals and a few phrases in filipino. That will help.

Answer 18

Everything.  If you find a nice girl who's not a gold digger you'll do ok but beware.......Donald Trump could run out of money over there.

Answer 19

you are expected to:

1) respect the elders -- from grandparents to parents and

             aunts/uncles, even family friends

2) chit chat with the relatives -- they will "feel" if you are    

             worthy or decent to be part of their family

3) pay for the whole wedding

4) when you are married, you should financially help the

             family -- any amount, big or small, would suffice

5) learn a few tagalog terms -- that will break the ice with her

             relatives; filipinos are amused when foreigners try to

             learn the native language

6) don't curse in front of them

7) have fun -- show them you are down-to-earth

good luck! you will have so much fun when you go to the phils.