I am a mom of two with one on the way i am married but my hubby dont know if he is ready for a baby wat to do?

Question

i have been married for two years and two kids from a previous relation ship and my husband dont think he is ready for a baby yet but the thing is that he is so good with my kids there dad left when they where babys and i havent seen him sence so they call my husband dad they are (4,3) i dont know what to do he says he wants to adopt them but i would like to have a third kid. should i feel bad for felling like this please i need so advice from some one that knows what i am going threw.

Answer 1

Well if your pregnant its a little late for your partner. he has to get ready. Once the baby comes, he will be smitten and all his worries will fly out the window.,. My partner wanted me to abort my first, and I totally refused, pint blank, Told him Im having it, he can stay, or leave, but regardless he was going to be a daddy. It was love at first site for him. he cried and my partner does not cry. We now have 2 kids, and my partner would die for them :)

Answer 2

He may not be ready but he'll get used to it. Tell him to ****** suck it up while he's @ it. Your the one carrying the baby. Hang in there. Good luck to you and your family and Congradulations!!

Answer 3

don't feel bad for feeling like that. but you should maybe explain to your husband that it takes two to make one, and if he wasn't ready to have a baby, then both of you should have thought about it before hand. but if he is good with your kids, i'm sure he'd be good with a new one. just explain to him, that it would mean a lot to you if he would be there, for alll three.

goodluck.

Answer 4

Sounds like it's a little too late for you to be asking this question.

It's obvious from your grammar that no one has ever mistaken you for a genius.  

I don't think you should have another child until both you and your husband are ready, but you already decided for both of you that your family needs a third child.  

I think you should also insist that your children do better and go farther in school than you did.  Many people who finished high-school aren't in the dilema you're in.

Good luck and have a great day!

Answer 5

He is just freaked out. Think about it, is anyone really completely prepared for fatherhood? No, but it happens and it will be wonderful. Just reassure him that this is not the end of his life and that he will be a great father to your child. Maybe get him a baby book designed for fathers so he can get aquainted with what it entails.

Answer 6

Why aren't you happy with what you have?

I have to think that your husband's opinion should be respected here.

And you have alot to apologize for, at least if you took steps to have this child without his consent.

The above posters are probably right that he will fall in love immediately, but that isn't the point.  On that same argument, he could fall in love with kids who weren't yours just as easily.

The idea that everybody needs a baby is pure BS.