I am a mother of 2 boys 7 and 4. The father and I have been together for 8 years (not married). He was ?

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I am a mother of 2 boys 7 and 4. The father and I have been together for 8 years (not married). He was activated to go to Afganistan. He is in training in Kansas until October. He told me he no longer wants to be with me and has totally torn me apart. Three days before he left he was on base getting ready and he told me he needed to see me before he left. I ended up staying three nights with him until he got on the plane for Kansas. He told me he was sleeping with others and that he had a girlfriend. But yet he was sleeping with me. He has not called or spoke to his kids since the beginning of August yet he speaks with his parents who communicate with me and are very saddened with whats going on. His parents say he does not call because he does not want to talk with me. What do you think is going on? I am confused, frustrated and do not know what direction to go in. He tells me to move out and when I get all planned he tells me he does not want me to move out. He plays alot of games with me.

Answer 1

I think  you were played and you allowed yourself to be played. How could you spawn the children of man that never committed to you. You both share the blame in your problem.  

Answer 2

my suggestion to you is cut your losses and move on, anyone that can do that to you and most of all your children is not someone that you should be with. if he is confused and needs time to think about your relationship then thats one thing but you dont do that while your sleeping with other people and already have another girlfriend. my suggestion to you is stay where you live and tell him to move his **** out. also if he isnt going to play an active role as their father you should prob go take out child support so you can get some type of help, after all he did help you make them and sorry daddys are beginning to become less and less rare these days. best of luck

Answer 3

think wisely, how sure are you that he loves you? i think he's just playing with you, please be careful with him he will only hurt and hurt you again because he know you'll allow him.

Answer 4

Get rid of him please

Answer 5

be sure that the army knows he has the boys and see that they are listed as his dependents

go to lawyer and seek child support