I am a recovering alcholic. My husband is always trying to force me to drink?

Question

I am a recovering alcholic. My husband is always trying to force me to drink?

Answer 1

I hate to be the one to say it but if you got way from that sometimes the best thing is to stay away from the people that do what you are trying not to do even if it is your husband.

Answer 2

Take him to an AA meeting. He'll get a load of h**l for it. Or have a doctor explain to him that you have a disease and it's serious. He probably doesn't think you are seriously alcoholic and wants you to be a drinking buddy.

Answer 3

Just say no, that's all.  Diabetics can't drink alcohol either.  

Answer 4

I am with everyone else on this one, get your husband to attend an open AA meeting with you. Maybe he just doesn't understand.

Or maybe he has a problem himself and does not want to be alone in his drinking. Alcoholics are notorious for that.

Also, talk to him about how his lack of support damages your mental well-being. Maybe he doesn't realize he is hurting you.

Answer 5

i think thats abuse... you should tell someone. if youre already recovering, its difinetly not good to start again. he shouldnt force you. thats just... wrong... try and tell him to stop. if that doesnt work, theres something wrong. so tell someone.

Answer 6

Why on earth are you still with him?  He is hazardous to your health!

Answer 7

That is terrible!

He should attend a few AA meetings (Open ones, of course) or AlAnon meetings so he can get a sense of how dangerous this disease is to you.

If you were diabetic, would he give you chocolates?

Answer 8

Watch Oprah.  Leave him.

Answer 9

I would try to get it across to him that you were an alcoholic, and tell him that you tried hard to get where you are at right now and tell him that you don't want to make that bad mistake again. If he keeps asking him i would get a divorce if i were u.

Answer 10

He is trying to be the enabler.  Tell him to stop asking you to have a drink and respect you for your decision on not wanting to drink anymore.  If he doesn't understand than that's his fault and he's not that caring of you then. He may have a hard time trying to adjust to your change. You could always have him go to an AA meeting too. That will have him think twice about his carelessness.  I'm sorry I just feel he should respect you with that! No one can force you to have a drink or do anything against your will.  It's just not helping you that is what that is. It's making it harder for you to stay quit with his "forceful" asking. If you're really that serious of a recovering alcoholic you would not have any alcoholic beverages in your house. They would never be found in the house again. Your husband would not have his own in the house either to support you. It sounds like to me you are wanting to be but not yet to that point of being fully alcoholic free.  

Answer 11

WOW! First of all the last person who submitted an answer...is..well.......a brat!  As for your husband, that is a bit shocking.  If you have made it to sobriety that is a huge feat on it's own.  You should be really proud of yourself, for him to push alcohol on you is wrong.  It's sabotage and I would be considering the relationship.  That is not at all supportive.  Have you told him that you don't like it?

Answer 12

It's unfair of your husband to put you in the position of having to drink in order to make him happy. Tell him no firmly and then call your sponser. If you don't have one attend an AA meeting and find one they can give you some wonderful tips on how to deal with other people's drinking, and the pressure to drink. Best of luck and Kudos to you for being in recovery.

Kat  

Answer 13

tell him he's disrespecting your decision  

Answer 14

~~~JUST SAY NO~~~

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~~~THE END~~~

Answer 15

dont do it!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 16

You were probably more easy going when you drank.

Answer 17

tell him to f-off.  if you dont want to drink dont!  good for you for fighting your addiction!!!

Answer 18

The key word here is RESPECT. If you have choice not to drink no matter what your reasons, you are a person that is trying to become a better person. If he loves you he must RESPECT you as you are. Hey it's hard out there dealing with problems you don't need any more. Just ask him nicely to ease off and let you live your life the way you want to....

Answer 19

Have you made it clear? Tell him that you DON'T WANT TO DRINK, period. No if's, and's or butt's.  

Answer 20

If it means leaving him you do it. Your health and your sanity are worth more than that. You say you're recovering and that's great, but it is a long road but the end is in sight. One day you'll suddenly realise that it hasn't got you anymore and wonder how you got there in the first place. The alternative is a slow painfull death, that's full of horrors the like of which I hope you never see. So you be strong and think what's good for you.