I am a sikh guy and I want to marry a Hindu Girl?

Question

I love her a lot. She doesnt love me the way I love her but she cares for me a lot and the only thing she says is that she canot imagine me in her heart because I am a Sikh and she wants a clean shaven guy.

Moreover her parents are very strict and they will not agree to marry out of caste. I know its sometimes dificult to accept different cultures but I dnt think its that difficult..

How can I make this thing go out of her mind that looks dnt matter. its the compatibility coz she also wants to be wid me whole life but the only thing which is stopping her is my loooks as a Sikh. she sometimes cries also that she will have to leave me coz her heart does not allow her to accept and her parents, relatives will not acept... I cant let her go.....

Can any1 suggest or help?

We both live in USA and I dint even imagine after living here for 3 years that this intercatse thing still matters for some people.. why worry abt relatives in india when we have to live here

Thanks

God bless

Answer 1

u love some one , u want 2 be loved back in the same way...

if u are accepting her as she is then wats the problem with her .... she loves u then y she cares about ur look........

if u wana stick to ur culture then be what u r and let her decide...

if y do't wana lose her at any cost n u think her thinking would change, then shave it off..........

Answer 2

Had the looks to do anything with the personality then no one would ever talk about flying sikh Milkha Singh.

Moreover take her to watch singh is king.

The air you two breath is the same.

All aspects of "Compatibility"  in all respects may be  important but Love,ishq,pyar,mohabbat,ulfat,prem are the "in thing".If it occurs btween you two then no parents,no society

can have any say.

Show her photographs of handsome sikh gentlemen.

If this is one-sided affair then wait and watch.

Ignore her for some time and see the effect it has on her.

""""The more you condemn them

        the more they like your technique""""

Keep patience.

True love always wins.

Sikhs are also hindus.

Sabherwals,narulas,sachdevas,sethis,ch... etc. etc....list is endless.

We all have same blood ,may be blood groups are different.

Chak de Phatte gad de killy!

God bless you !

Answer 3

Good Day to you Sikh

If you love her and want to keep her you will have to convert to her religion and shave. Other wise if religion plays a big part in your lives you must marry within your own religous beliefs. I fear if the 2 of you get married there will be a divorce soon or you will both live in missery because you do not share the same beliefs. I wish you both luck and happiness.

Answer 4

Hi!

first of all congratulations that you have got a gift of LOVE which some people only get. As you have wrote that about a clean shave she likes,let her know that who ever loves you should have a lovable heart but not good looks. Looks who have may be he wont be having a lovable heart its more important for her that a person to whom she marry should have a lovable heart. The person to whom we love we will get easily but a person who loves us its very rear to get. As somebody had told to which culture we should follow, first of all we all are INDIANS that we should remember and following culture is that we can follow both the cultures in ever religion we have lots of things common as hindu celebrates guru poornima and sikh also celebrate guru poornima it doesn't matter its all about what we have in our hearts following a culture is not a big issue. Let her know that how much you love her. First of all let her decide what she want to do want to marry you or not? If her answer is yes then the matter of her parents come. If she really likes you then let her parents also know that you will be keeping her happy and also that how much you love her the person who they will choose for her may be she wont like him and she wont be happy in her family life its just a life which wont be having happiness from her heart. so let her first decide what she have in her heart getting a clean shave is not love so decide your life and be happy best of luck to both of you

byeeeeee

Answer 5

I don't know how young you are, but the fact is at the moment your paths have crossed, and you both seem very fond of each other.  I believe it is very unfair of anyone to get in your way.  If you are both of a mature age and understanding, you are old enough to make your own decisions.  In this day and age it is very hard for people to find true love, and someone they really connect with.... Its a shame that people who you feel really love you (the parents and family) due to thier own ignorance of faith and dogma  can get in the way of this and stop you having a wonderful life together.

You are not your parents you are an Individuals with your own choices.   If you or she don't follow your choices, you may regret it Forever.

Her parents and relatives will not accept, not because they love or care about her, but because of what the rest of the family will think!

'You are Individuals with a mind and feelings of your own.  In the end every one is alone, so be with people who make you happy and don't let anyone or anything get in your way'

SB

Answer 6

Hi ther.. Look matters the least in my opinion. Character is first. But in ur case tht s not the only issue i see. Even if she sees tht looks is not everythin(i believe she actually meant non sikh guy not really shaven type) U have more serious issue than jus shaving.

Caste is the core issue. Not looks. How far will u guys go against family and tradition is the whole question. Caste is so out dated i agree but parents r holding still to it in spite living abroad. She definately doesnt sound lik the type who will walk out of the house for u or convince her parents. She knows her parents will never approve tht s why she s behaving so..

It is not a fair situation wht u guys r goin thru..but only option i can see is if u can approach her parents and convince them somehow..otherwise its difficult. Wit out convincing her parents u cannot convince her to accept ur love. Gals obey parents more ya know.

Understand her situation as well. She doesnt really mind ur looks. She s jus worried tht it will not happen. Its not ur decision alone. See if ther s way u can approach her parents..try ur luck. All the best

Answer 7

In my honest opinion, I believe that love shouldn't be all about looks. I mean what is the point of marrying the most cutest girl you've ever seen when it's difficult to even start a conversation... I believe that if there are indeed feelings between you two, the factor shouldn't be the parents. This is going to come out sounding bad but it's the truth. One day when you grow old your parents won't always be there to watchover you people. I noticed that you said " I can't let her go" if that's the case then why not give in to her " clean shaven guy" look unless it's something that's of your sikh tradition. Anyways once your old enough I'm sure your parents will allow you to make your own decisions.

- Anthony

Answer 8

Hey dont dare to trouble her....go find yourself a sikh girl

Answer 9

You have to understand that compatibility is not just how you think or feel but how she, her family and your family think and feel.

This isn't to say that it wouldn't work out but if she's practicing and you practice your religion, then think about some of the implications that may occur.

When you have kids, what will they be? Who teaches what? Hindu or sikh? Will you be fine with hindu children? Will your parents be fine with that? Will her parents be fine with sikh kids? Would she be ok? Is faith very important to you? How about her?

What happens during the holidays or other ceremonial occasions or traditions? Does she have to follow? Do you follow alone? Do you have to follow hers?

It doesn't sound like there's a common ground already and I hate to say that it won't look up any better unless one gives in and somehow compromises their faith.

Sometimes love wins over but faith has a strong basis and foundation in our hearts and we must realize and prioritize alot before we consider marriage, family and a future with someone of another faith.

All the best.

Answer 10

I am not sure what to tell you. You love her, but sometimes even love is not enough. I wish you luck and will pray for you.

Answer 11

I think its clear she wants you to shave. Meet her halfway at least.  The question you should ask yourself is are the sikh symbols really necessary is modern day and age.? There was time when clan identification was everything. If you lose the hair will it affect your identity as a person? will you become a bad person? would the person you are change?

Answer 12

I'm sorry that sounds very hard. I have no suggestions but I really hope it works out.