I am a snob?

Question

I am 16. I'm quiet and shy and not really outgoing unless I am with my close friends and family then I am talkative. But when people meet me they often think I am a snob or pissed off at them?? One of my friends later told me that when she first met me she "thought I was s****.." One time I was at summer camp just sitting with people at a table and this boy sat down next to me and said "You looked like you didn't want me to sit down or something." i was thinking to myself wtf? i didn't even think that? i was just looking at him? I was wondering why some people are quiet and people think "oh. that person is just shy" but when they see me they think "oh. she is such a snob." i am very very nice to everyone i know and do alot of favors for people and i'm kind and considerate and respectful. etc.. can someone help me figure out why people think this and what can i do to change? thank you.

Answer 1

If you are shy - you are also a little afraid

Being afraid causes you to stiffen up a little - giving the "snob" impression

But people will warm up to you by and by

So its OK

Answer 2

That is there insecurities just be true to yourself and you will attract to you what is real. You might also be sending out some of your own social fear vibes, but remember, some fear is healthy. Follow your gut, your intuition is always right, yes always!

Answer 3

You're not a snob... maybe it's just the way your facial features look when they're completely relaxed or observing something. Try to picture your face as it would look from another person, and arrange your features to look inviting. Maybe try laughing some more or cracking a joke. Compliments are excellent, too. Make the person feel goood about themselves around you.

Answer 4

I can tell you that you are not a snob, because I am the exact same way.  Most of it has to do with the natural expression on your face.  When you aren't thinking anything, or you're daydreaming, you have a look on your face that, to other people, looks like you're pissed off.  That, mixed with the fact that you don't have many friends and you're quiet, makes people view you as standoffish and s****..  When people say things like "Are you pissed at me or something?" or "I always thought you hated me", just explain to them that you don't look that way intentionally.  I've had to do it my entire life.  Most of your friends will get used to it pretty quickly.

Answer 5

I had the same problem when I was a teenager. It is because when I am relaxed I never smile.

Try looking at your face in the mirror sometime when you are completely relaxed.

Also, try to smile more and make more eye contact. That way you look more freindly and outgoing.

Don't worry A LOT of people have this problem when they are a teenager. Somehow MAGICALLY you just grown out of it when you get older...I did :)

Answer 6

If you are pretty or dress well, people do tend to make assumptions.  

You could probably smile more, make eye contact, just say hi and nothing more, if  you are one of the beautiful people, everyone wants to get to know you.  Feel flattered.