I am a waitress and want to know why some women are so rude when you greet them at the table with their date.

Question

They act if your taking up all there time?

Answer 1

jealousy and insecurity

Answer 2

Insecurity...plain insecurity. You have to remember that this is their issue, not yours.

Answer 3

Because some people think a waitress is there to be bullied. My advice is to do your job, serve their table, make sure you are bright, friendly and cheerful. This emphasises their rudeness and makes them seem even more unreasonable - not a good impression for their date is it?

Answer 4

those women are just scared you might ruin their time which is the most silliest thing ever

or they are too desperate to even order damm food LOL

just ignore them and go on doing your job gurl !! Yeah for you

Answer 5

Because their Parents didn't teach them any "manners", & their Boyfriends aren't smart enough to ask for "prenupt's". So be THANKFULL you aren't either one of them!  :)

Answer 6

you are probally prettier than them all and they are jealous

they probally think their boyfriend is checking you out

this happened to me all the time when i was hostess...

im thinking in my head "CHILL OUT IM DOING MY JOB!!"

Answer 7

Because your so pretty she thinks you took the job in the first place to take attention away from her. lol. ;)

Answer 8

Here's the trick when you're waiting on a couple: Look at HER most of the time, with a real friendly smile.  ;)

Answer 9

because a lot of women are catty,jealous,self concious, BIOTCHES

Answer 10

INSECURITY.

Answer 11

I am a waitress too, and to be honest with you and all, women are ruder than men.

I get that sometimes too with women, and I think because they are jealous. I always make sure that I pay attention to her and don't look at the man. I pretty much always write that table off for a good tip. But women are insecure.

If you can, give them a compliment. Even though it may be a lie, but it might make them feel better. I usually don't even bother wasting my time. I can be a b--- too! Don't take it personally, take it as a compliment. About the only ones you can horse around with are older men with their wives. But you can tell, because the wife will laugh too.

Just hold your head high and smile!!!

Answer 12

Maybe some of them feel insecure or threatened by your presence. A lot of waitresses flirt and/or are too friendly with my husband when I'm sitting right there. If you are making eye contact with both of them and talking to them both equally, no woman should ever feel bad about you, even if you are hot. No woman likes her companion being flirted with, especially in front of her face...

Maybe you are a very friendly person and they misunderstand you?

Answer 13

I don't know but I bet you're hot aren't you. If you are that might have somthing to do with it. ...Just a guess... Also alot ( Not nearly all) of women are bitchs but then again alot of guys are *****.

See that guy thinks the same thing (look up)

Answer 14

I completely agree with ladylynn. Make the girlfriend/wife (no matter how catty the chick may be) feel like you are more attentive to her. I've been in the service industry for far too long and it's the same for serving/cocktailing/bar tending.  Send most of your eye contact to her, and try standing once step closer to her side of the booth/table then his. There is no need to make any major changes in how you treat either of them just let her have mild priority.

Answer 15

its because they know you are prettier than them.

Answer 16

some people are justn pigs....plain and simple

Answer 17

Well if they are acting that way, looks like you are not getting a tip anyway, so dont do any refills or ask if they need anything else..

Answer 18

I don't know-- I never am but some waitresses think if they flirt with the man they will get a nice tip--I am always the one to take care of the tip-- a waitress should never flirt with a customer who's wife/girlfriend/fiance whatever is sitting right there.

I understand because I happen to have a flirtatious personality myself (not flirting but smiling, talking, being nice, joking whatever-but people take it as flirty- don't worry about it and don't table lean when the wife is sitting close by-) and most waitresses do have a flirtatious personality -it is part of what makes them good at their job.

Answer 19

cuz women have insecurities and they become territorial over their man. the problem is: if their man (who most times is paying for the bill) tips you out a decent tip, she is going to be jealous and make his week a living h**l with her. so she is the reason he only tips out2 bucks or some c**p like that. there are some things you can do to make the female feel more secure with you around her man:

-----compliment her on her jewelry or soimething as long as it seems genuine

-----when taking the order, stand next to her not her man

------dont give him refills without hers also (sometimes this is hard to do so use good judgement (if his glass is empty first, and hers is still at the rim, give him a refill but the next couple times he's gulping his drink down, make sure you include hers at the first sign, cuz most likely she will be touchy and testing you on this.

-----the rest is self explanatory, just be sure to be more aware of her needs than her mans

------oh yea if she has children dont hold your tray over the highchair or over the child period. and you can ask her or offer rather, to put the childs order in first so that it comes out first. or dont ask her just do it. either way it will convey a message.

Answer 20

I am never rude to my server because this person is going to be bringing me my food!  And if I know I'm coming back to that same restaurant, I make sure to tip well.

But to your question, I have had to check a female server once or twice for flirting with my boyfriend and practically ignoring me.  Some women ARE just rude to female servers, especially if they feel that their guy might be checking her out.  

All I can say is do your job, and be always aware that there are two people at the table.  Don't kiss the woman's @$$, just distribute your attention equally, and always ALWAYS take the woman's order first.

p.s.  and if you can't be 100% certain that she's old enough to be your grandmother, don't shoot yourself in the foot by calling her "ma'am."  "Miss" always works better.

Answer 21

I'm guessing your hot...there not. Jealous! There also probably afraid you'll flirt for a tip...

Answer 22

maybe they had their period don't worry about it :-) some people are just plain rude

Answer 23

some people are just plain S****y

Answer 24

maybe they are insecure around other females or maybe they really aren't that interested in getting dinner (more interested in their date) so it IS like your interrupting, even though your not.

Sometimes I will be arguing or annoyed at my guy and that can come across to the waitress or whoever too.

It's not you problem, its theirs!

Answer 25

NO my guess would be that they are very insecure and your presence makes them jealous......you must be very attractive to  get that attention from the guys. I would take it as a compliment from the guy and ignore the girl, lol

Other than that, the isn't much you can do except be polite and go about your job.

Best of luck to you.

And yeah it sucks people are so rude to those who work in retail or the food industry..

Answer 26

seriously, some people are just rude. all you can do is smile and get on with it. if she continues to give you grief, ask someone else to take over the table.

Answer 27

they are afraid you will get a big tip from their husbands.

Answer 28

They probally think you want there man rude people.