I am adopted and i was wondering if anybody knew any free websites where i can post who i am looking for?

Question

I've been searching the internet at all different adoption sites but 99% of them you have to pay to get anywheres. I am looking for my birth family. If anybody knows any free websites where i can post a message and hopfully find my birth family please let me know. Im trying to find myself, im trying to find a person to look into there eyes and see myself. Any help would be appreciated

Answer 1

i live in michigan and i found my birthmother by going to the courthouse my adoption was finalized through. i went the to the birth/death/marriage dept. i filled out paperwork to join the adoption central registry.

i took what little info i had. my birth cert, any papers my parents had, everything. which wasnt much, believe me.

what happens then is they enter you in, and if your bio family has reigistered they match you up. the 'case number' at the top of my birth cert was the same as the number on the original that my birthmother signed when i was born.

it was free when i did it, but that was 8 years ago.

the other source i used as lori a (above answerer and my birthmother) stated above was classmates.com. she is right it sounds cheesey, but you know what? it worked.

good luck, i hope it works out well for you.

Answer 2

I totally understand what you are looking for, I feel the same way.

Don't you just hate it when people tell us we are going to disrupt or ruin people's lives?  LOL!   The social stigma against adoptees is alive and well and it just sucks being classed as second class citizens.  

You have every right to know the truth of your origins and every right to search out your people, if you so choose.  Follow your heart and I wish you all the best

There are loads of free search and support sites ISRR is the largest and also http://registry.adoption.com/

Please don't rely on registries for a match though, you would be best served to find a search group and search angels, who know the ropes - there are some here on yahoo you can join

If you need any help at all just drop me a line

Answer 3

why disrupt their lives?

Answer 4

It might sound corny but 2 of us have done it. If you have any information about your nparents, see if you can post it on classmates.com

Their names, year you were born and where you were born, high school they attended, year they would have graduated. If you can get that information you can post a notice on the message board. I didn't have to post there was a death notice with all the information I needed to get me started. He called me with in a few days.

Answer 5

can you edit your post and include the state your adoption was finalized in, i can point you to some free resources most likely :)

Answer 6

If you know the agency that handled your adoption you can start there.  Start with a non-identifying report and see if that provides any more clues as to what direction you should go.

To the idiots that say "don't disrupt their lives", there are many reasons an adoptee may want to locate birth parents.  Unknown birth family medical history is a perfect example.  Living a life with unanswered questions about your birth family is tough, and whether finding them is a good experience or bad experience, it does provide closure.

Answer 7

The oldest, most well known site is the International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR).  Their site is:  http://www.isrr.net/

What state were you born in?  Many states also have a registry. So check with the state you were born in to see if they have a registry.

Contact the agency that handled your adoption and request all your non identifying information.  Ask the agency if they have a registry.  Be sure to let them know you are open to contact and provide them with whatever written authorization they need to release your information or facilitate a reunion if a parent or other extended family member wants to contact you.  

Keep a binder with copies of letters sent or notes about every agency you contact and any response you receive. This helps ensure you don't duplicate your efforts, and provides a road map of sorts to help you determine your next step.  I still have mine from 1983!

And don't listen to Jake (sorry Jake, but you don't know what you're talking about).  My first mom was happy to hear from me. She didn't want to disrupt MY life. So she didn't search for me.  I did worry about how finding her would impact her life. I wasn't sure she'd told her family. Be mindful of all possibilities with your birth family's current situation.

Not everyone has a "happy ending" when they search.  Often, the outcome is one of mixed emotions. Mine was, even with my first mom happy to be found.  I waited 3 months before sending my first letter to prepare myself & be sure that I could handle having a door slammed in my face, knowing the door was being closed on her past & not on me personally. Searching is a roller coaster ride of emotions. So have a good support system for yourself! That said, it was the best thing I've ever done for myself.  

Send me an e-mail and I'll be happy to help you find who to contact.  

Good luck!

Answer 8

you konw, i dont understand why you want to look for your birth family

being a parent to a kid is not just about giving birth to them

ask yourself, who was there for you when you fell and cried? who was there for you when you first got your heart broken (assuming you had a relationship)? who paid for your clothes? who was there to talk to you and love you??

i would assumre it's your current family LOL

your current parents LOL

looking for your birth family like this might hurt your current parents, as if they wren't doing good enough?

just b/c someone give you birth doens't mean they are parents to you LOL

appreciate your current parents

and stop thinking about birth parents

what would you gain out of it? trying to find out why they give you away?

seriously

appreciate your current parents