I am afraid of starting high school?

Question

I am 14 years old, I am going to be a freshmen. I have never gone to a public school thats HUGE! I have been to 3 schools in my life, a charter public school, a private 3 day a week school, and a regular private school, it was pretty big but I was in 5th grade and more than half of my classes were in the same room. I home schooled this year and it was really easy obviously. So basically i am a little afraid of going to a high school, when the last time I went to a big school was 5th grade. I am mostly afraid of small things, like on the bus what if I have to move and I don't like fighting, what if I cant find a seat or someone says no when I sit next to them. And the same thing at lunch, or if I cant find a class or get there late, or someone tells me to go the wrong way. I am also afraid that I will get beat up alot, because I am very shy and I wear eyeliner and tight clothes and I have the emo look. I look the way I do for a reason but I don't wanna get hurt because of it, will I?

Answer 1

Relax. You're freaking out way too much.

Public school's aren't like movies and books portray them. Trust me, you won't get beat up, and people most likely won't go out of their way to make you miserable unless you go out of your way to upset them. You'll be fine, trust me. Just don't act like you're better than people because you've been to private schools all your life, because your not. Be nice to everyone, and don't talk bad about anyone, especially before you know them. Be yourself!

Answer 2

Dont be worried man , just dont act like a fool and just be a nice guy to everyone and everything will be fine , i respect that you don't fight, and if someone wants to fight just walk away, if someones annoying just ignore them they will give up, dont talk back unless you want a knock to the face, but try to communicate a bit so you can make some friends, ask the teachers and anyone im pretty sure they will help you ! GOOD Luck bud.

Answer 3

Highschool is never easy.

I can say that most of the things you are nervous about will be over within the first week or so.  It takes everyone a while to get used to a bigger place and you won't be alone.

Just be who you are and be friendly at the same time.  If you smile, chances are no one will mess with you.

Answer 4

Some of the things you write about are things every freshman will face. Finding your social footing during the first year is daunting. Even people who have a group of friends going in are jittery. From what I've seen, those groups rarely ever last. Try not to worry about that too much. It might not seem like it, but most freshmen feel the same way about that.

And since it is a big school, it might take you a while to find them, but you're bound to find people you click with. And don't worry. It takes everyone time to find their place.

Being late to class isn't the end of the world. Can't finding a class is normal. Sticking out like a sore thumb is going to happen. Freshmen can be spotted a mile away. You just have to keep pushing on. Things get better, and I'm positive they won't be as bad as you think they will be.

You'll do just fine.

Answer 5

Aw, high school's not as bad as you think. A lot of people who have always been in small, private, or home schools think public schools are overriden with violence and stuff, but that's not true. I've gone to public school all my life, and I am very shy and haven't ever been beaten up, lol. I wouldn't worry about that, as long as you aren't like starting stuff with people. If you can't find a class and show up late, you won't get in trouble for the first week or so of school. They will cut you some slack, especially since you are a freshman. About your clothing, there are all kinds of groups, especially in a big school like that, and there will be lots of people that dress like you. :) You will find someone to sit with on the bus and at lunch, there will be lots of nice people, and other freshmen who are new to the school like you are. Just don't worry too much about it too much, just be yourself and be friendly to the people who are friendly to you, and you'll be just fine. :) Good luck!

Answer 6

When I started high school, I was so nervous I literally had panic attacks. I had to wait outside of school to go in to catch my breath because my heart was racing so badly, I felt like throwing up. Every time I had to go to my next class, I pretty much ran because I was so scared of getting detention for being late. I was nervous about everything. I didn't really talk to anybody but finally when I did, it was great. You have to remember that there is going to be a lot of kids in your school and all of them are nervous, it's a big step.

Ask teachers or faculty members how to get to your next classes. What I used to do, was write it in down where each class was and how to get there. I would have it all written out, depending on the day. If you get lost, you can ask an older student there will be plenty who will gladly help you out or one who's in your grade who will be in the same boat as you are. If you're late for class, trust me, the teacher will cut you some slack since it's your first couple of days.

In order to not be late, just watch the clock and have your things packed up. This way as soon as the bell does ring, you can just pick up and leave.

And I GUARANTEE you will not be the only one there with the "emo look" so you don't have to worry about that. I'm sure the bands you like will be popular with a lot of the kids.

One thing that I did, since you like music, was to sign up for the band. I didn't really play any instruments but you learn as you go and if you do play an instrument, then it's a plus. It's a cool way to meet people.

It can definitely be scary at first but I really enjoyed my time in high school. And I wasn't Mr. Popular or a jock or anything like that, believe me, I was EXTREMELY shy. But I met a lot of cool people that I am still friends with.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Chin up, tight lip, you'll be fine. Just remember that u need respect. I had the same story as u. (Homeschooled since 4th grade) and started school in eight.

Oh, btw, the shy ones (like you) tend to be the toughest. The ones that are always talking trash and bullying people are just trying to hide the fact that they are scared.

I'm not saying that you should act tough or try to act like you want to get into a fight cuz that would cause problems and be mean.

Answer 8

As one who grew up in private schools before eventually going to a bigger public highschool, let me advise  you to follow that "old" saying I've heard in commercials not long ago: "Just Do It!"  Believe me that when you're there, even the first days and weeks of the year when you're trying to find your way around and where your locker is and where the next class is, you're going to meet a lot of really  neat people, both students and teachers, that are more than ready to help  you find your way around.  You're gonna love it.  You may get some criticisms, but, don't we all.  Believe me,  you're gonna do great.  Your fear is the only thing you need to be afraid of.  I promise you.  God Bless you.

Answer 9

High school is the best ,of course at first it's going to be a bit hard ,making new friends and all ,but once you pass that phase you will enjoy it.

I finished high school last year and i really miss it ,the craziness and all.