I am afraid that my wife will get post natal depression again. What can I do as a husband.?

Question

My wife had post natal depression with our first child and it nearly ruined our marriage we seperated for about two years after our son had reached his second birthday as she had left him with me up until a year ago when we decided to give it another try my son is now 6 and we have just had another boy. She will go to counselling and try the medical side to help her but what can I do as her husband at home to curb her feelings of dep[ression. Pls help!

Answer 1

She just needs that me-time.  Being with a crying baby 24-7 can just make you a little crazy.

She also needs meds.

That is the reason I had to stop breastfeeding my daughter.  I had postpartum depression, and needed to start taking anti-depressants.

Answer 2

mostly just be there for her. ask her if she needs to talk if you notice she is feeling down. And actually listen to her. If she says " I cant handle this or that", then help with those things. Women usually say what they mean so yeah, just pay attention and dont be selfish.

Answer 3

Try to put yourself in her shoes and anticipate her needs . . .

offer to watch the baby while she showers

offer to change diapers during feeding routines

at night, volunteer to bring the baby from the crib to her

encourage her to breasfeed, it helps create a loving bond

help prepare meals (even doing so ahead of time and freezing them)

give lots of smiles and compliments to mom

give lots of physical encouragement - hold hands, pat backs, arm around her

Good luck!

Answer 4

first off way to go for caring and taking the time to consider how your wife feels. now with that being said thats how u can help her make it clear to her you care for your childs well-being as well as hers dont be afraid to help out with the baby as much as possible and let her know how important she is to you and yes make sure she gets professional help but at home as a husband just try to help and understand her  talk with her let her know you are there to help and that you are willing to play a active role in taking care of your child (assuming you are ).

good luck to you your children and your wife.

Answer 5

Ask her now.  Before the baby comes.  :)

I'm sure she's scared too.