I am an outcast. Is it because of me, or my peers?

Question

I play video games on-line......a lot. I am extremely talented in the computer science field, and that is nearly all I talk about. I have no social life, but it is not due to playing games in excess. It is because, for some reason, nobody likes me. I am hated at school just because I am a "nerd". I am seen by a select few as a smart, kind person, but outside of that 3 person group, I am an outcast. Is it me, or do I just tolerate a bunch of jerks?

Answer 1

Aw hun, it's them ( jerks ) not you. They are just shallow, narrow minded people, who will achieve nothing in life, where as you can be anyone & anything you want to be. The only person you have to prove anything to is yourself.

You are unique hun, would you really want to be one of the sheep, doing as your peers command, wearing the same or similar clothes, shoes etc, like some sort of clone ?

People either accept you for who you are or they aren't worth your time. The select few are your real friends, hang with them, they are the genuine people, the others are fake/false, no hopers.

Good Luck.X :-)

Answer 2

well in my opinion i think it good to be a nerd. It shows that your different. You stick out from people. Maybe not always in a good way but whatever. Besides it wont matter after highschool.

If people dont respect you for you then they're not worth your time or your efforts.

I hope i helped you make up your mind. Your probably not a nerd, just someone the populars like to pick on because they have no real life for their own

Answer 3

Bunch of jerks definitely. People who call others nerds, are just trying to make themselves feel and look better by putting down others for no good reason to improve how they look in comparison. They're losers, who should be ignored. Stick with your friends.

Answer 4

It's not you, It's the people around you acting like d**n jerks.

Answer 5

i dont think it's you, i used to feel this way too and i wondered if it was me or not

and i had to want to make new friends and be social and relax and not worry so much about what i am labeled as

im a lot happier now that i opened up more and tried some things to appear more friendly like not shy away when people try to talk to me

or try to smile more or laugh iono little things that show you're approachable really help

you never know what impression you could give off, but if you try to work at it, people will grow to liek you

ignore all the asshoels who call you a nerd and dont let a******s like them get in your way

Answer 6

i just a bunch of jerks...trust me....i have plenty of friends.......i dont think its rite that people judge me because of what you were or what you do i have friends of all kinds and i dont care what thewy were just about who they are thats what really matters...heck i'll be your friend if your nice...so add me to your contacts...if you want  

Answer 7

Don't listen to them. They probably will have bad lives. You will be one of the people that go to a nice college and get degrees, while they mess up and turn into horrible people. Don't let any of those jerks bring you down. Your life will turn out 10 times better.  

Answer 8

wow u sound just likea kid at my school  

Answer 9

People often fear and ostracise those whom they don't understand.

It is a response that permits them to feel comfortable of their existence by devaluing or denigrating the qualities or talents of others with whom they cannot compete on an equal basis.

Such people you are generally best without in your life : you will develop a network of like-minds and kindred souls sufficient to meet your social needs.

High-school -- aka teen years -- are perhaps the most angst ridden (particularly in social terms) you will encounter.

It's no solace currently, but it will pass.

Answer 10

First off, you're not an outcast!!! From reading this I see you're intelligent, bright and articulate. Qualities you should be proud of..Just simply be yourself....I've been there...believe me...I was introverted and quiet and considered a geek in high school...I considered myself an outcast than as I matured I really began to like myself and realize that I was just as equal as anyone of my peers and deserved to be treated with respect! Those haters have deep seeded insecurities within themselves and their behaviour and actions reflect that! Be confident...you're unique and have much to offer the world..best wishes :)

Answer 11

In my opinion, your better off without these "other" people.  The last thing you need is to have your life cluttered with a bunch of silly shallow people.  

Count yourself lucky that you have these few quality friends.  

Answer 12

Alright go find some other friends who play the same games as you and go lan with them. then they will at least be ur grp of friends , btw what games do u play? do u play dota?  

Answer 13

No your not a out cast. They are nervous about being around a smart person because they feel dumb about themselves. You do not need friends like that.

Answer 14

its probably just the jerks at your school

Answer 15

it not you its the people at  your school but its not just at school its like that when  you get out ls dumb people will always same something you do is stupid especially when they don't know nothing about it . but we do they like girls,hair , sports  cars and nothing else  you like computer science who's the smart one but think about this who will be the one with the money in a few years , i wish i had the bank account of the person who thought of grand theft auto

Answer 16

its half half you need to  get out more and act normal around new people you meet n it would be smart if you didnt talk about your games you play on the net but just talk about your fav actor/actress and things lyk that but

dont listen to the other people around you your unique and thats all that matters.

Answer 17

try to be more versatile read books, try a afterschool activity and talking about videogames all the time may be kind of annoying but dont change completely dont forget who you are just try something new or do something new and see if you like that an talk about your family pets but mainly it sounds it's them being haters, ask for those three people that like you phone numbers invite them over and watch a movie or play videogames  

Answer 18

Just based on what you wrote, I'd say it's probably a little of both.  You say all you talk about is computer science.  Most people don't enjoy hanging around someone who only talks about one thing.  Maybe you should make an effort to be a little more well-rounded.  

On the other hand, people do tend to be very judgmental and would rather label someone than understand them.  My advice on that front is to try to be understanding of their lack of understanding.  It will be good for you and for them.

Don't worry about what people think about you.  Concentrate instead on what you think about yourself.  If you think you're an interesting, intelligent, well-rounded individual, and other people have a problem with you, then it's just that.--THEIR problem.  If you're happy with yourself, then the rest should take care of itself.  People are attracted to self-confidence.

Answer 19

It is not you. You sound cool. Yes, you are different from other people, but personally I prefer to be different from the "populars or jocks." They are superficial, egotistical jerks, and I don't want to be accepted by them if the only reason they want me is because of my clothes or how I look. If people don't like you, it is their loss, because you'll grow up and be their boss, and then they'll be like, "Ah, c**p, I should've been friends with him." But they won't have, and then they'll feel bad. You should be who you are because that's who you were born to be. You shouldn't change because a few people don't like you. Stick with the people that do like you, and you'll be happy through school. I'm a girl, and I think you sound cool. I don't care if that makes me a dork or a nerd, I'm not going to sink down to the "populars" level. Don't worry about them, I think as we get older it won't matter, because we'll all find a group we belong in, and then we'll be happy. So I understand that you feel like an outcast now (trust me, a lot of us do.) but I think the stage will pass. I think there will be a time, when there is a group for outcasts, and we have fun being who we are, because we can be who we are confidently and not be self concious because a few of the "populars" say we're dorks. You should be confident about who you are, because it's not your fault, it's theirs. Hope this helps!! :) :D

Answer 20

trust me people can be jerks.

Answer 21

they r just huge jerks!! u sound really nice and when u get out of school ur gonna be ALOT cooler then the rest of them. Just keep ur chin up. Nerds (or at least the ones i have met) r actually a lot of fun!!just ignore them. they r not worth ur time.

Answer 22

Probably a little of both - people see you as a nerd at school because they have stereotyped you as a computer wiz - you have responded by being one - but you are not an outcast.

Ask yourself, "From what am I outcasted?" If it's the "in" crowd, then you are not missing much. These kids spend so much time being cool that they have no time to learn valuable things like computer science.

Just wait a few years.

Very soon, this group from whom you think you are excluded will be coming to YOU for advice.  

Answer 23

i think its your peers..

i know because im in highschool.. i have alot of friends. but i can see peole like you get rejected by others... and i feel bad.

i can't change your peers but try talking more, be more social and make jokes (but dont be annoying about it)

good luck!

Answer 24

Be who you are.

<3

Answer 25

Jealousy will get THEM no where Form a brotherhood of nerds and consider your self lucky for that kind of lead in life...Stun the world

Answer 26

I am married to a nerd and I love him for that. He is smart and very kind. He is not very popular but I think it is because he is anti-social. We are total opposites. Be sure you will find someone that will appreciate your talents and accept you for who you are. Stop obsessing about what other people think and enjoy who you are. You are wasting a whole lot of time and healthy life thinking and worrying whether people accept you or not. You are a wonderful person and the proof is that you were gifted with life! You are deserving of all that you dream of and be sure you will have it. Just believe and have faith. Learn about the Law of Attraction. I recommend: "Ask And It Is Given" by Abraham-Hicks, "A New Earth" and "The Power Of Now" by Eckhard Tolle. Taking a break from playing online will only help you appreciate it more without feeling guilty about it. I hope that helps! Good luck! :)