I am at my whits end... please tell me what to do....?

Question

I am a divorced dad of two wonderful boys that I have part-time. I have been divorced for over two yrs. and feel ready to date again, but I am experiencing a bad dry spell with no light in sight. I am not bad looking and am a sweet guy. I am one of the very few romantics left. I do enjoy all the things that most women want in a man, but all I see in women nowadays is that they want great-looking, tall, dark and handsome with money. Don't say that is a lie. I am so sick of seeing nice normal women falling for guys that just make them cater to them. It goes both ways....I do want someone that shares the same feelings about each other...that you just need to see them or hear their voice or do something nice for them just to let them know they are loved or cherished. This is stupid, I sound like a greeting card, but I really want to share my life with someone, but afraid she will never look my way....

Answer 1

Sounds like you are looking for a church girl. Go there. 4th row back, 3rd seat from the isle..

Answer 2

one thing is still unclear after reading your blabbery post - do u have money or not? cos if u don't u may stuff your romance u know where or u may fall in love with an ugly woman.< and fat. they probably re not that picky, thou i wouldn't know, i am neither. but if a woman is gorgeous she knows she deserves the best - yes, handsome, tall, with money. and who will treat her nice. and yes, there re men with money who re handsome and treat their women nice. my husband is an example

Answer 3

You do sound really sweet.....but women want what they can't have.

Answer 4

My best advice to you is to enroll in ballroom/latin dancing classes.  Woman absolutely love to dance!  I had my pick with a ratio of about 10:1.  That's 10 women to every guy!   These are classy women I'm talking about- not your pick up bar types.

Oh and I just about forgot- develop female friendships.  It's the friendships that give you both a chance to seriously get to know each other without strings attached.  It is friendships that have the best chance of evolving into serious relationships.  Why?  Because the "check list" has been scrapped and there is no pretense.

On-line dating encounters and ads usually crash because both have their little mental check lists.  They are systematically running through it on the first date.  Sometimes you will not even get past the 3rd check of 100 expectations before she's already decided that you don't make the shortlist.

Be patient with yourself.  This sort of thing takes time.  Also remember that you have 2 children already which means you come as a package.  Some women do not want an instant family so your field of choice is narrower.  That is just the way it is.

Answer 5

Try branching out some.  Join clubs, singles group, church groups, take up hobbies etc.  Look for a woman who isn't the prettiest one around.  Find out more about her.  Try talking to a woman with the idea of developing a friendship first.  All of these can improve your chances of finding someone to share your life with.

Answer 6

I dod not go for tall dank.... I married someone who is my best friend.