I am being harassed at work...please help?

Question

Hello....a guy at work who moved to our section recently (after he was allowed to leave the previous section, a call centre after 3 months....and it is very rare to be released from the call centre until you have done 12 months so we knew something was up with him) he just stares at me and walks up behind me and i say 'yes can I help you' and he says 'no' then slowly walks off....he always interrupts peoples conversations...he said to me once 'Nat it is so funny for me how you are so gullible' I said 'it isnt fun for me thanks' he said it is for me.....then he keeps saying 'when are you leaving Nat when are you leaving...because I had an interview for promotion and he assumes if i get it i will have to move to another section' then we went for drinks some of us girls on Friday after work and he came up to me and sarcastically whispered 'thanks SO much for inviting me to drinks you really know how to make me feel part of a team' i said i didn't invite anyone' and he said you all invited each other...then angrily walked off...I want to complain about him is it ok if on Monday I say to him you harassed me out of the workplace and make me uncomfortable please do not talk to me unless you have a work related question....?

Answer 1

If you included everything you wanted to in your question, then you are being a little uptight. Sounds to me like this guy just wants to fit in and you're not even giving him the time of day. Instead of going up to him and telling him he makes you uncomfortable and not to talk to you unless its work related, you should go up to him and tell him that you are rude and think you're better than everyone else so please leave you alone until he hits a 7 or 8 on the popularity bar!

Redeye, What in the world did you just say?

Answer 2

There is a fine line between being annoying and harassment. From your description, he has not yet crossed that line.

Answer 3

Go to your supervisor, and come right out and ask him WHY did this guy get transferred over to your section? If the Super says it's non of your business, then tell him about the things this guy is pulling, and that he makes you uncomfortable, and others too! AT work and off! Don't approach the guy himself! This guy seems to have a few lose screws! If the super just says ignore him, you tell him, if it continues and you don't do anything about it, you are going to have to go to the police.  That means the company will be involved!!

Answer 4

I admit the following around is a bit creepy but maybe he just needs a friend. From what it sounds like he just wants to be included and actually noticed you enough to hope to form a friendly relationship. I agree with the person above that you do sound a bit uptight, I think when he called you gullible he was just trying to tease you or make a bit of fun of what was probably a awkward moment for him. Try giving him a chance and maybe being a bit social back, it sounds like he is trying to strike conversation..maybe not how you would or your friends but rather the best way he knows how. Try walking in someone elses shoes before judging them.

If it really bothers you then file a work complaint with your boss or even

get a restraining order, however I think you should try to get to know him better, he just wants to be accepted and not everyone can think/act the same way you do.

Answer 5

.   He is weird and he has a crush on you.  Not a good combination. File a clear letter with your boss on Monday. Tell only the truth and no exaggerations.  He won't be sticking around long.

Answer 6

That sounds fine ,but also tell him that if he continues to bother u you'll make a complaint against him to your boss.

Answer 7

Based on what you have written I don't see anything that would rise to the level of harassment.

if you feel uncomfortable; yes make your statement on Monday to him.

Then he will realize that something is up with you.  " A normal person would stay away from you at this point"...

You cant stop anyone from being rude..Being rude is not against the law. e.g. starring...you can mention to him that by him starring at you that makes you uncomfortable.. "Again any normal person would avoid eye contact with you from this point on.

Answer 8

Your got it wrong...his a guy his flirting with you, he whats to date you dont you know when your being hit on? he targets you cause he wants you he stormed away so you say.. oh "his name" come here have a few drinks...3 things you need to know about men.. they will say anything to make you happy. 2 they will do anything and 3rd they will make you feel sorry and you think there open up to you...i say it to my freinds, they say you wanan goto lucnh and i say woah it already our first date?.. its just a silly way to make peeps laugh i guess he has a hard time trying to make him laugh.. ask his freinds if his always act like that..

if his only doing it to and bothers you say ill tell the boss if you keep annoying me... and if he forces him self in your life and bussines just say. i like the movie saw i should try it one day...that would scare the **** out of me if a female said it to me...

Answer 9

if you were out, with all other staff in your section, then you are the one in the wrong, it is harrassment for HIM, being he was excluded, he could also say that you GIRLS were out, that being sexist and excluding as well. Harrassment goes both ways.

If you have problems about his comments he makes -at work- you need to speak to your supervisor as the first port of call. They will handle everything for you, otherwise, concentrate on your upcoming promotion, good luck i hope you get it, and stay away from him. If he comes up, just keep doing as you are doing to make him stay away from you.