I am bipolar. I have a really difficult situation about BF?

Question

I tried putting this question in singles and dating. I just got mean answers.

feel very nervous about seeing my BF after his vacation. He went to burning man. He says he feel emotionally vulnerable. I feel like he can get into a bad mood at any moment. I feel like I am walking on egg shells. http://www.burningman.com/ if you do not know what it is there is the link.

Answer 1

So what.

Walk on egg shells until he feels better. Part of a relationship is being considerate and caring for one another...if you cant be as nice to him until he is feeling back to normal than your relationship isn't healthy.

Talk to him about it, stay calm.

Good Luck

Answer 2

I checked out the site but I guess never hearing of this before and not really knowing much about it I still don't get the point really. But I will tell you what, I have ADHD and I don't take medicine but everyday is a challange for me, I struggle with depression, I'm not depressed but everyday I have to remind myself why I'm here and why my life seems to be more difficult than my friends who don't have a disease or illness. My boyfriend also has something, I don't know what it is.. he's so damned intelligent it's not even funny, but he couldn't remember to do the smallest things or get up on time and be someplace when he's supposed to if you paid him. I think he might have an illness as well and he's going ot start seeing a counseler for it.

I will tell you one thing, an illness like being bipolar is hard enough as it is. And a relationship without any other steps to jump is hard enough as it is, but when you put them both together it's going to have to be worked at 100% of the time and that goes for you and him. If he isn't willing to do that with you and for you then you need to find someone who will. I do a lot of giving with my boyfriend and it does make me very angry when he's late or forgets to do a tast for the 3rd day in a row, but why make him feel bad about it? I'm trying to help him as he's trying to help me and that is how it should be.

I don't know what this burning man stuff is, but it's no excuse to treat you like c**p or disregard how your feeling may be. My boyfriend knows that being with me isn't always easy but there is a quote and I believe it might be from Marylin Monroe

"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best."

Take that quote and run hun, you will find someone that deserves you and you will know he doesn because the way he makes you feel like you deserve him :)

Answer 3

if your bf is being mean to you and you are walking on eggshells and you cant be yourself than you need to find a new bf there are lots of guys out there looking for a cool down to earth girl and willing to treat them like queens if you are that girl than you are a rare comodidy, so bost your confidence and dont settle for less

Answer 4

Why is burning man bad? It's his life, he can choose what he wants. You're the one with bipolar, how do you think he feels? He walks on egg shells with you too. That's not a mean answer, that's reality.

Answer 5

My friends go to that. It effects people in deep ways... You know, if they get it.

Just be supportive. Don't cower away just because he's been off on the playa. You don't need to change anything... Just welcome him back home, and listen to him. Keep communications open.

Answer 6

i  hate the feeling od walking on egg shalls. it's not healthy. if you're bi-polar chances are good that you're super sensitive to peoples moods. i would have had some issues if my husband had gone to burning man without me. there are just so many drugs there and so many s**y naked people. it's sort of like the rest of the world falls away when you're at burning man. knowing that, if anyone's angry it should be you. but that's not my business.

i think you have to communicate really well with eachother and if you can't do that, yo can't be in a relationship. by the way, he sounds like the bi-polar one.

Answer 7

I would talk to him about how he is making you feel.  The more open you are the better a relationship you will have.  Best of luck!

Answer 8

I agree with the prior answer. You don't deserve to feel nervous and definitely not the "walking on eggshell" feeling. If that's the case then you need to either sit down and have a serious talk with him about your feelings-and find a solution. Or you need to move on from him. Having negative people doesn't bring anything good. As far as people being mean to you for having Bipolar disorder is awful! It's a condition that many people have and manage fine on proper medication. So don't let that get to you. I don't get the whole Burning Man thing... But its not good at all if he changes after any vacation-shows character traits that aren't good.

Wish you the best of luck! :-)