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I am catholic and my finace has never even been baptized. what church would be best to marry in?

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I am catholic and my finace has never even been baptized. what church would be best to marry in?

i would prefer to be married in a catholic church but would they even allow it? please help!!

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Sounds weird but maybe a non denomination church. You could use a Episcopal one too because they are close to catholic but really sounds like he needs to be baptized. My brother's wife had to do this, Episcopal. But non denominational churches are pretty open and you really should be married with God. Not in a court or something.
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The Catholic Church.

The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-baptized persons. You will have to get permission from the bishop. This is because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge you have ahead of you.

Make an appointment with your parish priest and talk to him about your situation.

For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sections 1633-1637: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2s...

With love in Christ.
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Actually, it is possible to be married in a Catholic church even if your fiance is not baptized or even if he's not even affiliated with a religion.  What you have to do is get a dispensation from the bishop in charge of your diocese - your parish priest can help you with this.  Usually in order for it to be allowed, your fiance will have to promise to raise your children in the Catholic faith.

Y'know, there's always the possibility that he may be willing to convert - have you discussed this with him?  Usually RCIA classes begin in the fall and the adults are baptized/confirmed at Easter time.  If your fiance is willing, then your parish priest can guide him towards the steps he needs to take to make that happen.  It's kinda like the part in My Big Fat Greek Wedding when Ian agrees to be baptized in the Greek Orthodox church because he knows how much it means to Toula and her family that she be married at her church.  He might be willing...  something to think about.
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This question is asked here ALL the time. I am Catholic. My FI is not and has never been baptized. We are getting married in the Catholic church.

There is a form called Disparity of Cult that you will have to complete in your initial meeting with the priest. You will have to do marriage prep classes. You will have to do all the regular preparation that Catholic churches require.

Good luck. The first step is calling your priest.
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Do what I did on my last marriage...have it in a park. Churches are for hypocrites with hang-ups.
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editted:

My bad on my answer.

However this part still stands: if you're looking for a different church to be married in, try an Episcopal church or a non-denominational church.

Best wishes!
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Hi.  This question has been asked many times.  You are going to get a variety of answers, but here is the TRUTH:

Since you are a BAPTIZED Catholic, you and your fiance CAN be married in the Catholic Church.  You don't even need to be confirmed, only baptized.  That is it!

So many people think that the Catholic Church is sooooo strict on these things....they are not.

As long as one person of the couple (bride OR groom) is a baptized Catholic, that is all the requirements that are needed.

Some may say that your groom needs to convert....NOT TRUE!

Yes, you will need to go to pre-marriage classes (as other faiths require also), but they are no big deal.

So....that is it!
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You should get married in the Catholic church. He does not have to be baptized but he will have to agree to raise your children Catholic. You will have to take classes to make sure you understand what a valid marriage is. Basically you must be open to children and you have to understand this is a lifelong commitment without any possibility of divorce.

If you do not get married in the church you will be able to have the marriage blessed later but you will have to take the same or a similar class.

*generally you must notify the priest at least 6 months prior to the wedding
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You will not be allowed to have a mass, you will have a Liturgy of the Word instead. There are modifications you can make to accomodate the fact that he is unbaptized (the Lord's Prayer can be omitted is the only one I can think of off the top of my head). You two will still have to do pre-Cana and it will likely include an extra session because he isn't RC. He will have to agree to let you raise the kids RC.

Unfortunately, some priests will not do so, and most will not marry you if you don't attend thier church (and are a registered member), so you might be out of luck, it depends on your priest.

Good luck, and best wishes on your engagement.
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You still can get married in a Catholic church. I am catholic and he is Jewish and I git married in a catholic church. He just has to sign a piece of paper but the priest will ask him if he wants to be baptise he jsut has to refuse.
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As long as you are Catholic you can get married in the Church regardless of his never having been baptized.

In fact, the Catholic Church doesn't consider a marriage outside of the church to be valid.

If being married in the Church is important to you, you should be married there.  If you don't, you can always go back and have the marriage blessed.
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It can depend on the priest marrying oyu in the Catholic church that you go to. My sister and I were both married to our husbands in the same church. My brother-in-law isn't and never has been baptized, my husband was Catholic like me. The priest that married us wouldn't have allowed it if he wasn't baptized, but the priest (again - same church) that married my sister and her husband did, but they just couldn't have a "Mass". We had a Mass and took communion. They're marriage was Blessed by the church, but they couldn't have th full Mass. Check with your own church first.
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Ministers & Priests Will NOT Deny Marrying You If Your Fiance Is Not Baptized. If They Turn You Down It's Just Like Them Turning Their Back On Someone & I Always Thought Christianity Was About Helping & Welcoming People.

There Are Sooo Many Different Things That Can Be Said At Weddings, They Don't Have To Be Insanely Religious.

Good Luck.
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