I am confused what career I should settle down for the rest of my life?

Question

Due to lack of self esteem I missed many good job opportunities. I worked in different line of job before, I didn't stay long, quited and searching for another job again. I quited my job in Canada and came back to Malaysia and quited a good job as a Flight Steward just because of fear in me which I regret until now otherwise I'm flying around the world by now. Oh ya I just passed the first airline interview but failed the second interview I guess it's due to my age. I just don't know what to do now as I am approaching 35 now, time flies and I didn't seem to achieve something that I proud of. I try to stay positive or else I begin to hate myself for being so useless. I am envy those with disability and yet they could achieve so much. For now, I love to sing but not to to the extent of become a pop star but to expose myself for more experience but I don't know where to start, is it too late? Maybe I can sing for charity. I am clueless what to do with my life now. I have nothing to be proud of and eager to do something meaningful for myself as a human. Please help as I need someone to guide me showing me the right path I should go, I don't want to sink myself in depression. I m seeking an active, energetic, positive and meaningful life. Really appreciate your help. Warmest regards.

Answer 1

Don't worry about failing those interviews! They sound like they are the kinds of jobs that would have many people applying for them so don't take it personally if you didn't get them. Don't regret not taking that job either, you did not feel comfortable with it at the time, so you did what was best for you at that moment.

I think perhaps you don't necessarily know your own strengths, possibly because you haven't given yourself the opportunity to find them yet! Don't think that being 35 means you should have all the answers, we all learn about ourselves as time goes on and that's a great age to be thinking about what you really want to do, rather than being stuck in a job you hate being unable to get out of it!

Have you ever thought about taking some courses, maybe something you've always been interested in, just to see how it goes? That would help improve your self-esteem too, doing something you've always enjoyed. You should definitely sing if you enjoy it, there are lots of groups that you could attend, or if you prefer solo, seek out opportunities, like you said you could start with charities and then who knows?

You could also speak to someone about your fears of flying, you might find yourself re-applying for these kinds of jobs but even if you didn't want to I think that would help your confidence. There are lots of groups that can help improve your self-esteem, your directory would get you in touch with many I'm sure, and people who work there are trained to help get the best from you- I would definitely recommend it.

I bet you have loads to be proud of, you just haven't realised it yet- think about how much work it took to get you to that interview that you passed! That's great that you stay positive, keep up that attitude and you'll achieve what you want from life. I wish you the best of luck! :o)