I am curious as to wny so many people on yahoo answers and mainly women usually in the pregnancy section?

Question

are so rude and nasty with their answers this is supposed to be a place where people can ask questions and get answers from people who know or have been there done that. I say if you haven't got anything positive to say in regards to a persons question not to say anything at all!

Answer 1

dido!

Answer 2

Amen well said.

When I first read your question I thought you were asking why it is that so many woman on Y/A are in this section? As in talking all the time. Well I was all so ready to post my answer and say we have all been pregnant before, trying to get pregnant or are pregnant and we all come here to discuss these issues. It's like a support group.

Needless to say I guess that answer isn't going to be best answer this time around. :-)

Back to topic on hand I think they are rude due to most are kids playing around and they just answer to get the two points and move on. Whereas most of us like myself are on here to help others and could careless about the point system.

Answer 3

i agree,

but most are on here day after day and you start to see the same questions over and over and over it it get a little frusterating when you see people that dont use common sense. like the "am i pregnant question"  i reply with the same answer..take a test..

i think most try to be nice and as helpful as possible but everyone has there days where they ust have to say something

Answer 4

I completely agree with you.  I actually used to go to a different site similar to this one, but more specific to a certain topic.  At that site, we could create our own "signature" which could be anything that didn't break the rules and wasn't more than three lines long.

I chose my signature to be:

If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all

Why?  Because I just kept seeing people answering with rude comments.  Not only were the comments outright rude or mean, they didn't answer the question in any way.

I stopped going to that site because people starting commenting on my signature stating such things as I was trying to control their freedom of speech, etc.  I became so disgusted with the site that I just stopped going to it and trying to help, even though it was a subject that I am very good at.

For my part though, I have actually only asked two questions on this site and the people were kind, if not helpful.  But I have been given many thumbs down even for answers that I positively knew were correct and even when someone else followed my answer with the same answer and yet they were not given a thumbs down!  lol!  Oh well -- people can be silly I guess.

ETA -- I started reading the other responses and I wanted to say something that maybe people could think about and try to change.

At the other site, there was no such thing as a thumbs down.  There was either a "Rate Post Beneficial" (basically like a thumbs up) or Report Post if it broke rules.

I honestly feel that Y!A should think about getting rid of the thumbs down and just leaving the thumbs up and the Report Abuse or whatever it says for the Report part.

I remember many times clicking on the Rate Post Beneficial if I thought the answer was good, nice, funny, etc. and only very rarely ever hitting the Report Post button.  Really, why do we need to give thumbs down?  If we disagree, we can state so in a respectful manner or simply ignore that post.  I too will not answer a question that I don't like -- instead of saying something rude, but if Y!A took away the thumbs down as well, that would just make the site a little more pleasant I feel.

Answer 5

I know what you mean, but I can't honestly say I've never given a nasty response.

If the question is legitimate, I am more than happy to help out, to what extent I can, but I'm not going to deny I am blatantly rude to askers of stupid questions.

In response to positive/negative responses, the only questions those usually affect are abortion questions, and usually the asker asks for 'opinions' not necessarily 'all positive opinions'

But, some people do just try to stir up trouble. I never intentionally do it, but if I smell troll, I won't hold back. I shouldn't have to waste my time reading stupid questions, when I come on here to help people, and receive help in return.

As the above answerer said, if you are on the forum day after day (like me, yes, I have no shame) you do see a lot of the same thing, and it becomes easy to work out who is legit, and who is just stirring trouble.

For example, I helped someone out in an answer to a what seemed like a legit pregnancy question they had asked, I was nice as pie, 3 minutes later they posted a question saying they would "Murder their baby if it was ugly"

Another thing that stirs this up, is when people like myself (everyday forum users) DO respond nasty to troll comments, other answerers just think we are being rude, when they don't know the question is in fact pure bull c**p. That results in a lot of "Dont' listen to the immature idiots on here" which stirs up even more drama!

Answer 6

I try to be as objective as possible if it is something I don't agree with. I hate the rude answers too, check out 2 of my questions today and see the answers I get!

The ONLY things that really get on my nerves are extremist pro-lifers (when they say 'just' give the baby up for adoption -have obviously never had to do that themselves) and the 14 year olds who say they want a baby and they are going to try and get pregnant, that bothers me a lot because I feel sorry for a baby being conceived in much the same way as somebody deciding they want a puppy.

Answer 7

i feel the same way . they are asking the question that they obviously don't know what to do or how to handle it. but people still have to be a-wholes . i don't give rude responses to questions i don't like because i figure instead of wasting my energy typing a rude response i can be answering a question of more importance to me. because net or no net people are cruel and it could hurt.i hate the thumbs up thing too because i've seen some of the best answers and they've been given 7 thumbs dwn then i see the stupid ones get all the ups.

Answer 8

Because people ask really stupid questions.

Such as:

"we had s*x unprotected, can i still be pregnant?"

or

"im 15 and i have had unprotected s*x 3 times in the last few months, could i be pregnant?"

If people don't have common sense, they don't need to be droppin their pants.

Answer 9

Yeah, i agree, some people just "answer" questions for the sake of getting two points, even when they don't know the answer. Or they just write "thanks for the 2 points." It's so annoying! And then others just thumbs down everybody except for theirs, just for the sake of it. They think because they don't know the person it doesn't matter. Once I asked a question and everyone thought I was stupid, and they didn't even read my question properly.

Answer 10

this is very true, i think its because they are so passionate about babies well beings that they thing their way is the right way, so unless you have a non-contraversial question i wouldnt ask it on here :)

Answer 11

today i've actually read somewhere here "dump it (the baby) in a wastebag like i did".

yes i agree. and i also don't  like it when people say "if you don't want to get pregnant, don't have s*x".

when teens get pregnant they need all the help and support...and being this critical and judgemental is not productive. i'm always extra careful how to answer those questions because as a parent i prefer to have a pregnant teenager at home, than a dead one after committing suicide! and some people can give mean answers to such questions.

who are we to judge? it could be your own daughter one day

Answer 12

I agree with you...that only means that this section have poor audience/crowd (not general,ofcourse),ecause a decent and educated person will be more helpful than being rude...

Answer 13

Good question!!! I would add to that, alot of people rate peoples answers with a thumbs up/down and I have seen many thumbs down given to answers which are adressing the question. I think just because you don't agree with somebody's answer doesn't mean you give ity a thumbs down. I thought they were for people who like you said give rude and nasty answers.