I am dating a guy who is much older than I am, (17 yrs)?

Question

now that's not my only problem. He is a widower and has a 7 year old son. He is 6'1" and I am a petite 4'11". Also I'm more educated than he and earn more. Up to now that has not mattered to him.

Yes, we make an odd couple when we go out, but we get on so well. His son and I get on well too. My parents and siblings are not happy with this, because they say we are not suited in lots of ways, and that I am throwing away my future.

But to me those are trivial and happiness is important.

Please tell me whether I am doing something wrong.

Thanks.

Answer 1

Hey I am going through the same exact thing I am 17 yr younger then him. That is nice, but he has a child you may have problems later. If not from one thing then it will be from another. But hey if you love him and him loves you then test the waters first.

Answer 2

This might sound harsh, but I'm going to say it anyways. To be happy in a relationship/marriage, you need your parents blessing!  Trust me, that's important. You can never be happy if you have hurt them. They have done everything for you and you are where you are because of them. Is this guy really worth disappointing your parents?

He may not mind your earning more than him, etc.,  but sooner than later it's sure to surface. Plus, 32 and 50 is a big age gap.

You need to think long and hard. Do a lot of soul searching, and I wish you good luck.

Answer 3

A lot of women like much older men for the following reasons?

1. Make more money

2. Has a house

3. success full

Sorry to tell you this but it sounds to like if you are waisting your time with this man because come on you make more money than him. Please don't tell me you pay his bills.

Answer 4

if you're happy with him then go for it. don't let your family steal that from you. your age difference is big but not too big. it's not like it wouldn't work. and it's great that you get along with his son. that makes things a lot easier.

like i said.. don't let your family get in the way

Answer 5

i am 28 and my boyfriend is 40 and we are grate together sometimes i miss my old life like going out with my mates all the time but id never swap him if its meant to be it will work out for you good luck (follow your heart just go with the flow)

Answer 6

You're both adults, and you're both happy.

Poo bah to all the naysayers, and you kids enjoy yourselves.

-Stuart

Answer 7

if you're happy that's all that matters... unless ur really young

Answer 8

I say that you shouldn't care what others think about your relationship if you are happy that is all that matters live your life be happy.That is all you can do and enjoy it.^_^

Answer 9

wwwwwwwwwwwwwooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwww that's lots of baggage for a 17 yr old but  nothing seems wrong with your relationship except he has low self esteem look at it from his point of view

Answer 10

If you two get along and you feel that you two can potentially fall in love, if not already in love, than you're fine. Your family can't tell you what to do although their opinions do matter. I say just follow your heart.

Answer 11

Marriage is something you should think on the long term. Relationships can break, whereas we would like our marriage to last till 'death do us part'.

In your case I believe you are focusing on the present. The "Now" time. That's how it looks to me.

What's it going to be in 10 years time, or 20 years? He will be in his 70's and you in your early 50's. His son will be in his 20's, and you would've had your hands really full being a mom to him.

I know you are hoping you'll have answers that you want to hear/read, and most of them have given you just that. It's not their life, so think carefully before you proceed any further.

Answer 12

If you are happy, and can be yourself when you are with him...if he brings out the best in you and is your best friend- then honestly, it is truly no one else's business! It is your life, enjoy yourself :)

Answer 13

If you two have an awesome time together - dont let no one stop you.  If he has a child, and he likes you, right on!  I have a bf that is older than me, alot older then your difference, and people said the same exact things about us.  But one you let them know (in your own way) that you are happy and there is nothing that is going to change that, they will eventually rise to the occasion and see that you are actually happy and that you both belong together.  Don't let other people decide who you want to love.  Why must we all be the same height and age?  We love who we love!  Good luck!