I am deeply in love but what...............?

Question

asked a friend about this guy I have fallen out with.I loved this guy.He told me in the past that he was in love with me and that he wanted me etc. but i held back as he seemed to be very flirty with others and I was confused.When I told him I loved him he did not take me seriously for a long time,so I held back more.Then we had a big row and I told him I loved him and he gave me an ultimatum to tell him that once and for all in the cold light of day.I didn't, so we deeply fell out.So I asked my other friend if he believed that this guy was genuine when he said he loved me and he said...'yes he was, but he didn't fully realise how seriously you would take it.You should make it up with him.He loves you as a friend and it is possible that you could be lovers,but he needs encouragement'.

What does that mean?Please help. I'm all over the place and very much in love with the man,but don't know what to do.

Answer 1

You need to grow up before you ask about love....

Answer 2

It sounds like he means that he needs reassurance from you, that you actually do love him and feel the same way. He needs you to open up to him before he thinks you are ready for a romantic relationship with him. Some people are like that, they need to know that you actually do love them, so when he gave you the ultimatum and you didn't react, he probably got hurt. It may be difficult to rekindle the relationship but I think the two of you really need a one on one talk where you can both openly talk about how you feel and where you want to go in the relationship. Communication is essential.

Good Luck =D

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